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My FDH (future DH?) and I have had MANY past discussions about circ. I am AGAINST and he is for because "it's hygienic" and "I'm cut and i like it". Battle battle, lots of resources presented plus Penn & Teller's BS episode. He finally compromises with "if the AAP and AMA say it's necessary when we have kids then I want him circed, if not then we won't." (let's not go down that road on debating)<br><br>
A few nights ago it occured to me that ALL of his cousins are male. OH CRAP!!!!!! I feared very much having a baby boy and battling with my DH to NOT cut him into pieces. I knew in the end I would win but it was a battle I did not welcome. Anyway, tonight we talked about it and he said "I probably won't put up much of a fight". I asked if it was because he stopped caring or if it was because he was seeing my side of things. He said it was the former. Oh well, I'll take what I can get!!!!! Besides, you KNOW he isn't giving up the fight about something he was dead set on because he stopped caring...he's definitely seeing the intactivist side of things! Hopefully I can eventually bring him the whole way over to our side! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">
 

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Exactly! Good for you!<br>
My dh was one of those who gave up, but did not really believe until his little boys were born. Then he became far less tolerant of circumcising at all, and today I might even call him an intactivist.<br>
Take the win for now (at least your boys will be protected!) and work on belief later.
 

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Congratulations!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I would suggest getting that in writing, before you get married and/or have kids. You can even include it in the prenup. It is better to be safe than sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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This is how I handled it. I asked the dr, is it okay to wait? Yes, he said, you can come to the ped office and have it done before X # of days. Okay, we'll do that., I said.<br><br>
Hmmmm, that day never came.<br><br>
Yes, it was a bit of back and forths, but I did win.<br><br>
Now, at 8 years old, my husband thanks me all the time for not doing it to him. He has crossed the road and is welcome here. <b>He</b> wants to see it outlawed, and I wouldn't mind that either.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I would suggest getting that in writing, before you get married and/or have kids. You can even include it in the prenup. It is better to be safe than sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:</div>
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No, I totally agree! I actually thought of that not long ago. He wants a prenup so everything will be set in stone JUST IN CASE and I realized the other day "heyyyyy if he wants his prenup so badly, I can stick something of my own in, like don't cut off any parts of our son(s)' penis(es)."
 
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