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<p>I know I should be all excited, but it stresses me out. B/c we're 7 hrs away from family, they r driving to see us for the holidays. Which is great! But then I feel like I have to worry about the house being clean & all that kind of stuff. Along w/ shopping for them...which is stressful b/c hubby has no suggestions on his parents or sister & my parents & sister aren't easy to shop for. And we're on a budget like everyone else. And baby has no room & we have no dresser for her yet. And my dryer is eating our clothes but we don't have money for a new one b/c we need new tires.  Ok, now i'm jsut venting.</p>
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<p>Anyone else feel like more stressed b/c baby is due near/after holidays? </p>
 

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<p>I'm definitely feeling the stress of it all.  For a lot of the same reasons.</p>
<p>On top of house issues (dishwasher, water problems, completely renovating our upstairs), we're trying to do shopping and cleaning and a TON of preparation.  I feel like there's just no way I can do it all physically, and I'm trying to accept that.  It's really tough.</p>
<p>At least this is a happy time of year for me, in general, and it does cheer me some to just look at the Christmas tree and enjoy the lights we have strung in the kitchen.  It at least feels like a cozy place to welcome the baby.  Even if life is otherwise complete chaos. <img alt="nut.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/nut.gif"></p>
 

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<p>I have time to do stuff, just no energy. Maybe I'll feel better once we get our tree decorated. It's been up for 2 days, but no lights/ornaments yet.  I feel bad b/c we don't really have a baby room, much less a guest room. So we have a twin bed we can set up downstairs, then a love seat & a couch. So I don't feel like a very good hostess when people come over. We need a new mattress of our own.  I hope everyone feels welcomed, even though I won't have energy to wait on everyone.</p>
 

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<p>well if i were you i would maybe rethink how these holidays are best aproached?</p>
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<p>maybe you need to think that just having folks over is a great thing, but that this is not the year for presents. im sure that if folks thought about it, its the baby that should be getting things bought for them, not the adults.</p>
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<p>look at what you can do to streamline things and then work of feeling good about doing that for your health and sanity.</p>
<p>the inlaws will just love  to see you all preggo and get to share and have pictures of this time in your families life, it is not the same as other years and it does not need to be.</p>
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<p>does that help at all?</p>
 

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<p>I definitely agree, I should have a more positive outlook on everything. My DH is working lots of overtime & he's not into this pregnancy at all, even though it was planned. We have been here almost a yr and I still feel like I haven't made friends here, except a few online through a local mommy website. My in-laws...well there's lots of drama w/ them. Most of it doesn't have anything to do w/ me. It's just akward, but I do my best to play/be nice for the sake of DS. I always let them spend time w/ him & try to keep them involved in his life. They just aren't very good to my hubby, especially FIL. I guess I'll just try not to stress. They give us crappy, random gifts so I don't know why I always stress about doing/getting something thoughtful, but I do. Not sure hwo into getting baby stuff they are. Last time they got us a big gift and this time they didn't haven't so far-we had a shower last month.</p>
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<p>I guess I'll just act like they live down the road and they can jus tmake themselves at home. :)</p>
 
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