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Hi! I am 20 weeks pregnant with my 3rd and a VBA2C!!! Before I became pregnant I learned about MDC and found my way to this forum. At first I was kinda in shock and amazed about women having UC's (in a good way).As I read more it felt right. I decided that this would be my easiest and most laid back pregnancy I have had...and it has been. I've really been trusting myself, my body and my baby. I eat healthy (except when I go out to eat w/a good friend<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">). I eat organic/raw foods, have fun w/my family, keep stress out, and just enjoy growing this little one. I feel great about it.<br><br>
So, I have interviewed about 5 midwives here in Dallas who are supportive of me having a VBA2C. (anyone who showed any signs of doubt on the phone was a NO!). I don't know if I'm trying to find something wrong w/them<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> or if I really haven't found the "right" one, but I am still going solo on this!<br><br>
I had a sono at 12 weeks during an interview b/c the midwife thought something was wrong (long story). We weren't "planning" on having any.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: And everything was ok, like I thought. Then, I thought I had found the midwife for me, but when we went in for the prenatal things were different and my dh and I did not think she had the confidence in herself or the belief in me. That won't do. I WILL NOT COMPROMISE! So, we had a visit. She measured, we heard the heartbeat and she tested my hemoglobin which was exceptional. I refused the blood test and being weighed. We are in great health...I already knew this of course! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
So here I am at 20 weeks not wanting to hire a midwife<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">, but not making that final decision to UC either.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Hmmm. Dh is supportive and open to a UC now (after me talking about it off and on for 4 months!) We have educated ourselves about our bodies (dh in chiro school too) and of course would educate ourselves more. When I visualize my birth I only see a very good friend of mine, dh and my 2 dc there....no midwife.<br><br>
What's holding me back? I've had 2 c/s. My last home labor was very long and very painful and no dilation (we now think it was scar tissue on the cervix). The midwife was NO help at all!!! So maybe I question if I will need good support and will regret not having it?!<br><br>
Thank you for reading. I've been wanting to post here for a while. You moms are awesome and so knowledgeable.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> Any thoughts, support or advice is welcome.<br><br>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"> Welcome!!<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Sounds like a wonderful birth. Maybe this is what you need! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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hi! no advice here about the scar tissue question but I'm sure glad u r having such a great pregnancy!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome">
 

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Hi there. I don't really have any information for you, but it does sound like your heart of hearts already knows it wants a UC.<br><br>
I did want to ask if January was your real name, though. If so, I love it! My real name is Winter. I've never met a January before. I have met a May, April, Spring, Summer, Autumn, April, June and an August. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Hi! Thank you for the welcomes! I think the more I feel comfortable here, it'll help.<br><br>
Winter...yes it is my real name. I love having a different name. With our kids we try to do a little different w/o weird (like me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">). If my name wasn't January, I'd name a daughter December Dawn. I love that name.<br><br>
I'm not too worried about the scar tissue I guess b/c I know my dh can break it up for me if need be. As it is when I'm about 36 wks, I'm gonna have him take some EPO and start getting familiar w/my cervix. He's the only person I want touching me down there, ya know! Even if I have a midwife, I want him doing it. That way in labor if I feel like something is stalling, he will be familiar and can help!<br><br>
I think I just need to research more about herbal remidies and also about what do after birth (the cord, etc.). I asked dh if he'd take a cpr class (neonatal) w/me. He actually already learned in school.<br><br>
Ok what the heck am I worried about?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Maybe b/c I've never had a vaginal birth?!
 

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IMO if you're really called to UC, nothing else will do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> That's how I felt anyway. Have you read The Power of Pleasurable Childbirth by Laurie Morgan? You might check it out. Sometimes, even if they do nothing "wrong," an attendant can do more harm than good just by being there.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">IMO if you're really called to UC, nothing else will do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> That's how I felt anyway. Have you read The Power of Pleasurable Childbirth by Laurie Morgan? You might check it out. Sometimes, even if they do nothing "wrong," an attendant can do more harm than good just by being there.</div>
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I have't read it , but I will look into it today. Thanks for the rec.! That is how I'm feeling by the way...like nothing or no one else "will do"!!!
 

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Welcome! Sounds like you are completely on the right track. You are following your heart and trusting yourself, your body and your husband. I am also 20 weeks and am currently planning my second UC. I love just living my life as a pregnant woman not scheduling myself around my next midwife visit. I think that no matter what you should do what feels right to you. No one can tell you one way or another what kind of birth you should have. I have found that those little visions about birth can turn out to be very accurate. I had planned on having a friend and my other kids at my last birth but my vision of no one around turned out to be pretty true. It was just my husband standing way back and taking pictures while I birthed on my own. I am glad you found your way here. I hope you get all the support you want.<br>
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Sounds like you know what you want, congrats!
 
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