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DS just turned 9 months the other day. And just started crawling. Everywhere. Really quickly. And pulling up and cruising.<br><br>
For the first 9 months of his life, he fell to sleep nursing for naps and nighttime. Almost 100% of the time. Now ... not so much. He eats until he's full, then pops off. And cannot get to sleep. He really wants to sleep, but just can't get comfortable. He flops around, turning a million different positions; sits up, gets onto all fours, puts his head down for 1-2 seconds, rolls onto his back, front, knees again, etc. This will go on for 45 minutes. In between I try to nurse him more, try to hold him, carry him, sing to him. The other night he finally fell to sleep when I held him close, spoon-style, and sang. But that only worked once. Tonight DH carried him around outside for 30 minutes after an hour of the above bedtime trial (and lots of screaming when I handed him off to DH).<br><br>
He used to nap 1 hr in the a.m., 2-3 hrs in the afternoon. Now he's lucky to get 1 hr total, all day. And nighttime isn't his usual 9.5 hours anymore. The poor kid is beat! But he just can't get to sleep, although he really wants to.<br><br>
We're just not used to this. He's fallen to sleep on the boob his whole life! How can I help him?
 

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It's totally normal, and many (most? All?) babies go trough this around this age. He's getting mobile. He's realizing there's more to the world than Mommy and Daddy. He wants to explore and learn.<br><br>
It'll pass, Mama, it'll pass.<br><br>
What worked for DD was swaddling her arms down while nursing, so she knew it was night night time. She'd get mostly asleep, pop off, and I'd sing and sway with her in a cross cradle position until she was really fully asleep, then I could put her down.<br><br>
Around this age, it isn't unheard of for every nap to be in the sling or other carrier. It's a relaly hard age to get them to sleep! teething, mobility, foods, there's a lot going on!<br><br>
Also, he may be ready to drop a nap.
 

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Another possibility - put them in the carrier just to get sleepy first - then pop them off to nurse once their body has already started to relax and let go of that intense desire to move!
 

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I know it's not a lot of help but I just want to say it's normal <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
When KC was learning to crawl she would literaly crawl in her sleep and cry the whole time. She's not fallen asleep on the boob since. (with rare exception.)<br><br>
The good news is that it mellows out after the novelty of moving has worn off. KC is back to two naps a day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> (dont give up on that second nap )<br><br>
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I'm right there with you. DS has dropped down to one long nap a day (occasionally, of course) but is so incredibly hard to get to sleep at night, it takes me upwards of an hour when it used to take me 20 minutes. We do all of the same things, walking in the ring sling, singing, shhh'ing, back patting. He's just ready to rock and roll or be grumpy because he's not sleeping. It's like having a 4-5 month old all over again. It seems like I just have to wear him down into exhaustion by trying all the relaxation tricks.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">He's just ready to rock and roll or be grumpy because he's not sleeping. It's like having a 4-5 month old all over again.</div>
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Ahhhhh....so this is normal for a 4-5 month old, too? And how long can I expect this to last? I haven't gotten 3 unbroken hours of sleep in 3-4 weeks; a big change from those lovely 6-7 hour stretches I was getting for a while! Any tips for making it through at this age?
 

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Yeah we went through this when ds was learning to crawl, and now we are going through it again as he seems to be getting closer to walking. Its tough! Really really tough. Nerve wracking, aggravating and exhausting. There I said it, I feel negatively toward it!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Another possibility - put them in the carrier just to get sleepy first - then pop them off to nurse once their body has already started to relax and let go of that intense desire to move!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: This is what worked for us when DS1 went through the 9-month sleep regression. We also swaddled at this time, too.
 

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I'm glad this came up. I have the same problem that's budding. Relaxing him is no pleasure cruise b4 bed; DS wiggles to break free and get about <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks so much, everyone, for your thoughts!<br><br>
I knew it was normal, and that it, too, would pass ... but it helps to hear it, and that others are going through it.<br><br>
I have been walking DS to sleep for his morning nap - in the jogging stroller - for a few days now. A 1.5-hour walk, for which he has been sleeping the second half of. Today this, with intermittent Beco-ing when he fussed, did not work. He just got more tired and more cranky. So he simply skipped his morning nap.<br><br>
And then fell asleep while nursing at 1 p.m.! And is till napping, almost 2 hours later! Just because I said he doesn't do it anymore, I'm sure.<br><br>
I've been wearing him to sleep for his afternoon "nap," lately, too. Unfortunately I can't get him out of the Beco without him waking up. So he stays on my back. And will only sleep for about 45 minutes that way.<br><br>
The idea of swaddling this kid is mind-boggling. How do you swaddle a little kid who has just decided what <i>he</i> wants is most important, and he's going to start <i>screaming</i> if you don't do what he wants, and by the way what he wants is to <i>move</i>? But, guess what, I'm going to try it. If it worked for an MDC mama, maybe it will work for us!<br><br>
I'm assuming the aforementioned sudden crankiness/stubbornness/defiance is all part and parcel of the whole nine-month-old gig? DS has been, up to this point, the happiest and most easy-going lad I've ever met. It's so strange to watch him scream in protest at the slightest thing now.
 

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Not sure this would work for you because we have been doing it since the beginning (she never liked to nurse to sleep). I put her in the pouch carrier and bounce on the birth ball. It takes about 15-20 minutes and then I can rock for a few until she is very out and then lie her down. She is fighting so much more now that she is crawling but the pouch seems to keep her contained so she can't fight forever. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
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I too have had success carrying dd before naptime to calm her. If I pop her into a wrap when she starts yawning or acting grumpy, it relaxes her and then I can take her out when I feel her start drifting and she's ready to nurse to sleep.<br><br>
You might also work on building some external sleep associations that will come in handy later on as well - when you sit down to nurse to sleep, turn on some relaxing music ( native american flute and gregorian chant are favorites here). 9 months is a great time to introduce storytime before bed - even if all they do is try to turn the pages and chew on the book, lol, it helps establish a sequence of events that signals "sleep time soon" and aids the transition.<br><br>
DD is ten months and is dropping the two-nap routine some days, taking a long single nap instead.
 
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