I've been down on marriage. For most of my adult life I have never wanted to marry. I've lived with a few people. But after a relationship with my son's dad I never wanted to EVER get married. I just don't see the benefits in it. Why? I've never been a traditionalist. It just never really appealed to me. Currently my wonderful partner and I live together. He is a wonderful father to my son. (Bio-dad not in picture). He treats him like his own. They have a very special relationship. And lately I've been having thoughts of marriage! Very strange to me. He recently told me he wants to be with me the rest of our lives. He's not big on marriage either. He once said he would only get married on a frozen lake. Yikes! So we have been extremely happy co-habitating together, but no wedding bells in the picture due to both of our take on tying the knot. We have been falling deeper into one another. It has taken us 4 years to really fall in love. And now I am feeling the urge to plan a wedding and make and take vows with this man! The urge has been so overwhelming that I've been dreaming about it almost every night. I also want to blurt it out to him "I wanna marry you". Even though I am pretty open and liberal I want him to ask me. Is this weird. Have any of you been down this road-never had plans of marriage but decided to do it. Have you (the women) asked your husband to marry you? I feel like he wants to ask me but is too scared. What to do? Let me hear your stories.