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My only birthing experience was in a free standing birth center. It was a very positive experience ... I was comfortable being naked, my midwife and the nurse were fantastic, there were no monitors, I could have anyone I wanted in the birth room, I could labor in any position or place I wanted, no separation from the baby, etc. It felt like it was as close to being a home birth without being in my home!<br><br>
I'm weighing my options for the future (I'm not even PG and don't plan on getting PG for several more months, so I have time to decide) and I wanted to know if a home birth is right for me.<br><br>
Has anyone else had a very positive birth center experience, but an even better home birth experience? I think the idea of a home birth is GREAT, but having had such a wonderful experience at the birth center, I don't know if I would want to do anything different ... IYKWIM!
 

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I've never had a birth center birth, but the greatest thing about homebirth for me was taking a shower in my own bathroom, then crawling into my own bed and going to sleep. Glorious. Not having to pack is nice, and not having to go somewhere during labor is pretty awesome too.
 

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We've done that! DH and I would have been perfectly happy to have dd#2 at the birth center we used for dd#1, but they were understaffed and would only see us at the hospital. We looked into homebirth and a second birthing center, and decided to go for a homebirth. As wonderful as that experience was with dd#1, I am SO glad that we homebirthed dd#2 and we are going to have another one in August.<br><br>
Some of the differences for me were that we didn't have to disturb dd#1 when I went into labor- I did have a support person willing to come when we called her to watch dd, but my daughter slept through the whole experience. I had all of my food and drinks here, not just what I remembered to pack for the trip. After dd#2 was born, I curled up on MY bed and helped make phone calls, but fell asleep in MY SPACE. Being a winter baby, there was no bundling of the newborn just to get home- everything was already here. I can't wait to do it again- just 3 months to go now.<br><br>
Birth centers are great, but I honestly can't compare the two experiences. Even though I loved the first, the second was somehow even more awesome!<br><br>
Sarah<br>
DD#1 12.22.03<br>
DD#2 11.30.05<br>
EDD 8.27.07
 

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We're a little in the same boat. Only with ds we had hospital and dh compromised to a bc this time. Only I want a hb. I feel like I would be so much more comfortable in our own home. Also ds was a 2.5hr labor/delivery and the mw's are going by this one being quick as well (though we know it could be long). So I don't want to be stuck in the truck on the way there. I don't want to have to disturb ds if it's night time. Granted, we can come home in 2 hours, but I don't know. I think some of the stress/resentfullness of the hospital birth are tainting what could be a good bc experience for me.
 

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IMO as long as your home is safe (not too far from a hospital, not dangerously dirty, not housing hostile people) then home is better.<br><br>
Birth centers have no real advantages above a home (except as listed above)<br><br>
Home has plenty of advantages over anything *not* home.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've never had a birth center birth, but the greatest thing about homebirth for me was taking a shower in my own bathroom, then crawling into my own bed and going to sleep. Glorious. Not having to pack is nice, and not having to go somewhere during labor is pretty awesome too.</div>
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Those are some great benefits. The one thing that I was surprised by my birth center birth was that the car ride was actually the most comfortable part ... the motion rocked me to sleep.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Birth centers are great, but I honestly can't compare the two experiences. Even though I loved the first, the second was somehow even more awesome!</div>
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Thanks for your insight! This is exactly the type of advice I was wanting. I hadn't thought about the what-to-do-with-DS#1 factor! It would be much easier to have a neighbor watch him should the need arise rather than finding someone to come to the birth center with us!<br><br>
DH isn't very pro-HB yet. He's very pro-natural birth, but he has yet to see why a HB would be beneficial. He's agreed that when the time comes he's willing to meet with a HB M/W, so it's a step in that direction.
 

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well, i am coming at this from the other side. We are having our 3rd in a birth center in august. #1dd was hospital (yuk) #2ds was a wonderful homebirth, and we had planned to do it again, but the insurance will not pay for midwife at home and will pay for birth center and we are in a different living situation this time (tiny house, tiny living room, tiny bathroom, hmmmm just not enough space for waterbirth) so we are going to the birth center and my mom and sis are coming to help with kids. I really loved my homebirth and one of the biggest reasons (besides the money) that I am not doing it this time is just because it helped SO much to have a nice tub last time and I spent most of the hard part in the water very comfortably, but this time we don't really have anywhere we can set up a kiddie pool now and our tub is WAY too small to even think about it. Plus I would have to labor in the living room as our bedroom is only big enough for the bed, and there is not really any way we could close off the area to have any privacy at all with the other kids and whoever is there to help us with them. I mean, I am not the most modest person in the world, but quiet is nice in labor.
 

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I've been thinking about doing a hb myself. Right now I'm trying to weigh the benefits. I've had two good bc births. The only things holding me back are that my bedroom is too small for a birth pool, I'd have to be in the living room which means I'd have to be around my person who is watching the kids. While I'm not extremely modest, I don't believe she would be comfortable seeing me naked which would make me uncomfortable. Also, my mom lives very close to where I live and I don't want her butting in on me which she would totally do. But, being able to just be home with the baby right away and not having to get my kids up and out... It seems so nice. So, I haven't decided yet, which is why I'm here reading and learning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My first DS was born in a BC and we had a wonderful, peaceful birth there. I decided with DS2 though that I had no reason to leave home. By having a baby at home I avoided a repeat VERY uncomfortable drive since with DS1 I was having pushing contractions in the car.<br><br>
I am so glad DS2 was born at home because he was breech and was still delivered vaginally while a BC would have to transfer to a hospital for a C-section. It was great to go from the birthing tub, to my bed with my sweet baby cuddled up to me the whole time. Oh, and it allowed DS1 to pull out and show his new baby brother his favorite toys and books!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've never had a birth center birth, but the greatest thing about homebirth for me was taking a shower in my own bathroom, then crawling into my own bed and going to sleep. Glorious. Not having to pack is nice, and not having to go somewhere during labor is pretty awesome too.</div>
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Same here. Loved being at home and would not consider birth center for myself.<br>
But if you are happy with it why not! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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me!<br>
I had a wonderful birth center experience with my first. Just what you described with yours. Just like home. That's what I thought before my homebirth.<br>
My first birth was almost too good. Because I had a hard time explaining to my husband why I wanted a homebirth.<br>
I have to say, my homebirth was SO much better. It's hard to explain why. But it really was. It couldn't have gone any better and I loved (yes, loved) every minute, hour of it.
 

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Ds was born a month before the birth center that my MW was affliated with opened, so home birth was the only option. However, I have to say, since dd was a hospital birth, being home, in a soft, comfortable bed with ds his first night and being able to get up and walk around home the next day was some I can neither explain nor recount. Nothing beats home! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Best wishes in your choice! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx">:<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/waterbirth.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="Waterbirth">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/homebirth.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="Homebirth"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/uc.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title=":uc">
 

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We had a really lovely birth center birth and we're planning a homebirth this time -- what we'll end up going with really depends on the what we end up with as far as an insurance situation, since at present DH and I are unemployed.<br><br>
In my humble opinion, there are bonuses to both sides. If we have a homebirth, I'm really excited about getting to get in the birth tub whenever I feel like I need it, not when we've progressed to the point of going to the BC. On the other hand, the BC tub is far nicer and I don't have to manage cleaning it or my house for the birth, which is going to be a big stressor for me. I like the idea of the baby being born at home because I think it will make it easier for my young DS (he'll be 2) to understand that the baby is part of the family forever and we're not going to take it back -- but we have a hard time finding someone who can be his minder who I am comfortable having at the birth, and the birth center has a playroom he can be in. On the other hand, I'm really looking forward to cuddling up in my own bed and not having to drive if we're at home even though I'm not looking forward to having to deflate and drain the pool and do laundry. I figure it all works out, you know?
 

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I had two homebirths, but thought it might help in your process to share why I chose against a birthing center. I felt that the risk of infection at home was much lower at home, as were transfer risks and risks of intervention. BCs tend to have stricter transfer protocols, more "required" testing and stricter eligibility requirements (like no breech, automatic transfer for a certain amount post-date, etc.).
 

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Thanks for all the feedback! All these stories are exactly what I was looking for! I'm definitely leaning more on the homebirth side of the fence right now.<br><br>
However, something a friend told me yesterday may make all of this invalid ... I was told that my insurance won't cover home births (samd insurance she had and none of her home birth was covered!). There was no trouble getting the birth center birth covered b/c it was billed under the supervising physician's name rather than the CNMs. Have any of you had trouble getting these births covered? If so, were you able to work your way around the system? Any other time I've had issues with coverage, they haven't budged no matter how hard I've tried. I've heard my insurance is supposed to be the best type in my area ... if that's the case, no insurance in my area is worth having! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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My homebirth was unattended but I planned on paying out of pocket when I originally planned to have a midwife. Birth centers aren't an option for me, but I would have paid out of pocket to stay home regardless.
 

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I've had a birth center birth and a homebirth. Both were covered by insurance.<br><br>
I'd take the homebirth over the BC birth any day. the BC birth was not bad - it was just not at home, LOL. I would much rather just stay home, be home, where I am comfortable. My homebirth MW left me alone and I was comfortable being left alone. Whereas at the BC, I would have rather had the MW with me almost all the time, but she was seeing patients downstairs, so I had a student MW with me who I'd never met before.<br><br>
The BC birth was also my first, so I wasn't sure what to expect. With the homebirth I was more comfortable with labor and birth in general.<br><br>
If my insurance had not covered the homebirth, I would have done it anyway. My MW had payment plans, etc and we would have worked it out. It would have been worth it.<br><br>
HTH!
 

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Talk to your insurance providor and homebirth MW in your area. It's possible that someone has had experience getting a HB covered.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sarah<br>
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Can't believe how similiar our child spacing is, Sarah. My DD1 was born 12/28/2003, my DD2 arrived on 12/01/2005 and we're expecting baby number three on September 7th-ish. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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This isn't always the case -- the midwives that I'm delivering with at home are the same ones I delivered with at the birth center and the protocols are exactly the same as far as transfer and eligibility. They have exactly the same equipment for homebirths as they do for birth center births and the issues you're talking about (no breach, post-dates) tend to be standard across all the midwives in our state because they're written into the legislation that permits midwives to operate. (They're also sane and pretty generous... for instance, post-dates transfer isn't required until 43w6d completed pregnancy)<br><br>
Your mileage may vary, of course.
 

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We had a total dream birth at a FSBC with our son (26 months old). We have since moved 4 hours away from the FSBC and are planning a homebirth for this pregnancy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
My insurance covered every single bit of our BC birth (in fact, I had double coverage for the birth and didn't pay anything) - but our insurance doesn't cover homebirth. I'm going to send a letter and ask them to reimburse us, but it likely won't happen. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I'd rather pay out-of-pocket for the birth (total of about $2200 including the asst fee and HB kit) than have a hospital birth.<br><br>
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