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Hi! I'm new to this area of mothering, and am SO glad I've found it.<br><br>
We really need to declutter and simplify. Both DP and I have SO much stuff, and most of it is just sitting gathering dust. We live in a small (900 sq ft) 2 bedroom house and are always wishing we had more space, when really, I think we just need to get rid of a lot of stuff.<br><br>
I think one of our main problems is that we have the idea we would like to move, but can't afford to right now. So we hold onto things, for instance, we have extra couches, chairs and kitchen tables that are not in use. We figure that when we move into a new house, we will then have space for them. It's not like they are even all that nice...everything we own is second hand, old and worn - usually handed down from family or found at a garage sale.<br><br>
DP is pretty attached to the sofa set (sofa, love seat, huge swivel rocker chair) that we have because it was from his grandparents. I think it takes up WAY too much space in our living room and would rather just have a futon and small chair in there. I wouldn't mind having it in a basement (in our imaginary "new house"), but don't like the thought of holding onto it for a few more years just for that purpose.<br><br>
Another problem area is the number of giant, electronic, plastic toys DS has. All gifts, and people like to see whatever they gave him out in the living room when they come over. But he has SO many. He has two chairs, a piano, a kitchen, and many other little things that are always all over the floor for us to trip over.<br><br>
We need some serious organizational help, but I don't have any money to spend. Where can we look for cheap/free organization solutions?<br><br>
Well....I guess this is just sort of my intro thread, and a way for me to track my progress in the future, by posting my starting point here!<br>
Any suggestions for us would be appreciated!<br><br>
Thanks,<br>
winn
 

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Oh wow. We have a 700sq ft apartment and I sometimes think it's too much space. Really it's enough space but not organized properly for our needs.<br><br><br>
I would totally get rid of the "extra" couch/furniture that you aren't attached to. Sell or donate it, toss it, whatever. If it isn't bringing you joy today then you don't need it cluttering up your life now.<br>
If people give you gifts then expect to see all of them when they come over, then they need to visit less often!
 

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Well, you need to intervene soon with you relatives, because they will continue to give giant plastic toys, until you ask them to stop. (or divert them to giving outside plastic toys) You can always give them to "a friend in need".
 

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YES. Progress already. We have started a list for the garage sale:<br><br>
-2 TV's<br>
-Kitchen table & 4 chairs<br>
-1 dresser<br>
-bedside table<br>
-coffee table & 2 end tables<br>
-glass cabinet<br>
-lamp<br><br>
This is just the list of "big" stuff. If you can believe it, these are nearly all extras! The only thing being used right now is the dresser, but we need more space in our bedroom.<br><br>
Thanks for the replies so far!<br>
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I'm about to move into our newly remodeled, larger house. Before we began remodeling, we gave away a couch, chair, coffee table, dining room set, kitchen appliances, etc. to a charity that helps low-income families furnish their first homes. I have been sort of regretting lately not having the couch and chair because we have so little $$$ left after construction to buy any furniture. But then one of my friends just unexpectedly bought a new house and won't have room for her family room couch or loveseat, so she will sell them to us cheaply, thereby solving her problem and mine! I really believe in "stuff karma"- if you let something go that you aren't using to someone who needs it, whatever you need in the future will somehow find its way into your life.<br><br>
Sounds like you are off to a great start!
 

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I loved what the previous poster said about karma. It really is just holding you back if you're not using and someone else could. Let what you can go. I struggle with this, but I've been letting go bit by bit and it feels liberating. Good luck.
 

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Good start <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I would suggest not buying organization stuff or talking to the family (if you intend to) until after you get rid of all the stuff you know you don't need. Bascially, start with yourself and start with what you can do now. Once you have all the clutter out of the house (gee, when will *I* get there? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) you might find you don't need the organizational stuff. Or at least need far less than you think.<br><br>
I also suggest an after garage sale plan. Think now about what you'll do with the leftovers. I mean what you'll do *other* than dragging it all back inside. Maybe put a notice on your local freecycle for people to come afterward and pick, or find the nearest charity that picks up (in my blog on the right I have links to Goodwill and Vietnam Vet - both pick up in my area), or the nearest thrift store to drop off in your area.<br><br>
As an aside, my sister does what you are talking about. She and her dh live in a small house but are planning to move "someday" to a big one. They've been living in this small house for about 5 years (?) and you can barely move in some of the rooms because of all the furniture they are saving for when they move. I find it very claustraphobic. It's as if not having enough furniture to fill a big house is bad. I think a big house that's sparsely furnished sounds awesome! More room to play! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bouncy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bouncy"> I love the size of my house and think it's perfect for us, but I want less stuff in it. Not so that we can move to a smaller place, but so that we have more space to run around in <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/coolshine.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sunshine"><br><br>
Anyway, good luck with your garage sale and decluttering <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Thanks for the replies!<br><br>
I agree about the "stuff karma". I just said to DP last night that WHEN and IF we ever move, I'm pretty sure we'll have an easy time finding some old second-hand furniture to use in our basement (if we had a basement, haha). It really is holding us back, and I think it has made us enjoy living in this house less. As we get rid of more crap and get it closer to how we like, we talk about moving less. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
There are a few things that we would love that we just don't have here though:<br>
-a shower (oh how I miss having a shower. Baths are nice, but not when you're in a rush!) Our bathroom is upstairs, and because of the low ceiling over the tub, does not allow for a shower<br>
-a space for me to sew and store all my crafting supplies. I've tried sewing at the kitchen table, and it just created too much clutter and made us both unhappy.<br>
-a space for DP to record. He is a musician, and has recording equipment, 3 guitars, 2 amps, microphones, a trombone, etc, etc. He would really like a space to do this.<br><br>
Other than that we are happy with our house!<br><br>
The plan for the garage sale is that we will reduce prices as the day goes on, and by the end we will just be telling people "$4 for as much as you can carry!". Then when it's over, the stuff is NOT going back in the house. It will all be donated.<br><br>
I am already feeling liberated, just by the thought of getting rid of all these things! I'm so motivated that I cleaned out our bathroom cupboard and medicine cabinet, and threw out a whole bag full of stuff. I didn't think we had enough room in there, but now we do!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Thanks again,<br>
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If you DO move into a larger home, are you <i>really</i> going to want to fill it up with old furniture?<br><br>
If you have enough furniture to meet your needs right now, then it will be enough to meet your needs in a bigger house, even if the house has room for more stuff. It's not like you're going to have a huge house and no place to eat dinner as a family because you don't have a dining room table that seats 12!<br><br>
Even if the big house seems a little empty at first, chances are you'll be able to get something else THEN, when you actually need it. There's always somebody getting rid of an old couch or table!<br><br>
And in the meantime, you can have a less cluttered home to enjoy. Remind your DP that getting rid of the LR set from his grandparents is NOT the same as getting rid of his grandparents or their memory! He can remember them fondly even if he no longer has their furniture. If it means THAT much to him, take some photos of the furniture to put into an album or scrapbook before giving away or selling the furniture.<br><br>
Baby toys are a whole separate issue. Do you have a place to store some of the toys when they're not in use, so you can just take out one or two at a time (like when the giver is coming over to visit?) and keep the rest out of the way? If not, you'll just have to pass them along and when people come to the house, simply explain that you just didn't have room for everything- but DC absolutely loves <mention non-bulky toy here>!<br><br>
Wow- I just finished reading the rest of the thread- you got quite a bit accomplished in only 12 hours! I hope you have a bunch of bulky toys in the garage sale list! Did DP agree to sell the bulky furniture? Or do you just have the outline of a plan, without the specific items to sell figured out yet?
 

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It finally hit me I need to live for today not for one day or the dream of one day...<br><br>
think what and how you could make your house and life more happy today! sounds like you have started and that's the great!<br><br>
less sometimes is really more!
 

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Thanks for posting this. I've been trying to live this way lately, too.
 

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When you have the money to move, won't it be more fun to go out and find lovely things to put in your new space to accompany the things you already love?<br><br>
You don't want your big house to be filled with any old stuff, you want it to be filled with things you love and bring you joy.<br><br>
Could you foist the couch set off on one of the giant-toy giving relatives?<br><br>
Re: Shower, any way to attach a hand sprayer to the tub faucet? Not the same as a shower, but would at least let you wash faster.<br><br>
Re: Sewing. Do you have a desk or table amongst the extra furniture? You could set up a sewing corner and only cut out on the kitchen table. Does your ds have his own room? If the toys are cleared out could you use the upper shelf of his closet to store fabric?<br><br>
Re: Recording space. Sorry, but a good recording space isn't happening. Unless you've currently got a guest room that could be soundproofed and the bed changed to a futon?
 

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<a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=459727" target="_blank">Here's a thread about the best organizing book ever.</a>
 

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I'd get rid of the extra furniture, why not donate it? you get a tax rite off & someone gets help.<br><br>
Lots of plastic toys... I take all of the excess to our local kids consignment shop to sell it.
 

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Thanks everyone!!<br><br>
All your thoughts and ideas are appreciated.<br><br>
DP is totally on board with getting rid of stuff. Basically anything I mention, he thinks we should try to sell (including all the extra furniture, and the big chair that I thought he had such an attachment to!) We will have to keep the couch, because, well....we do need somewhere to sit. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> One day when we can find a different couch we will switch. In the meantime maybe I can cover it.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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YES! That is just what we are coming to. It's wonderful to find this, and I'm feeling "lighter" with just the thought of purging our house. It's going to feel great to have so much more space, and less stuff. At the same time I've been going through my closet and dressers, and I can't believe how many articles of clothing I've kept because I may someday wear it again. Tops that I used to wear to the bar 9 years ago...uh, yeah, like anyone wants to see me in those again!!<br><br>
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