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Hey everyone! My baby is here! I just typed up my birth story and uploaded some pics and sitting has me pretty sore. So I wanted to share with you but I probably won't be posting much today or tomorrow. Here's the birth story and some pics.<br><br><b>Sunday, September 7 seemed like a normal day. We ran errands, picked up a couple of gifts for Skylar’s upcoming birthday, and went to visit family. I’d had contractions off and on all day long, similar to the ones I’d had a couple of weeks ago. They were mild and not very long so I didn’t think much of them.<br><br>
As nightfall came, Jay and I decided that it had been a while since we were intimate and we wanted to be together at least one more time before the baby came. Little did we know how right we were! Around 10 p.m., I had taken a first dose of evening primrose oil as Karen had suggested to help tone up my uterus. Skylar was getting tired so I layed down with her to nurse her to sleep. As I did, I noticed the contractions were becoming stronger and more frequent. They still weren’t lasting very long but I was becoming a bit concerned. I looked outside and commented to Jay that I wondered if the full moon had anything to do with my contractions. I’d heard that some women are sensitive to weather changes and thought maybe I could be one of them.<br><br>
As Skylar drifted off to sleep, I was starting to breathe through the contractions but I still wasn’t sure if I should be worried about them. Suddenly, at about 11 p.m. I felt a strong contraction followed by a “pop” in my abdomen and intense pain. It was then that I thought something could be really happening. I knew that many women described their water breaking by a popping sensation. I didn’t feel any leaking so I went to the bathroom to check. I had to pee anyway but I noticed that before I even “tried” to pee, I was already leaking a small stream of clear fluid. I knew it was my water then.<br><br>
I called Karen and told her the situation. I was still unsure about it. I thought perhaps I just had a small leak in my amniotic sac and that it was nothing to be too concerned about. I explained that it was just a small leak and my contractions were still only about 10-20 seconds long. She seemed suspicious and said she was going to call the other midwife and call me back.<br><br>
About 10 minutes later, she called back and told me that the other midwife, Marilee, was not going to be able to make it because she was stuck in Virginia. Karen was going to come down. I told her I was glad because as I was talking to her, out gushed the rest of my amniotic fluid.<br><br>
By midnight Monday morning, Karen was on the road and kept in touch with us on our progress. Since my water had broken, my labor had suddenly gone from 0 to 100 in a matter of minutes. The contractions were now lasting about 30-40 seconds and were only about 2 minutes apart. I decided to sit in the tub but it didn’t seem to help much. However, when I faced a few contractions on land, the tub seemed like the lesser of two evils.<br><br>
I was in intense pain and just when I thought it couldn’t get worse, it did. I started to have doubts about my ability to handle the pain. My rational mind fought with me, saying that maybe I was in transition. It’s common for women to start having doubts during that period of labor. The midwife was not there yet so I had no way of checking to find out. I just had to keep going. After a few more contractions, I was in extreme pain and told Jay that I couldn’t do it anymore. I didn’t want to go to the hospital but I just couldn’t deal with the pain. Jay told me he wasn’t going to take me though. He said that if I did, I’d just regret it. He reminded me why I was doing this home birth and said I was doing great.<br><br>
Shortly before 1 a.m., I noticed that my contractions were ending with pressure on my rectum. I knew this could signal the pushing phase but I didn’t say anything to Jay about it because I wasn’t sure. I wished Karen was there so she could check me. I decided I would do better if I got out of the tub because it wasn’t helping too much anymore.<br><br>
As soon as I stepped out of the tub, I was overcome with pain and dropped to my knees beside the bed. I had labored on my hands and knees in sort of a frog position when I was in the tub and thought that it would be the best position on land too. As soon as I got down on my knees, I hunched over the bed and let out an unearthly primal scream. I felt the overwhelming urge to push like I’d always heard about. I’d never experienced it before with my first labor, but there was no doubt about what I was feeling now. I left my normally serene and calm body and instantly launched into a primitive banshee with each contraction. I felt like I was in a different world now. I had no control over my body anymore. It was only what it was, and not what I wanted it to be. I was who I was and not who I’d imagined I’d be. My contractions came one on top of the other without rest and with each one, I screamed as loud as I could. I didn’t care who heard me, and I didn’t care about being quiet.<br><br>
After about 30 minutes of pushing, I could feel the baby making progress down the birth canal. Jay was on the phone with Karen, who still was about 15 minutes away. Unfortunately, my screaming woke Skylar up at that point and Jay went to go comfort her and try to get her back to sleep. I remained in the bedroom for those few minutes still pushing. Only this time, with each push I felt that familiar burning sensation that I’d heard about before and I knew Elijah would be here soon. Each time, I felt a sting and would feel his head start to inch out but then slip back in. For a second, I thought maybe I wouldn’t be able to push him out. Maybe my doctor was right. Maybe I was just too small and I would never be able to give birth vaginally. But then during that second of a break, my rational mind broke in again and told me that I could do it. I’d made it this far and I was going to get the chance to fulfill my dream. That baby was ready to come and I would push him out. And with the next contraction, I pushed with all my might and I felt another popping sensation. I knew what had happened.<br><br>
I yelled for Jay to come in because I knew I couldn’t deliver him myself while I was on my hands and knees. He had put the tv on for Skylar to keep her calm and was on the phone with Karen. She was pulling into our neighborhood as they spoke. He came into the bedroom and exclaimed out load, “Oh my God, his head it out!” I said, “I know! That’s why I called you!” And in the next second I pushed again with all my might, screaming into my bed. Jay was still on the phone with Karen but he put it down and reached around the baby’s head and gave a small tug. I felt another pop, his slippery body released from mine, and I knew it was over. He fell into his daddy’s arms and gave a startled cry. Jay wrapped him up in a blanket, set him on the bed, and hung up the phone. He left for a moment to open the front door where Karen was waiting. She had heard the baby cry on the phone just as she came into our driveway.<br><br>
I rolled over onto my back and Karen came in to greet us. I layed there sobbing over my new miracle. Karen gave me a hug and laid my son on my chest. I made a joke about what good timing she had and we laughed. He was perfect, although he looked so small. I had forgotten just how small newborns really are.<br><br>
Jay was relieved to have Karen there to take over and let us rest. She checked the baby over and only about 6 minutes after he was born, I delivered the placenta. Everything was intact, including the membranes. Elijah and I both looked good, despite it looking like I delivered in the middle of the red sea which was my bed.<br><br>
His measurements were 19 inches long and 7 lbs. 2 oz. He was born at 35 ½ weeks but I think that the dates may have been wrong. I’ll never know though. Despite all the pain, it was worth it though. I lived my dream- I delivered my son the way I wanted to- the way that I was supposed to. I proved the doctor and the naysayer wrong. While not my motivation, it was a triumph. It was an empowering, inspirational, simply miraculous experience that I’ll never forget. I watched God answer my prayers right before my eyes and I’ll be forever grateful for it.<br><br>
Elijah James is doing well. He has a head full of dark brown hair and is a very quiet baby. He is still groggy so I have to wake him up to eat. But once he gets latched on, he’s a very efficient nurser. He’s so different from Skylar though. She’s long and skinny and he seems to be a bit shorter and chunkier. But they’re both adorable, although Skylar now looks like a total giant compared to him!<br><br>
She’s not sure what to think of him right now. I think she’s still confused and definitely a bit jealous. We’re trying to make sure that we give her attention and trying to be understanding of her adjusting to him. It’s going to take a while though. She seems to be very jealous of our nursing relationship but hopefully that will get easier. I still allow her to nurse before bed so she will still be able to have that bond with me.<br><br>
So we are all doing pretty well despite being exhausted. I’m still sore but it’s getting better already even though it’s only been a day. I’m just happy to have my son finally in my arms.</b><br><br><a href="http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/47b3d728b3127cce8e72aa45b4ff0000001610" target="_blank">http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/4...b4ff0000001610</a><br><br><a href="http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/47b3d728b3127cce8e72a8ad35260000001610" target="_blank">http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/4...35260000001610</a><br><br><a href="http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/47b3d728b3127cce8e72ab4275500000001610" target="_blank">http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/4...75500000001610</a><br><br>
There are more pictures but I don't know how to link to a slideshow. Can someone help?
 

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YAAAAAAAY!<br><br>
Oh, Christy -- do you realize you had everyone's dream birth (on the support circle thread)!?!? How amazing! What an incredible birth! And, I think it's so neat that your Dr.'s office probably received your letter on the day you delivered!<br><br>
Oh, I am soooo happy for you! YAY! You are awesome!<br><br>
I loved the picture of Skylar and Elijah sleeping together. That was the sweetest thing ever! You're right, she looks long and skinny, he looks thick! So cute!<br><br>
Gosh, aren't you glad you didn't go for that US? They would have freaked you out for sure -- a 7#, 2 oz 36 week US would have flipped them out for sure!<br><br>
Oh, I'm so happy for you! Congrats! I hope I can have a birth just like that!
 

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Congratulations, mama! Not only did you successfully HBAC, you went all the way - UC!<br><br>
Welcome to the world, Elijah! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/baby.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="baby">
 

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That IS my dream birth. I so want to begin labouring as I put my oldest two to bed. I want them home with me but don't want to worry about them. I'm so happy for you.<br><br>
I just love the third picture of the two little ones sleeping together. It all just seems so perfect!
 

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<span style="color:#0000FF;">Congratulations Christy, your children are precious!</span> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/baby.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="baby">
 

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Congratulations!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> That is my dream birth too! lol<br>
What a wonderful birth story. I am so happy for you.
 

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Yippee!!! That is SOOO wonderful. So how long was the labor? Just a few hours or like under an hour? I can't get the timeline right in my head. Whatever it was, it was FAST! I love that your mw heard the baby cry while she pulled in the driveway. So funny! And that your bed was like the red sea--no chance to put down those chux pads!<br><br>
And I wonder what all those "pop" sounds were? That's a new sound for me...! Well, except for when the water breaks--happened to me!<br><br>
Congrats, and I hope you enjoy your time with your brand new baby boy! I love his name--my son is James....
 

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Congratulations!!!! He is beautiful! I birthed last full moon!!! What a feeling!<br><br>
Mamasoleil/samson<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hippie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hippie">
 

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Your story has me bawling!! YAY!! I am so happy for you and the wonderful experience you've had! You are such an inspiration to me. Way to go, YOU DID IT!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hearts.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hearts"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hearts.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hearts"><br><br>
Your babies look so precious together. Congrats!!
 

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Wow!! You sure did show them! And proved to yourself your body could do what it was designed for, and when your heard the ugly voices for a moment in your head, still you pushed on - what an amazing momma you are <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Thank you so much for sharing, you really made my day!! It just fuels that extra passion I need to share with mommas in real life that they too are not broken, and they can find that power within themselves. Enjoy your babymoon!!<br><br>
PS - guess you might put UCAC in your sig now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Congratulations!!!! I am sooo proud of you!!! Thank you for sharing your story! It made me cry! Your writing is very real. I felt like I was there with you!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Congratulations! What a beautiful birth.<br><br>
WTG on not only having an HBAC but a UC after c/s. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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