Originally Posted by annT
The way I've been dealing with it is pretty much Bailey's approach in her "Easy To Love" book - first, I attribute positive (or at least neutral) intent, then I state a limit, then I give an alternative. So, for example: "Did you hit Max because you want to play alone? I see. No hitting. Hitting hurts. If you want to play alone, you can hold out your arm like this. You can also say, 'No!'" etc. etc.