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I've been lurking on this forum sense I found out I was pregnant. Only a few days ago did I sign up because I really need to someone to hear.<br><br>
Emily Ann was born March 1, 2007 at 10:27pm at 26wks gestation. She weighed only 2lbs 2.3oz. It wasn't a high risk pregnancy, yes it was my first and I'm only 29 years old. I ate three meals a day, she wouldn't let be otherwise. I took my vids and even quit smoking. It was a fairly pleasant pregnancy until "it." happened. I was having discharge and cramps and so doc on call referred me to the OB-GYN Triage. And from there the ball starting rolling downhill. Two and half days later, Emy is born via emergency c-section.<br><br>
In the meantime, I had pumped, tried milk enhancing herbs, and refused Rx medication for milk production (too many contradiction from my medical history) and still lost my milk. I never had it fully come in. I didn't even get a chance to get discomfort from engorgement. I've returned to my pre-pregnancy weight, which was a surprise for me. Physical I guess I'm OK, even though the docs won't release me to full duty for work. The incision is itching like crazy, there is one last stitch yet to dissolve. All in all, I'm OK.<br><br>
Emily is still in the NICU. Shes now 3lbs 8oz and taking 34mls per feeding. She's been off the vent once just over 24hrs. Shes on the vent again and this time she's fighting another gram negative infection in the lungs. I'm starting to watch her o2 settings creep up again. Tonight she's on 35% O2. Her bradys seam to be getting under control as is her acid reflux. She's smiling more so I can only guess she's having a lot more gas.<br><br>
It's her breathing that bothers me so much. Her lungs are radding. I can feel it when I touch her.She's making more secretions than previously. I don't know if it's because they had to reintubate her or not. Her own breathing right now is fairly shallow and rapid, even though her o2 sats are hovering high 80's to low 90's.<br><br>
I know the NICU is a roller coaster ride. I know there isn't much I can do about feeling helpless right now. I know I have to take it a day at a time.<br>
But tonight I found out one of the other babies didn't make it, no matter how hard he fought. He had been on and off the oscillator. It really hurt to see where his isolate had been was empty when this morning he was still there. I only found out that he died because his aunt was fairly distraught, as we rode the elevator to the Maternity floor.<br><br>
I want to cry for him and his family and I can't. My eyes water but the tears won't flow.
 

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Sending you lots of hugs sweetie!!!! that is so sad about the other baby, I'm so sorry! One minute at a time hun.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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My little girl is named Emily. I'd an otherwise normal pregnancy, no problems with anything, was as fit as a horse. Or well, as fit as I ever was. No change in anything. Baby was perfectly fine too. Every appointment. But thanks to PROM, my Emily came a month early. Granted that's not nearly the same as 26 weeks so I do really wish you and your little girl the very very best.<br><br>
My milk never came in. Or at least, nothing that was substantial. Like yourself, I tried every trick in the book. Also like you, I never got engorged. Ever. It was incredibly disappointing. Might sound silly to say for some, but I wanted so badly to breastfeed. I gave her what I could for as long as I could. I still can't help but think how I'd love to go back in time and try to do something a little differently so that this would have worked out.<br><br>
I'm sorry I am rambling. Again, I wish you all the best.
 

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Welcome! Congrats on your little one. I hope she continues to thrive. It sounds like she's doing really good. Don't be discouraged about going back on the ventilator, it's just the road that many of these micro preemies go down before coming off for good.<br><br>
Do you have a medical background? You seem to know quite a lot about everything going on the NICU for someone who's been there such a short period of time. I'm a nursing major (taking a break due to my most recent baby) and am always looking for others in my field.<br><br>
We love pictures. Do you have any of sweet Emily to share? Have you gotten to do kangaroo care yet? She's drinking a lot of milk for a baby her age that should be quite encouraging.
 

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I would love to see a picture of your little one. With a baby that premature you must be at Childrens Hospital of the Kings Daughters?
 

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I notice several new people posting. Welcome and please post pictures when you can.<br>
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Thank you guys for all the kind words.<br><br>
As to the questions...<br>
I don't have a medical background. I wouldn't call being an amateur herbalist as having a medical background. I do alot of research, on the net and the library. Besides it's my daughter. I want to know what's going on with her and what they are doing. I'm going to learn as fast as I can.<br><br>
They are a bit reluctant to try kangaroo at this time with her. It really has limited my time with her. I'm having to build a repoar with each nurse and slowly work on each one as to when I can hold her. It hasn't been very successful. As long as she on the vent they will be reluctant.<br><br>
Emily's not in CHKD. It turns out that my hospital has a level 3 NICU and she isn't the only one there. I've already watch babies come in with earlier gestational ages and I've seen the graduates leave. It was just yesterday that I saw for the first time that a baby died. I've been in there watching and waiting for 51 days.<br><br>
As to pictures, I'm keeping a photobucket account open especially for my in-laws. They live in Florida so it's hard for them to make it up here often. I was surprised that I couldn't send them the pictures via email. My pics are too big so be forewarned if you have a slow connection. I've tied the link to Emy's name in my signature.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thank you guys for all the kind words.<br><br>
They are a bit reluctant to try kangaroo at this time with her. It really has limited my time with her. I'm having to build a repoar with each nurse and slowly work on each one as to when I can hold her. It hasn't been very successful. As long as she on the vent they will be reluctant.<br><br>
As to pictures, I'm keeping a photobucket account open especially for my in-laws. They live in Florida so it's hard for them to make it up here often. I was surprised that I couldn't send them the pictures via email. My pics are too big so be forewarned if you have a slow connection. I've tied the link to Emy's name in my signature.</div>
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I apologize if any of us seem untrusting. We do want to offer support to those going through the NICU experience but it is hard after what recently happened.<br><br>
Give it time and you'll be doing Kangaroo care frequently. We didn't get to hold our daughter in any way until she was 6wks old and even then it was a one time deal and she coded. After that we started consistently around 8wks and she was still intubated. We were in a unique situation since our daughter ended up coming home on a ventilator so our nurses obviously had to relax about holding while on the vent. =)<br><br>
Emily is adorable. She really looks great!
 

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Sorry ladies--I returned this, but to Life with a Babe. Please forgive me--my mind has been wandering quite a bit lately!
 

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Are you on the peninsula?<br><br>
We were in 2 area hospitals, the second rarely did kangaroo care, it was actually rare to see the nurses allowing parents the opportunity.<br><br>
Again, welcome. And if you would like to speak with someone local, feel free to give me a PM.
 

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First of all, congratulations on your baby girl. Secondly, are you military??? Two things make me ask: 1) your location and @) your reference to returning to full duty. My daughter is active duty military and a new mom and just moved into the same area.<br>
Best wishes to you and Emily.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">They are a bit reluctant to try kangaroo at this time with her. It really has limited my time with her. I'm having to build a repoar with each nurse and slowly work on each one as to when I can hold her. It hasn't been very successful. As long as she on the vent they will be reluctant.</div>
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Oh i can so empathize with this!!! And mine werent even on vents, just cannulas. And their cannulas had been removed BEFORE the kangaroo care began, Jackson's 2 days before and Evie's the day before! I was able to kangaroo Jackson at 9 days old, he weighed 3 lbs 4 oz. I got "lucky", had an agreeable nurse and Jackson was having a "good day".<br><br>
Its such a pain in the butt having to coddle the NICU nurses into letting you hold YOUR baby! It feels insulting. But try to remind yourself, this is their job - they know what to look for to make sure your baby is healthy enough to have the kangaroo experience that day.<br><br>
I very stupidly went looking for the picture of me kangaroo-ing my son for the first time. I absolutley lost it when i opened the NICU pics file on my computer. Its so hard to look at those pictures now. Funny how i couldnt get ENOUGH of them at the time. But now I cant look without feeling just sick and sad and crying.<br><br>
But i did find the pic and wanted to share it with yall. I had to stop looking so i cant share Evie's kangaroo pic (first one) but it happened the next day when she was 10 days old <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><a href="http://quick.holdthatpic.com/images/35048.jpg" target="_blank">http://quick.holdthatpic.com/images/35048.jpg</a>
 

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WOW, I've had a busy weekend, much more than I'm used too. Saturday we had the company's family picnic to go too and that wore me out. I was surprised.<br><br>
While there I found out that friend's of ours son was in the hospital. We had expected them to show up at picnic but they never did. He's only nine months old and turns out he has a serious case of croup. He had been admitted to CHKD on the Peninsula and was transferred overnight to CHKD in Norfolk. We visited with them yesterday and he's getting better. He was able to go home this afternoon.<br><br>
We had canceled on my husband's aunt Saturday just to come home to some more friend's of ours sitting on our porch. They had camped us out! And they were fully expecting to stay the night. Shortened version; friends from high school, have a high strung four year old daughter and live with her mother which is the cause of stress to all involved and grandmother. Which is why they were sitting at my door, running from her mother.<br><br>
Saturday night I went to see Emy and of course everybody wants to come. Turns out there is some good news. They took her off the vent and have on the nasal cannula, 2L pressure & 35% O2 as of this afternoon. This is the fourth time around. She was so touchy when I saw her. Her heart rate kept dropping back and fourth. At least she was recovering on her own without dropping her O2 stats. I quickly shooed everyone home. I'm glad I've gotten in the habit of going in first.<br><br>
To cut this short, I end up staying up late. I got to bed at 4am and back up by 11am and just got them to leave by 9pm. She can not take a hint at all. I'm wore out and I'm not going through this next weekend. My weekend was all shot up by this. I've got nothing done that I wanted.<br>
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No. As I'm still on maternity leave, I work for a local general contractor was/as a Carpenter's apprentice. The thing about not back to full duty is that when I requested to go on light duty as per doctors orders, I was put out on maternity. LOL So at my 6 week check up I tried to get clearance to go back to full duty, they wouldn't give it. They would give me light duty which is worthless to me at this point. I can't go back to work until the doc's clear me for full duty. With my line of work anything less is dangerous.<br><br>
Which sucks. I know I had a c-section, I just want to know when I'll be strong enought to work again. I've always worked very physical jobs and the prospect of not going back is already driving me nuts. Well I'm heading to bed... I do hope that I can continue to chat with everyone here.<br><br>
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We were at Riverside the last few weeks.<br><br>
I actually recognized the hospital from your photos. You know that little closet when you first walk in on the right? ds lived in there for a few days while they made sure he didn't have anything (he was a transfer). Then we were in the first bed when you walk in to the actual unit.<br><br>
How are you liking the nurses so far?
 
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