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I've been trying to improve the eating in our household, and I'd always told DH that I would want to eliminate soda from the house once DD started to get old enough to notice it. He seemed to agree to it at the time - I don't know, maybe he thought I wasn't serious. I've already eliminated it since I didn't drink any while pregnant and I don't now while breastfeeding. I've asked him not to have it at home, and he seems to think that I've become some crazy psycho and doesn't understand why I don't want him to drink diet soda. (I've even told him that he can drink it all day at work, god knows he's there enough, and that's STILL not good enough). I am getting really frustrated. I really do not want DD exposed to it in our household. I am working really hard to provide us with healthy meals and to help DD learn healthy eating and appreciate yummy foods. And I feel like DH just doesn't care. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> He thinks diet soda (diet coke) is good for him because it has 0 calories <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I know it's bad for him, but is there any substantial research out there that I can use to demonstrate this to him?
 

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Years and years ago when I weaned myself off diet pop I drank flavored carbonated water instead. Maybe thats an option? These days if I'm staying away from pop I drink iced tea. That way I can still have my caffeine and sugar fix but its stilll not pop.
 

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Have him make it himself. It takes time for it to carbonate so he'll eventually get tired of the slight work and extra wait time.
 

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I drank diet soda like a fiend, I quit while pregnant but started up again about a year after I had my son. It's a tasty monkey on my back but I am doing well weaning myself (don't drink much anyway on account of the nursing) and I have substiuted italian mineral water and organic italian blood orange soda, both I can get store brand so they're inexpensive enough to drink regularly. One does crave the nasty artificial sweetener but more so I crave the bubbles. Do you do th ebulk of the shopping? Just stop buying it or buy it in the large bottle so it's less convienent than small bottles or cans. Get the small bottles of perrier instead so that may be more appealing to just grab.
 

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I do 99% of the shopping. But if I don't buy diet coke for DH, he goes out and buys it for himself and brings it home. He doesn't like sweet/fruity tasting things, so I don't think he'd drink the flavored carbonated water. Also, camprunner, I have NO idea how to make diet coke at home.
 

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I told DH to research aspartame and when he found something that said it was safe show me. All of a sudden he wasn't drinking diet coke anymore. I asked him why and he said he got freaked out over everything he read regarding aspartame...
 

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oh if you can'y get it out of the house, you could always treat it like beer, you know adults only and explain that it's because it's extreemly unhealthy.
 

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well if you ladies find some really compelling soda-is-evil studies, let me know about them too! i could probably give up all the bad-for-you foods in the world before i would forego soda <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hide.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hide">: and just ftr, if dp tried to tell me to "make it myself" or i couldn't have any, then i'd really think he'd flipped his lid <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"> !! so i can understand your dp on this one.<br><br>
my kids drink sodas (my older two), but not as much or as often as me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: for the first few years of their lives, we just treated it like a grown-ups only thing, and tried not to drink it in front of them so much, so as not to be rude, yk? good luck on this one!
 

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I don't think it's fair to tell another adult, one who is your PARTNER in life, what they can and can not eat or drink. I would pe seriously pissed if my husband decided something I had several times a day was off limits (coffee, for instance). That's not his choice to make.<br><br>
We are going through something similar with soda...my DD is a water drinker and doesn't care for juice, but my husband drinks soda all day and I have Diet Coke fairly often. I am activly cutting back but I just ask him to keep it out of sight and drink it in his office or not around here. I think that's fair. I have a slight junk food addiction that I don't want to dump on my daughter so I don't eat my PMS junk where she can see me. I save it till after bedtime.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Have him make it himself. It takes time for it to carbonate so he'll eventually get tired of the slight work and extra wait time.</div>
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i have a soda-maker.<br><br>
it takes all of two minutes to make a liter of diet cola...if even that. pour in water, stick in machine, pump three times...and add the syrup.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't think it's fair to tell another adult, one who is your PARTNER in life, what they can and can not eat or drink. I would pe seriously pissed if my husband decided something I had several times a day was off limits (coffee, for instance). That's not his choice to make.</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't think it's fair to tell another adult, one who is your PARTNER in life, what they can and can not eat or drink. I would pe seriously pissed if my husband decided something I had several times a day was off limits (coffee, for instance). That's not his choice to make.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> i would hate if dh suddenly told me i couldnt have my specific more expensive milk or my special dark chocolate. You have to let him make the change himself, and just have him try to curb it around your dd if shes awake or tell her its adults only.
 

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I understand not wanting her child to see her DH drinking soda all the time, though. That's why my DH and I really worked on stopping all pop drinking, because our kids were asking for it (and if my mom or his dad were around, they would give it to the kids!!!). I do think it's okay to ask for the sake of the kids if he would consider giving it up. And I do believe that aspartame is bad for kids' growing bodies.<br><br>
I think that it was easier for us because DH really WANTED to give it up, but it was such a habit it was hard for him.<br><br>
Just talk to your DH again and tell him your concerns. I'm sure if you google aspartame or artificial sweetners you'll find a lot of evidence that it's bad for kids, at least! Good luck!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't think it's fair to tell another adult, one who is your PARTNER in life, what they can and can not eat or drink. I would pe seriously pissed if my husband decided something I had several times a day was off limits (coffee, for instance). That's not his choice to make.<br><br>
We are going through something similar with soda...my DD is a water drinker and doesn't care for juice, but my husband drinks soda all day and I have Diet Coke fairly often. I am activly cutting back but I just ask him to keep it out of sight and drink it in his office or not around here. I think that's fair. I have a slight junk food addiction that I don't want to dump on my daughter so I don't eat my PMS junk where she can see me. I save it till after bedtime.</div>
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I guess I don't get that. He wants help on improving his eating habits and lifestyle, but he's not interested in setting a healthy example on the soda and I just don't understand that. He wants me to cook him healthy meals and thus limit what I eat (I'm nursing my DD, I can eat full-fat foods and not gain weight), but it's not ok for him to cut back on something for me? My 10-month old daughter wails because she can't have his shiny can of soda. She's 10 months old! I guess I don't understand why it's wrong to ask him to set a healthy example for our child. If he's at work for 12 hours a day 6 days a week, why can't he just get his fill there? He says he's drinking 2 sodas/day at work. And he still needs to have another one at home in front of the baby? We had agreed on this a long time ago. It wasn't like I just walked up to him one day and said "ok, no more soda for you" with no advance warning.
 

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well if he says he wants help with his eating habits, but is resisting you n the soda thing, then i'd take that as a clear sign that that kind of help is not the kind he's wanting. i agree it makes you sad to see your 10 month old wailing about teh can of soda, but what if it was a sharp knife, or a beer can, or anything else obviously dangerous? you'd just redirect her, right? IMO 3 sodas a day is nothing, and i'm guessing he thinks the same way.<br><br>
i am all for setting a healthy example as much as possible, but you can't cut out every single thing in your life that would be less-than-ideal for your baby to experience.
 

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Is there anything else your DH likes to drink? My DH loves iced tea. I committed to making it every day and he loves it. I make it strong and use 1/2 cup of sugar for 2 gallons. I use the recipe from Hillbilly Housewife. Neither one of us miss the soda, can get a caffiene fix if we want to, it's sweet and is so cheap it's not funny.<br><br>
Even Kool Aide or something like that made with real sugar is better than the chemicals in soda/diet soda. I keep some on hand for when my DH really feels deprived.<br><br>
Maybe lemonade? Coffee Drinks?<br><br>
I dont think it's fair to try to "make" him stop, but maybe ask him and find another alternative that he would enjoy just as much.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">well if he says he wants help with his eating habits, but is resisting you n the soda thing, then i'd take that as a clear sign that that kind of help is not the kind he's wanting. i agree it makes you sad to see your 10 month old wailing about teh can of soda, but what if it was a sharp knife, or a beer can, or anything else obviously dangerous? you'd just redirect her, right? IMO 3 sodas a day is nothing, and i'm guessing he thinks the same way.<br><br>
i am all for setting a healthy example as much as possible, but you can't cut out every single thing in your life that would be less-than-ideal for your baby to experience.</div>
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I agree, at 10mths old shes getting to the age where shes going to cry over anything she cant have, including knives and cat litter etc. They do eventually learn that pop isnt for them if you continue to tell them its daddys or adults only, and redirect. My 22mth old now helps his dad put the pop in the fridge and the can in the recycling without ever wanting a drop.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've been trying to improve the eating in our household, and I'd always told DH that I would want to eliminate soda from the house once DD started to get old enough to notice it. He seemed to agree to it at the time - I don't know, maybe he thought I wasn't serious. I've already eliminated it since I didn't drink any while pregnant and I don't now while breastfeeding. I've asked him not to have it at home, and he seems to think that I've become some crazy psycho and doesn't understand why I don't want him to drink diet soda. (I've even told him that he can drink it all day at work, god knows he's there enough, and that's STILL not good enough). I am getting really frustrated. I really do not want DD exposed to it in our household. I am working really hard to provide us with healthy meals and to help DD learn healthy eating and appreciate yummy foods. And I feel like DH just doesn't care. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> He thinks diet soda (diet coke) is good for him because it has 0 calories <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I know it's bad for him, but is there any substantial research out there that I can use to demonstrate this to him?</div>
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Even if its bad for him (mine smokes so I know where you are coming from) its his right to drink soda if he wants to! If I were you I would leave him alone. No one is perfect after all.<br><br>
We try to eat healthy to the best of our ability but respecting eachothers rights to make their own choices is far more important in our house.<br><br>
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It's just one point. I'm not perfect on all my ideals and goals all the time. I doubt anyone is. I can commit to healthy eating habits and still drink coffee. It's just ONE thing.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Is that not a mutal goal both of you have? It's not the same as giving something up because someone else thinks it would be a good goal for you.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Can he pour into an opaque cup or drink it where she can't see him?<br><br>
My DD gets no soda (ok, once in the ER she had to drink something before they'd let us leave and my choices were 7UP or...something else. Oh, popcicles with dye. I chose 7UP) but DH still drinks it almost exclusivly and I have it sometimes. We keep the cans out of the way and don't drink in front of her and so far (she's 19 months) it hasn't been much of an issue.<br><br>
I don't think it's bad for you to want him to stop drinking soda for his health and to set a good example for your kid. I do think it's just kind of wrong to bully him into it or shame him if he doesn't (we wouldn't do it to our kids, why would it be ok to do to an adult?). Good luck.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't think it's fair to tell another adult, one who is your PARTNER in life, what they can and can not eat or drink. I would pe seriously pissed if my husband decided something I had several times a day was off limits (coffee, for instance). That's not his choice to make. .</div>
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