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I posted not too long ago about getting discouraged. We've been ECing DS, who's now 13 months, since about 3 months. We've always done pretty well at catching poops, and OK at pees (maybe 50 percent). I had a two month run of catching every poop and was feeling pretty darn cocky. Then a mild tummy bug and diarrhea, then a trip to New York, and no poops in the potty....but I hung in there.<br><br>
Over the past few days my suspicions have been growing that ds is actively REFUSING to poop on the potty. If he starts tooting (which is usually how I catch poops; I have been cueing sounds and signing since the beginning and he has never actively signalled) I sit him on his BB little potty, and he will happily sit there all day while I read books to him until I give up - no poop. Five minutes later, diaper on, he poops. Or I will see him in the kitchen, doing a little squat (particularly over in the corner behind a chair) and I'll run him over to the potty, but he won't go any more even if he's pooped a little already.<br><br>
What am I doing wrong?!?! What should I do?!?! Give up? Keep putting him on the potty? Do something differently? I don't want him to stress out if I keep him on the potty too long, I want to make it fun for him - but have I made it too fun by reading books to him so he doesn't associate it with pooping any more? He's recently learned to walk (3 weeks ago) and is walking more and more....is that it?<br><br>
Please, I'm begging - if you have any insights or suggestions, I'm all ears!!
 

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You are trying so hard -I feel so bad for you. The only thing that might be happening is that you are trying to hard -and this is a guess only. Hopefully someone with more experience and older kids will chime in. My husband has a bear of a time peeing my son, but I think that is because he runs him to the potty after he pees. I think Liam doesn't trust him to read his signals so he doesn't go for him -even when he needs to. Good luck!!
 

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1) you could try to put the potty in his favorite kitchen corner and just put him on it or even just undress him and show it to him when he starts to go. He is probably able to do the sitting down himself and he may like to be more "independent".<br><br>
2) Maybe your son realized that you'll read to him longer when he does not go. As soon as he goes, this pleasant activity is not continued. So perhaps it would work to just read to him on the potty for a short time and then leave him there with the books to look at by himself. If he get's off - fine, you put the diaper back on. If he poos, you make sure to add some extra cuddly reading time right afterwards.
 

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Freddy wrote:<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Tee hee! I have this problem with two of my kids. DS likes to be read to on the potty, and he will sometimes say he needs to go poop when in fact he doesn't, just to get reading time. My answer to this is that I start reading when he starts pooping (he usually poops more than one time in a given potty visit). Since he is now 3, he can understand this principle.<br><br>
With DD Baby T., I sometimes have to take away all the toys so she will quit goofing off and just pee already.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Sometimes I have to take all the people out of the room also. And this is when I strongly suspect she really needs to pee!<br><br>
But overall I don't worry because the process will ultimately work. And don't get me started on the other wacky strategies I have to get DS to do other stuff, like brush his teeth.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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Thanks for the responses! I've generally been using the BB little potty on the changing table, as he gets up and crawls/walks away from the BB potty downstairs in the living room, but I think I'm going to keep him naked as much as possible downstairs and see if he will bond with the downstairs potty a bit more. I did that this morning and tried really hard to pay attention to what he was doing, and sure enough, we caught a giant poop! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><br><br>
I just have to keep plugging away, and not let myself get so hung up about how many times we catch something....
 

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You have some great ideas here. My DS had a strike from 14 m to 20 m but now happily declares his need to use the potty. But it sounds like your ds may not be on such a strike. We too may be headed for an enterntainment-while-pottying junky so I was glad to read the input given. Good Luck<br><br>
Ann
 
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