Liam (6 years old, just finishing kindy) has some severe anger/sadness/anxiety over kids being mean to him at school. I'm not talking about organized bullying or anything - just comments from other children that he finds insulting. Like, he had a major tantrumy meltdown because a girl said he was funny. Not funny looking, or funny smelling - funny like "ha ha I enjoy your company because you make me laugh." (I was there, so I know how she meant it from her tone of voice, social context, etc). He came home today and broke down because when he was running at recess, another boy said he was slow. Last week, a girl said it was "gross" that he chews his shirts. The girls have made similar comments about him picking his nose and eating it (um, which he does) and eating messy (check!). He obsesses over the things they have said and will talk for days on end about them. He will cry and say he hates himself: . I try to empathize (especially since I know what it's like to be a kid and think no one likes you), and make suggestions on how to handle it, but I feel like I'm handing out all these adult platitudes (like,"just because someone says something about you, it isn't true) or sometimes sympathizing with the "enemy" (like trying to explain to him that some people really don't like to see people pick their nose). Those things don' seem to be particularly helpful, but neither does saying "I can see why that hurt your feelings. That would hurt my feelings to. I can see it makes you angry and sad." I've tried to talk to him about addressing the other children directly or talking to his teacher if his feelings get hurt (His teacher has great conflict resolution skills that would make any MDC mama on the GD board swoon for him) but he is adamant that he doesn't want to do that. I just feel like I talk in circles around him and he keeps focusing on these few negative things (or perceived negative things) that other people are saying, and I can't get him to let go of them. Does anyone have any concrete advice?