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And it's driving me insane. He's telling our very sensitive 6-year-old that she's dumb, and that she's bad at everything. He never praises her, only berates her or corrects her. He tells them to "shut up" he spanks them, which I DO NOT agree with. If I say anything about any of it, I get hit, or intimidated, or get my things taken away...like I'm a child. ONE MORE MONTH and I'm OUT of here! Just had to get some things off my chest, hope you're all doing well.
 

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I'm so sorry hon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> STBX acts in the same way at times. I hope you are able to leave peacefully in a month! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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It is SO HARD to sit and watch that happen! I'm sorry you're going through this and hope this next month flies by.
 

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that's really hard, I wish you and your children a safe month before your able to leave.
 

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Glad to see you here, and even gladder to hear that you're leaving in a month. Do you have a pretty good plan in place?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry. I am glad that you are leaving soon though. Thanks for checking in too.
 

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I am sorry for this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I will keep you in my thoughts as you prepare to leave <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">And it's driving me insane. He's telling our very sensitive 6-year-old that she's dumb, and that she's bad at everything. He never praises her, only berates her or corrects her. He tells them to "shut up" he spanks them, which I DO NOT agree with. If I say anything about any of it, I get hit, or intimidated, or get my things taken away...like I'm a child. ONE MORE MONTH and I'm OUT of here! Just had to get some things off my chest, hope you're all doing well.</div>
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Do you call the police when he hits you?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Glad to see you here, and even gladder to hear that you're leaving in a month. Do you have a pretty good plan in place?</div>
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I don't have much of a plan in place...it's hard for me to make any arrangements, he keeps me on a pretty tight leash. I am planning to get a storage unit in the next week or so and slowly start stashing a few things there. I have all important papers in order. I'm not planning to take much, just the important things we will need. I have literally no money, but plan on taking some out of our joint bank acct when I leave...I just hope I don't get in trouble for that. I shouldn't, right? Not if I don't totally drain it? I do have somewhere to stay, a few hours away.<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Yes, I have. They aren't very helpful, you can read my backstory in this forum if you'd like! It's all out there.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't have much of a plan in place...it's hard for me to make any arrangements, he keeps me on a pretty tight leash. I am planning to get a storage unit in the next week or so and slowly start stashing a few things there. I have all important papers in order. I'm not planning to take much, just the important things we will need. I have literally no money, but plan on taking some out of our joint bank acct when I leave...I just hope I don't get in trouble for that. I shouldn't, right? Not if I don't totally drain it? I do have somewhere to stay, a few hours away.<br><br><br>
Yes, I have. They aren't very helpful, you can read my backstory in this forum if you'd like! It's all out there.</div>
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You aren't giving yourself enough credit. It actually sounds like you do have a rough plan to leave. That is a great start! Now you just need to focus more on implementing your ideas. Please be safe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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you can take everything out of a joint account, without getting into any trouble. if your name is on the account, the money is yours. (likewise, he can pull everything out, so make sure you get what you need *before* he knows you're leaving/gone.)
 

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Have you figured out a safe place to go when you leave?<br>
I'm serious, I'm going to crack open a real life bottle of champagne when you leave.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm serious, I'm going to crack open a real life bottle of champagne when you leave.</div>
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Yes, that.<br><br>
It's going to make my day when I see you post that you and kids have left and are safe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears">
 
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