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Why won't she poo in the toilet why must it always be in a diaper? This is driving me nuts, I'm so tired of changing diapers!!! She's 3 years old, she's been peeing in the potty 100% of the time for 3 months but absolutely refuses to poo in it. I've tried potty seats and seats on the toilet and she will not go. It's gotten to the point where I feel like I should just say no and not give her a diaper when she asks for it. Please help, I hate this!!!<br><br>
 

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My DS did this for a long time.<br><br>
Finally, we just bribed him big time. Not our proudest moment, but hey- it worked!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
We had tried everything else, and I knew he could do it. Once he knew he was going to get a really cool treat everytime, he started to do it without any hassle!
 

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Ugh. I bribed too. sorry. I bribed with fruit, her favorite food. so at least it was healthy. I HATE to bribe but i was geting desperate. She was refusing to poop in the potty but she also wasn't wearing diapers. She was refusing them and just going in her underwear. So it was necessary in my mind at least. Hope you get some better answers.<br>
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My 2.5 DD also does not put her poop in the potty.<br>
she has been putting her pee in the potty for about a month now.<br>
Some friends used a bean jar as bribery. Every time their child used the potty, she got another bean in the jar, when the jar was full, the child picked a reward!!
 

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My ds is 3 also and has been peeing consistently in the potty for about six months, but he will not poop in anything but a diaper.<br><br>
What really drives me crazy is that about four months ago he pooped in the potty three days in a row, all on his own, without me even trying to get him to and then decided he would never do it again. So it's really frustrating because I know he <i>can</i> do it in the potty he just <i>won't</i>.<br><br>
I have tried bribing him with anything and everything and he won't go.<br><br>
I don't recommend refusing to put diaper on your dd. I tried that with my ds and he didn't poop for several days and made himself sick. I felt so bad!<br><br>
So now I don't know what to do either - I hoping someone has some advice too!!!<br><br>
I imagine though that one day he'll just decide he no longer wants to poop in a diaper and will go in the potty when he's good and ready.
 

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My dd was potty trained and dry for almost a month before she'd poo in the potty. I was sure it would never happen and it was horrible cleaning the poo out of the underwear, but she only went twice a week, so that was not the worst...<br><br>
Then one day she just went in the potty- we praised her and she decided it was nicer to not poo in the underwear anymore and never did again...<br><br>
Good luck!!!!!!!!!
 

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Bribing? I hear this so often. Mine is 3 1/2 and neither poops nor potties in the toilet or pot. It nauseates me to change poop now. But I wouldn't consider bribery or refusal. It will just happen, won't it?
 

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It could be a power struggle. It's one of the few things she can control in her life. With my dd she had negative associations with poop. She's very sensitive and I think she picked up that poop was nasty and smelly thanks to my expressions when I changed her. So she held it to the point where she either got constipated, or I gave her a diaper. When I stopped making an issue out of it (except to compliment her poops in the diapers so she felt good about pooping) she disappeared one day and came to announce she'd done it in the toilet! Just let it go for now. She'll get it.<br><br>
Bribery does work pretty good too. My dd gets ice cream when she poops.<br><br>
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by USAmma</i><br><b>My dd gets ice cream when she poops.</b></td>
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My 3.5 yr old DS pees just fine... but also asks for a diaper to poop. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
Guess I gotta start bribing with ice cream... candy did not work. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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I know we all hear stories about kids completely trained by the time they are two and it tends to cause stress for those of us whose children haven't accomplished the potty by this time or by the time they are three. Honestly, for many , it just takes longer. Sam finally started going poo on the potty in August. We used incentives, encouragement and lots of patience.<br>
We felt the worst thing to do was to make an issue out of it. If he asked for a diaper to do his duty, then we gave it to him and made sure to not say anything disparraging.<br><br>
Sure it is frustrating, but what is more important going when they have to or trying to match an expectation they may not be ready for.<br><br>
It will happen. It may take time.
 

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My dd is pretty fickle and has to keep having things change to keep it new and exciting. So I just buy various treats but right now she's into ice cream. She was getting one bite of it for a pee, a small bowl of it for a poo. Worked great! I know this sounds bad but I also keep in circulation mini candy bars, fruit snacks, and Little Debbie treats. These are very special occasion treats. Normally she gets fig newtons when she asks for cookies. lol!<br><br>
She's now been wearing panties all week and not asking for diapers to poop (because then she won't get ice cream). So obviously something working!! Not even asking for a treat when she pees anymore.<br><br>
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