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hi everyone,<br>
my parter's been lurking on this site for nearly a year now so i figured it was about time one of us joined in.<br>
so our little bundle of joy has always been good at night and recently was sleeping through til 5am or later. however the last week or two he's been waking more and more - it seems like every hour now. my sister reckons he's not getting enough food and we should try some solids. she's not into ap and likes to leave (ignore) her youngest to cio so i don't think this is good advice. he's only 3 1/2 months so, judging by most of the posts on this subjects its way too early. any ideas? my dp is not coping with the lack of sleep.
 

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Sorry to hear about your sleepless nights. I know them well. My ds slept great from 1 month to 4 then he was up every hour. Guess what he got? Teeth! At 4 months! Well, he hasn't slep the same since and is now 18 months! I am weaning him now but slowly he is down to 2 times a day. I hope it helps but I doubt it. He just loves wakeing up mommy! The good news is that you get used to it and it isn' t so hard.<br><br>
Good luck.
 

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Teeth or a growth spurt. If he wants to nurse frequently, just let him, and have your partner offer the breast a lot during the day so he gets more calories during the day (and maybe doesn't need as much at night).<br><br>
If it's teeth (i.e. he's a little or a lot fussy), a frozen washcloth does wonders!<br><br>
Weaning is not required, though.<br><br>
Best of luck,<br><br>
Mel
 

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yep, teeth or a growth spurt!<br>
try some hylands teething tablets, they really helped our dd through the hell of teething.<br>
definitely too young for solids, and definitely too young for weaning!<br>
if he was a little older, i'd say make sure he's nursing A LOT during the day so his little tank can stay filled longer, but at 3.5 months, he's probably nursing all the time anyway, right?
 

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<i>so our little bundle of joy has always been good at night<br>
and recently was sleeping through til 5am or later. however the last week or two he's been waking more and more - it seems like every hour now.</i><br><br>
It is perfectly normal for a baby to wake at night who previously slept longer. Many babies will have several phases like this throughout infancy and toddlerhood.<br><br><b>At 3 months, in my humble opinion it is probably a growth spurt:</b><br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/fussy-while-nursing.html#spurt" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/...ing.html#spurt</a><br><a href="http://www.lalecheleague.org/FAQ/spurt.html" target="_blank">http://www.lalecheleague.org/FAQ/spurt.html</a><br><br>
It could also be due to pain such as <b>TEETHING</b>:<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/teething.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/teething.html</a><br><br>
...since human milk has natural pain relieving chemicals (endorphins) in it. It could be from a sensitivity to a food in mom's diet, especially dairy or caffeine. It could be because of stress...a change in the family routine, death of loved one, move, mom or dad has a new schedule, etc. etc.<br><br><i>my sister reckons he's not getting enough food and we should try some solids.</i><br><br>
So your sister doesn't really believe in or trust breastfeeding? She doesn't know that this is part of the normal course of parenting and breastfeeding?<br><br>
All the experts...the American Academy of Pediatrics, the World Health Organization...recommend waiting at least SIX months for solids. Starting any earlier could cause MORE nightwaking for a 3 month old with an immature digestive system from belly aches. Starting solids too early raises the risk to the child of asthma, food allergies, ear infections and adult obesity.<br><br><i>she's not into ap and likes to leave (ignore) her youngest to cio so i don't think this is good advice.</i><br><br>
Sadly I have to agree with you....it sounds like your instincts are telling you that her parenting style/advice/etc. don't fit in with what your gut is telling you, as a parent.<br><br><i>he's only 3 1/2 months so, judging by most of the posts on this subjects its way too early.</i><br><br>
More about solids:<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/solids/delay-solids.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/so...ay-solids.html</a><br><br><i>any ideas? my dp is not coping with the lack of sleep.</i><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I remember those days well. Something here might help:<br><br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep.html</a><br><br><i>He's Not Sleeping. Time to Wean?</i><br><br>
IMHO weaning is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.<br>
Some formula fed babies do sleep longer since it takes longer to digest, but weaing for this reason is risky. If the waking is from a growth spurt or teething pain, the nightwaking is temporary and will still happen while formula feeding. (One of mine was formula fed and he still had growth spurts where he ate constantly!) And weaning can cause trouble, more than it helps, by taking away the valuable immunities and the easy digestibility of human milk. Although I understand the temptation to wean, I personally know several moms who weaned at 4 to 6 months and then had chronic ear infections, and tummy aches, (and sometimes even asthma and formula allergies) to deal with.<br><br>
101 Reasons to keep breastfeeding:<br><a href="http://www.promom.org/101/index.html" target="_blank">http://www.promom.org/101/index.html</a><br><br>
I love seeing dads coming here to support their partners...nursing moms need all the support they can get. Thanks Dad!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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No don't wean!!! Yes sleepless nights are hard but weaning does not guarantee anything will be different. My son was completely bottlefed and he didn't sleep through the night until 27 months old!! My DD is breastfed and wakes a few times at night so i understand very well being tired but babies deserve to be breastfed, it is what they are meant to do. Can you help out a little more (not to insinuate you aren't helping!), maybe let her take a nap when you get home from work to prepare for the sleepless night. It would also be nice because you would get one on one time with your little one. Or what my husband does is the baby wakes up at 6 for the day but my husband doesn't have to leave for work until 7:20 so he takes her until then and I get some more sleep. I hope it works out well for you!
 

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hey everyone<br>
thanks for all the great support and advice. i think our instincts were that it was just a growth spurt so it's good to be reassured. My partner is determined to bf exclusively to six months at least, so weaning is not really an issue for her right now.<br>
he's been really great today actually, all smiles and cuddles. i've forgotten all the bad stuff already.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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isn't that remarkable how you can feel so tired you want to die, and then in the light of day your child so clearly perfect and sweet and remarkable that you can't remember why you thought you had a problem? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I think it sounds to me like a growth spurt or teeth too..If there is nothing medically wrong like a cold, ear infection and he is growing well, happy then I would think he is either trying to get her supply up or he is teething..Hunta had teeth by 4.5 months so they can teeth early even if they do not cut them that young..I still have sleepless nights but I have gotten Hunta into the habit of needing me to sleep, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">.....<br><br>
tell her to hang in there, she is doing great...It will pass and you all will get through this..
 

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Check out this thread from yet more mamas who have BTDT (or are in the middle of it now!) I think you and your dw will find it reassuring.<br><br><a href="http://216.92.20.151/discussions/showthread.php?s=&postid=778889#post778889" target="_blank">http://216.92.20.151/discussions/sho...889#post778889</a>
 
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