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Hi I'm clucky's husband and she is in labor right now going on 16 hours, she is concerned that her cervix (sp?) is swollen, and that the baby hasn't dropped I really need some help, or suggestions, the last she wants is hospital care, but thats all she asks for... she is concerned that she is pushing when she shouldn't be
 

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clucky and dh, I wish I could be more help regarding the swollen cervix. I wouldn't have known if mine was or not. My labor was 17 hours and I had no idea when the baby dropped. I let my body do the pushing -- it was involuntary. If it feels wrong for her to push, she shouldnt do it. Her intuition is her strongest guide right now. If she REALLY feels something is wrong, then she should seek help. But if she's just tired and wanting it over just reassure her that's she's doing great and she can do whatever she puts her mind to. Let her know that other uc mamas are sending her lots of strength right now. I'll go light a strength candle for you and your family.<br>
I was so tired and so exhausted during labor, but I knew everything was okay. If she feels the same, just keep encouraging her.<br>
Summoning up all my positive energy to you. Please keep us posted.
 

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OK, so tell us more, how dilated is she? Is there a midwife with you? Is this her first baby? Just both of you most importantly keep breathing. Keep her taking slow breaths while relaxing the rest of her body. Hand in there, why does she think that she is pushing when she shouldn't be? Breath, breath breath, there have to be some doulas with more birth experience than I have.
 

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RaceKelly -- they are having an unassisted homebirth -- that's the forum this is in.<br>
Clucky's dh -- my dh just told me to ask you what YOUR instincts say. My dh kept checking in on me (I labored mostly alone) and though he was concerned that it was taking so long he also knew that I was okay and the baby was okay. Take some time to reflect on YOUR feelings too and see what they're telling you.<br>
Labors can take a long time and as long as you're both confident (or even just remotely confident and have faith) that everyone is okay then just hang in there.<br>
But if you both think something is wrong, there is no failure associated with getting the proper assistance.
 

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has she eaten, kept hydrated by drinking , gone to the bathroom or taken a shower or bath? any of these may help if she has some flagging energy-- soup or broth is pretty safe. has she been able to sleep at all ?<br>
swollen cervix is usually associated with pushing too early so if she hasn't been doing that then probably not the problem<br><br>
other cervical hold ups if she has had any laser surgery it may have made scar tissue that will need to be broken up<br><br>
if it is her deepest feeling something is wrong listen to that and get help
 

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I'm sorry she's having such a tough time of it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Let us know how it goes...
 

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Thinking of you...hope everything turned out okay. Love to your family....
 

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oh, I'm so sorry I didn't see this earlier. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I hope things turned out ok. I was going to ask about posterior positioning, since that often causes some pressure. It's pretty rare for a cervix to swell so much not to allow dilation.<br><br>
Thinking of you all!
 

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(((( praying )))))<br>
I'm sorry I didn't see this until today. I hope everything is ok. Please post an update when you get a chance.
 

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sending positive birthing vibes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Looking for an update.
 

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Just checking into see how things went! And just so no one (katest.) thinks I'm a complete moron, someone had xposted this at TAO when I saw it, and I had no idea that it started in unasisted birth forum! I didn't even know there was a UBF, pretty cool! I hope everything went well!
 

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Checking in....I pmed you!
 

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Thank you all for all of the positive thoughts! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> We did go to the hospital, but I was completely wrong about thinking my cervix was swollen shut, it was the baby's head I was feeling. When we got to the hospital they checked me and told me I was complete. I had the baby two hours later.<br><br>
I am disappointed in myself for not trusting that my body knew what it was doing. But everything worked out relatively well in the end. The birth was pretty traumatic for the baby, he had heart decels that were worrying the doctor so I was made to push him out quickly. Then they saw the cord was tightly around his neck so it was clipped. Then a bunch of meconium was found in the waters. His apgars were 2/8. He was purple and they rushed nurses from the NICU in and a surgeon just in case. He was deep suctioned for the mec. I got to hold him for a few minutes before he was taken to the NICU for a couple hours because they said he was "grunty" and they wanted to moniter him for infection. But he was perfectly healthy by the end of those two hours.<br><br>
We thought about leaving against medical advise, but we were so tired we decided not to and just stayed the night. I made a mistake when I agreed to have the hospital ped check out the baby in the morning, since we hadn't chosen a ped yet (we were looking into a NMD midwife for this purpose).<br><br>
The hospital ped said the baby had a heart murmur, so we had to stay another night. Then in the morning she said the heart murmur was gone, but since I hadn't done a group b strep test prenatally they would have to do a blood culture on the baby to see if it had it (dispite no signs of infection) because "you're baby might die" so we had to stay at least until 9pm for the results of that and several other tests that "needed" to be done, and she added that the baby might be becoming too jaundiced too (seeming like that was going to be the next in the endless battery of nonsense that they were making up to keep us there) and I had to sign a paper saying that I would get the baby to a ped within the next two days. I did get the baby added to our insurance, give her fax number to the hospital for the records and set an appointment (although we couldn't get one within 2 days) so that they would get off our backs. And then we were finally allowed to go home.<br><br>
We are so happy to have our son at home now, he is more wonderful and beautiful than I could have ever believed.<br><br>
Thank you again, on behalf of both my husband and I, for all of the prayers and help you have given us. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears">: We really appreciate it. Our unassisted delivery will have to wait until next time though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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CONGRATULATIONS ON A HAPPY HEALTHY BABY BOY!!!!!! Despite the idiots at the hospital, I am glad that things are ok. Enjoy your babymoon!
 
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