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I am not exaggerating. I can't think of a moment when ds does not have his hands down his pants, grabbing himself! I have tried to explain to him that it is something to do in private, and he says "NO! It's NOT private!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> I've explained what private means, but he just keeps insisting that it's not private.<br><br>
It's really driving me crazy. When he's laying next to me or we're reading a book I tell him constantly that I don't want him playing with his penis while we're doing whatever it is we're doing, and I eventually have to end up saying that I won't continue reading the book. But it's getting really old.<br><br>
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Be constant, it might take a while.<br><br>
Check for discomfort. Could it be that his foreskin is separating from the glans so he is messing with it?<br><br>
Remember this is normal.<br><br>
If you are in public find have him hold something so his hands are not in his pants.
 

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I keep saying to DS "that is a bathroom activity" or "do that in private" - but, you seem to be saying stuff like that, too... maybe like Marsupialmom said about being consistent <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"> sorry I'm not more helpful.
 

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We had the same thing going on. I just told him everytime that if he wanted to touch his penis he needed to go in his room please. Now he goes in there and closes the door and says he needs some "privacy" :LOL
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We had the same thing going on. I just told him everytime that if he wanted to touch his penis he needed to go in his room please. Now he goes in there and closes the door and says he needs some "privacy" :LOL</div>
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This sounds really logical to me. It isn't a punishment, just a message that you do that only in the privacy of your own room. It will work, just be patient and TRY not to be emotional about it. My five year old does this a fair amount to when we are home, I tried ignoring it and it didn't work! I might try this too. Drives DH nuts, doesn't it???<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">We had the same thing going on. I just told him everytime that if he wanted to touch his penis he needed to go in his room please. Now he goes in there and closes the door and says he needs some "privacy" :LOL</div>
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We do the same thing.
 

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Yeah, that's what I do a lot around here. Maybe I just need to be a bit more patient! It started when he potty trained about 5 months ago, and didn't have a diaper in the way anymore.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah, that's what I do a lot around here. Maybe I just need to be a bit more patient! It started when he potty trained about 5 months ago, and didn't have a diaper in the way anymore.</div>
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My ds is doing the same thing. He pt about 2-3 months ago and his hands have been in his pants ever since :LOL . He gets excited, he grabs his penis. He gets scared, he grabs his penis, he gets tired, hungry, grumpy, angry, sad whatever, he grabs his penis. I need to do something about it but really haven't done anything yet. I only really stop him while he is sitting at the dinner table <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> .<br><br>
I think being consisent with "you can do that in the privacy of your own room" will work eventually. My dd liked to touch herself at age 3-4 and that is what I did with her and it eventually worked. Of course she wasn't doing it 24/7 like ds does.
 

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My son was putting his hands down his pants the other day, while we were walking down the street. I asked him why his hands were in his pants, and he replied, "I don't know." Then I realized that, while I don't do it while I'm walking down the street, my wife asks me the same question all the time.<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/Sheepish.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Sheepish">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My son was putting his hands down his pants the other day, while we were walking down the street. I asked him why his hands were in his pants, and he replied, "I don't know." Then I realized that, while I don't do it while I'm walking down the street, my wife asks me the same question all the time.<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/Sheepish.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Sheepish">:</div>
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He he. I've thought about this. Dh sometimes has his hands down his pants while watching tv. Sometimes I look over and the both of them are sitting there with their hands down their pants. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> To be fair to ds, I've started saying something to dh as well!
 
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