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My 16 year old daughter plays field hockey. This past week has been "pre-season" for the team (school starts after Labor Day) and they have been practicing every day for 6 hours.<br><br>
The coach announced this morning that threre will be practice on Labor Day. My parents are having a big family party on Labor Day. My daughter says that she can't miss the practice, and that missing it could jeopardize her position on the team.<br><br>
This makes me furious. This is a national holiday! Does anyone else have feelings about, or experience with this kind of thing? I am finding that the sports teams do this frequently. (This is a public high school.)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This makes me furious. This is a national holiday! Does anyone else have feelings about, or experience with this kind of thing? I am finding that the sports teams do this frequently. (This is a public high school.)</div>
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It would make me furious, too. IMO, the sports activities have gotten way out of line. My niece was supposed to have basketball practice on Good Friday, and my otherwise meek sister got into a shouting match with her coach over it.<br><br>
Honestly, I think that until the coaches hear repeatedly from many parents that this is unacceptable, it will continue unchecked.
 

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My child would not go. In our family it is God first, family second, all else third.<br><br>
And I would be sure to let the coach know that it is unacceptable.
 

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Honestly, I think that until the coaches hear repeatedly from many parents that this is unacceptable, it will continue unchecked.</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well.... I'd work around practice. Labor Day isn't really a holiday to us. Just an excuse for a day off.</div>
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That may be what it is to you, but to the OP it IS a holiday and they DO have family plans.<br><br>
Now if they had family plans on a random day that practice is scheduled I could understand, however this IS a national holiday. Schools, banks, and government buildings are closed. The vast majority of of American's have the day off. (As it is a day to honor the "laborer" or worker.)<br><br>
As others have said, I would let the couch know you have family plans on this holiday. That you expect the fact that your daughter missing practice that day will NOT jeopardize her place on the team, and if it is going to, you will take up the matter with the principal/school board.
 

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I worked at a high school for a few years and also played sports when I was in school. Most teams do practice on holidays, even over winter/spring breaks. My best bud is a coach and his policy is that family time comes first but when it came time for games the best players started the game, regardless of if you made all of the practices or not (as long as your parent let him know that the absence was family related). Generally one practice did not make a difference in any one player's ability but he has had a few occasions where after winter break a bench player before the holiday moved up to be a starter.
 

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I would call and say that your child has family obligations on what is a national holiday and that you expect her absence will in no way be held against her.
 

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1 abscence during pre-season should NOT affect her position on the team. If it really would I'd be having it out with that coach.<br><br>
When I was in school non of the sports were held over holidays. The only ones that were was hockey & that was not through the school.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The coach announced this morning that threre will be practice on Labor Day. My parents are having a big family party on Labor Day. My daughter says that she can't miss the practice, and that missing it could jeopardize her position on the team.</div>
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Are the at the same time? Could she go to practice and still go to some of the party? Would she prefer to go to practice, or does she just feels like she has to?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">That may be what it is to you, but to the OP it IS a holiday and they DO have family plans.</div>
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Silly me. I thought this:<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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meant we were allowed to share our own thoughts/feelings about it. Guess I've been corrected!<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Now if they had family plans on a random day that practice is scheduled I could understand, however this IS a national holiday. Schools, banks, and government buildings are closed. The vast majority of of American's have the day off. (As it is a day to honor the "laborer" or worker.)</div>
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To stray O/T for a moment.... Sure, schools, banks, governmental buildings are closed. The vast majority of Americans have off. Well, except those working in most restaurants (open!). Or retail establishments (open!). Or gas stations (open!). Movie theaters (yeah - OPEN!). So if you're one of those lucky worker bees who have the day off? Do the rest of us a favor and stay the heck HOME! DO NOT go shopping, or out to dinner, or to the movies. And for goodness sake - fill up your car on SUNDAY! So that *we* get to have a break on the day to honor the "laborer". What a joke.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">To stray O/T for a moment.... Sure, schools, banks, governmental buildings are closed. The vast majority of Americans have off. Well, except those working in most restaurants (open!). Or retail establishments (open!). Or gas stations (open!). Movie theaters (yeah - OPEN!). So if you're one of those lucky worker bees who have the day off? Do the rest of us a favor and stay the heck HOME! DO NOT go shopping, or out to dinner, or to the movies. And for goodness sake - fill up your car on SUNDAY! So that *we* get to have a break on the day to honor the "laborer". What a joke.</div>
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I see your point about labor day mtiger.<br><br>
Thank you for all your responses. I was outvoted. My husband took the side of my daughter, and says that since the practice is important to her she shouldn't have to attend the family party. (She can't do both because the party and the practice are in the afternoon, and the party is about 45 minutes away from where we live. ) He doesn't agree with me, and has pointed out that one of my daughter's cousins isn't going to the party. So basically it's come down to two against one.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 
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