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Okay, so DH cut his parents off 2.5 years ago now. He told them he needed space, so they proceeded to bombard us with as much contact and smothering as they could muster. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br>
We ended up selling our house and moving and taking great precautions to make sure they wouldn't find our current home. They have DH's SS# and somehow secured his cell phone number (which he immediately changed) and our address. MIL (of course) sent us a card to our new address.<br>
DH got really mad and sent them a cease and desist letter via registered mail.<br><br>
The morning that MIL picked up the letter (within the HOUR), DH's 14 year old niece emailed me for the first time in her life with a "how are you" email. Uh... I think it's painfully obvious that MIL is using this kid.<br><br>
A week later, his other niece (16) emails me for the 3rd time in her life (all other emails correspond with MIL's contact attempts). Now that niece has emailed me again today.<br>
I feel bad because they are nice girls even if they are doing MIL's bidding.<br><br>
The issue is that the IL's don't know about DS and we would like to keep it that way for as long as possible. DH's nieces spend a massive amount of time with their grandparents and it wouldn't be realistic to expect them to keep their mouths shut. I'm sure everything they saw and heard here would be relayed to the IL's.<br><br>
We will not be meeting up with the nieces, unfortunately. The IL's would use them as a way to FORCE their way back in. We've had enough.<br><br>
To this point, we have been ignoring emails from the nieces. Should I just keep doing that? Should I tell them that we don't feel comfortable meeting up (which may cause even more drama)? WWYD?
We ended up selling our house and moving and taking great precautions to make sure they wouldn't find our current home. They have DH's SS# and somehow secured his cell phone number (which he immediately changed) and our address. MIL (of course) sent us a card to our new address.<br>
DH got really mad and sent them a cease and desist letter via registered mail.<br><br>
The morning that MIL picked up the letter (within the HOUR), DH's 14 year old niece emailed me for the first time in her life with a "how are you" email. Uh... I think it's painfully obvious that MIL is using this kid.<br><br>
A week later, his other niece (16) emails me for the 3rd time in her life (all other emails correspond with MIL's contact attempts). Now that niece has emailed me again today.<br>
I feel bad because they are nice girls even if they are doing MIL's bidding.<br><br>
The issue is that the IL's don't know about DS and we would like to keep it that way for as long as possible. DH's nieces spend a massive amount of time with their grandparents and it wouldn't be realistic to expect them to keep their mouths shut. I'm sure everything they saw and heard here would be relayed to the IL's.<br><br>
We will not be meeting up with the nieces, unfortunately. The IL's would use them as a way to FORCE their way back in. We've had enough.<br><br>
To this point, we have been ignoring emails from the nieces. Should I just keep doing that? Should I tell them that we don't feel comfortable meeting up (which may cause even more drama)? WWYD?