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Both Macy's and Hallmark have holiday ornaments regarding "forever families" with some of the proceeds going to the Dave Thomas Adoption fund. What I'm wondering is if they do these ornaments every year, or is this something special this year.<br><br>
I'm considering getting one, but we are still early in our adoption process. If they do it every year, I might wait until next year to get one. Otherwise, I'll get one and pack it away.<br><br>
Anyone familiar with these?
 

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I googled "dave thomas adoption holiday ornament" and got <a href="http://www.adoptionfriendlyworkplace.org/news/pr_10103.asp" target="_blank">this hit</a>. It's from 2003, so I'm guessing this will continue for awhile.<br><br>
Good luck in your adoption journey!
 

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Hallmark has one every year, though some years the language is a little cheesy (and to some offensive). <a href="http://www.hallmark.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=10051&storeId=10001&partNumber=QXG6397_DK&rank=P1R1S&searchValue=bond+of+belonging" target="_blank">This year</a> isn't too bad. The language is general enough to apply to all families, but would be especially meaninful to blended or adoptive families. It says: Connected with a bond of belonging--forever family. ~ 2007~<br><br>
My sister didn't know it was an "adoption" ornament and got it as a present for our new step mother. On the website the ornament is said to be "a great gift for relatives." So while they don't directly market it as an adoption ornament, I've noticed that every year they have an ornament that could be said to celebrate adoption.<br><br>
My husband bought one for our daughter-to-be. Every child of ours gets a dated ornament each year, and 2007 is likely our daughter's birth year. We'll be getting her a baby one, too, but dh liked this tree of all the possible other ornaments. I don't think "Forever Family" is a phrase we'll be using in our house, but as a descriptive phrase (that we became forever a family) it'll do. It's certainly a very pretty ornament, and the way they worded it leaves it open to avoiding the traditional "Forever Family" usage.
 

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It applies to most but not all families. I don't think it applies to foster families, for which the bond of belonging comes from something other than being "forever family." (I would feel uncomfortable with this in our house, as although it would certainly apply to our adopted child, it would not apply to our foster children. Also, our adopted child had a bond of belonging here long before we ever were able to become a legal forever family.)
 

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Sierra, I see what you mean. I think it all depends on interpretation, too. <i>I</i> think that the language is vague enough that it could apply to people who aren't legally family yet...that the bond that brings families together is a true connection between people. That would be something I could see giving to a person that wasn't legally a relative/immediate family member... like one of my "aunts," or a very close friend. In that way, I think the language would suit all families, whether they're permanent, traditional, or not.<br><br>
I think the bond of love between people does make them forever a part of your "family," if that makes sense. My family isn't just my kids and my dad and my sister...it's the people that feel like home to me, and the adults who've been like parents to me. That's all I meant when I said it could apply to all families, traditional or not. It's just a nice sentiment.<br><br>
It could definitely be confusing for little kids, though, and maybe even older kids.
 

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Each year we buy an ornament for each of the kids and us that represents something significant that year. The year Connor came home (actually I ordered it the next year since he came home 12 days before Christmas) we got a personalized one from <a href="http://www.mandysmoon.com/Qstore/Qstore.cgi" target="_blank">Mandy's Moon</a>. Their customer service is really good, and you can choose from a variety of designs and features that represent different ethnicities to make it truly personal. You can also specify any year, and get country flags on them.
 
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