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Hi -dd is 23 months & has just started to hit me & has been very grabby. Ex. this morning in bed she was looking at a book & I was reading my own book, she just reached over & grabbed/snatched my book away. I said that wasn't very nice. (She put her head down but wouldn't give it back.)<br>
I was unsure where to go from there. I tried to ask her for it back & she said no. I really didn't want to grab it back but I also didn't feel like she should keep it having grabbed it from me. She is not quite verbal yet so she is struggling a little with communicating her needs/wants. So I can understand her frustration about many things (which I am sure is why she is hitting/slapping)<br>
I really don't like this behavior & do not want it to continue, but if it is just a stage or expermintation I don't want to squash it either <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br>
How do I handle this? It is really making me angry when I get slapped in the face!<br>
Also do you continue to take your kids out with others while going through this stage or do you wait it out at home?
 

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I try not to grab things, force things, etc., but sometimes it takes 3-5 minutes of negotiating and I tend to get a little heated. I'm not sure what the solution is since sometimes it makes me so exhausted that I get really irritated, which doesn't seem gd.
 

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I just give my 22 mo old a time out.
 

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Had it been me, and a first foray into snatching/hitting, I wouldve just taken my book back and said "you have to Ask mommy", modeled saying "book, please" and see if she wants to give it a try. At that age I'd accept any grunt/gesture that was an attempt at asking before grabbing.<br><br>
There's a good chance a fit will ensue when you retrieve your book. In that case I'd probably say "ouch, too noisy, my ears hurt" and left the room.<br><br>
your child's temperment determines how far/long she will pursue her tantrum. I am of the mind that I respect her right to have a tantrum but I also respect my right to not listen to it.<br><br>
oops, forgot to answer. We still went out but only with people I thought would understand/comiserate.
 
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