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My DD is almost six-months and is still very attached to me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I'm wondering when I might be able to leave her for more than about an hour... right now, I can't go anywhere without her for more than about an hour, and since we live a bit out of town, I can't go into town (say, to meet a gf for coffee) by myself, ever. She doesn't like anyone to hold her besides me between the hours of 7-10pm, when I'm already exhausted <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I love her completely, and I love that she needs me so much, and looks to me as her source of comfort <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
But, you know, it'd be nice to be able to hand her to her daddy one night and go have dinner with a friend!<br><br>
The other thing is that I practice AP, which for us mean that whenever she sleeps, she's on me. Whether in her Ergo or just laying on me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> which is so lovely!<br><br>
However, I am trying to write a book, and the plan was for me to do it while she sleeps at night, but after holding her for three hours (which is intense, because it's not just holding, it's being her personal entertainer) I'm exhausted, and she won't sleep without me anyway <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
So... talk to me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I used to feel so bad about leaving my high needs DS and would only ever do so for doctor's appointments. And what do you know? He was always TOTALLY fine. Like many high needs babes are, he's very sociable, so actually liked being with other people. Having said that, there's no way I can leave him at night. Dad won't do once he goes to bed (he wakes a lot and I'm the only one who can get him to sleep and back to sleep). I haven't been out at night since he was 12 weeks old when my husband's mother looked after him for a couple of hours.<br><br>
On the one hand, I think you have to change your expectations - meet friends for lunch at the weekend. On the other, I think LOs will cope without us for a few hours. DH and I are getting to the point where we need a break and are considering having a friend sit DS one night. Mind you, we're so sleep deprived, I'm not sure we even want to go out! I guess my point is, your LO will be just fine if you want to take a break every once in awhile.<br><br>
High needs babes are so exhausting. I'm sick right now and it's very tough to meet his demands.
 

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My high needs little guy is only 3 1/2 months old... but I totally understand where you are coming from. My daughter was high needs but not as much as my son is. It took a VERY long time before I could go anywhere without her. I can't remember when I actually did that. I think she was over 1 year old. Anyhow, I am exhausted with my new little guy, but I know it is a fleeting time. If I live 70 years and spend 4 years of it with high needs babies and young toddlers... that really is a blip on the radar <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 
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