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So, I was doing really well after Christmas. I was managing to get the homeschooling, the housework, AND the cooking done-- it was like a miracle. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">: Then we ordered a laptop for me and it's all gone downhill since then.<br><br>
When we just had the desktop, I made the rule that I wouldn't go online until after dinner. On a good day, it would be after the kids were in bed, but after dinner was OK too.<br><br>
Now that I have the laptop, I find myself online a lot more. I use it for lesson planning, for keeping a calendar, etc, and it's just so easy to bop online.<br><br>
So, how do you all resist the temptation not to play online all day? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I only get on during the day when my toddler wants to nurse. Other then that I've told my kids to tell me no. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> It works well.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> My kids would love that. So, you don't have your menu or lesson plans or calendar or anything on the computer? Do your kids use it at all for school?
 

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You're asking this on an online forum?? Bwahahahahaha!!!<br><br>
I'm hopelessly addicted.
 

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We recently moved our desktop computer upstairs. It used to be in the "dining room" next to the kitchen which we used as an office/library. I was horrible! It was so easy to sit down when the kids were eating breakfast or to pop on after I finished a few chores & wanted to sit down or sit there when DS wanted to nurse. It would've been one thing if I could've kept it to 10-15 minutes but it inevitably turned into a 1/2 hr plus affair. So....I decided the computer had to be out of easy reach. I still go on quite a few times a day (never plan on making myself a when-the-kids-are-asleep user) but I'm defintely doing better! I used to walk past the computer & wiggle the mouse to bring up the screen to see if I had any emails.....even if I just got up 5 minutes ago!?
 

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I'm on and off all day.
 

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I get online a few times throughout the day and will sometimes pop in on sites such as this one, but not every day. I have gotten to where I just don't do it as much anymore and it's hard since my kids are older and very independent in their studies most of the day. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> I try to stay busy with other things around the house.
 

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I actually think that once we get the wireless network card on my laptop working that I'll spend *less* time online during the day. I'm planning on keeping it on the breakfast bar in our kitchen. We don't have stools there, so to use it I'll have to stand there. So it'll be convenient for making a quick note, checking on email or something, but I'll be less likely to "check just one thing" and find myself growing roots into the office chair like I do now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I actually think that once we get the wireless network card on my laptop working that I'll spend *less* time online during the day. I'm planning on keeping it on the breakfast bar in our kitchen. We don't have stools there, so to use it I'll have to stand there. So it'll be convenient for making a quick note, checking on email or something, but I'll be less likely to "check just one thing" and find myself growing roots into the office chair like I do now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"></div>
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You'll have to let me know how that works out for you, because the wireless card and the laptop have been my downfall. It's way too portable. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You'll have to let me know how that works out for you, because the wireless card and the laptop have been my downfall. It's way too portable. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Ah, but if I take it off the breakfast bar, I'll have two "helpers" waiting to get their little hands on it... Plus, like you, I'm not happy with how much time I'm spending online, so I'm hoping that will give me the willpower to leave it in the uncomfortable place. (As opposed to the way I don't seem to have the willpower to stay away from computers altogether.)
 

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Thank you for this post, it's definitely a wake-up call. I spend WAY too much time online. It's really ridiculous and I think it may be a form of addiction. All of a sudden I'll realize that I haven't accomplished anything all day!<br><br>
It's hard, too, because with the group of moms I hang out with, we all post get-togethers online and communicate via yahoo groups and/or email, so I feel like I'm constantly checking to make sure I'm not missing some fun gathering (which is something I always struggle with, anyway, feeling left out). Like If I'm not on for a half hour, I'm going to miss some crucial piece of information?! It's silly, I know. It's something I have to work on. I know I got sucked into it even more when I got pregnant again, I've been so sick for so long that all I could manage was to either sit in front of the computer or sit in front of the tv. Now it's become habit. I try to rationalize it by saying I'm "researching homeschooling/unschooling" or whatever a lot of the time, but honestly most of my time is spent checking and rechecking emails, yahoo groups and facebook. I need to get OFF the computer, out of my chair and get something done! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I'm hoping that once we move it'll help to break the habit. I plan on putting the computer on the second floor landing so I can't just sit there all day. Now that I'm feeling better for the most part, I have no excuse. Though I'm not sure how I'll stay on top of those last-minute emails...and my DD is getting old enough that she wants to go on the computer and play webkinz or other games, so I don't want her paying online where I can't supervise...<br><br>
I'm actually thinking of getting a web-enabled cell phone once we move. We should have a back-up phone anyway; we use Vonage so if we lose power we lose our phone, too. I think it would keep me from getting sucked into surfing but still allow me to check emails periodically. Does that sound reasonable?<br><br>
I don't know. But it's definitely time to reassess and come up with a reasonable solution. I know my kids and I do much better when we have a nice clean home and lots of interaction, so why can't I get my lazy butt off the chair and do something about it? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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I'm on and off all day.<br><br>
Early in the morning I get on, check email, have my cup of coffee and respond to posts.<br><br>
Then we do school, (and I do housework, etc) and when the kid leaves to play with his friends, I come back on. It's just morning then for you guys so people have started to post and there's something to respond to. It's also when I prep for the afternoon's work/tomorrow.<br><br>
I go tutor, come home, eat the dinner the dh has prepared while I was gone, and hang out a bit online until they get home from sports practice.<br><br>
Every once in a while I'll be on here during the late evening, but not much.<br><br>
I do best with small goals. I'll give myself 10-15 minutes online, then 10-15 gardening, doing laundry, knitting, washing dishes...and back and forth. I have such a horrible attention span sometimes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But I've gotten into the habit of trying to make it work for me.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> My kids would love that. So, you don't have your menu or lesson plans or calendar or anything on the computer? Do your kids use it at all for school?</div>
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I've printed my lesson plans and calendars and put them in my binder. And I have the meal plan on the fridge. DD1 does use the computer, but I've found that if I get on it for any reason- even a good one like lesson planning- that it's too easy to get caught up in the, "Well, I'll just check my email. And MDC. And the news...."<br>
So I just don't get on.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've printed my lesson plans and calendars and put them in my binder. And I have the meal plan on the fridge. DD1 does use the computer, but I've found that if I get on it for any reason- even a good one like lesson planning- that it's too easy to get caught up in the, "Well, I'll just check my email. And MDC. And the news...."<br>
So I just don't get on.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"></div>
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That's excellent. I may need to try that this week.<br><br>
For the mamas who do it at certain times, does that work for you? I wonder if I said "Well, I can go on when I'm making lunch, and then get off when we do read-aloud, and go back on after dinner," if that would work.<br><br>
And maybe I just need to not use internet resources for homeschooling (like you tube and such). Obviously, I can't be trusted. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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What I've found is that I spend more time online when I'm not getting the time I need to myself (I'm an introvert). If I'm taking care of that need, I'm much less likely to spend too much time online, and making the computer more or less accessible doesn't have nearly the impact for me.<br><br>
But I am ok with being on and off the computer all day. My priority is making sure that it isn't negatively impacting my kids. I don't mind if it interferes with housework. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">But I am ok with being on and off the computer all day. My priority is making sure that it isn't negatively impacting my kids. I don't mind if it interferes with housework. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"></div>
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well, i have totally fallen victim to ignoring housework, kids, animals, & husband while being sucked into the internet vortex -but that's not a daily or normal thing. i do need to give myself parameters, otherwise 2 hours have gone by and i had no idea! i usually try to use the computer in the morning with coffee time & then a few times throughout the day i check email or MDC, but that's when my kids are playing in their rooms or doing work on their computer (i sit with them and will check email and mdc while watching them<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">). i have to save research of homeschool related topics or blogs to after my dc's bedtime, or i'm very prone to waste way too much time. my husband has yelled to me several times from the other room,"ABANDON THE MOTHERSHIP! COME HOME!. lol<br><br>
i don't record keep online, so that's an issue.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">For the mamas who do it at certain times, does that work for you? I wonder if I said "Well, I can go on when I'm making lunch, and then get off when we do read-aloud, and go back on after dinner," if that would work.<br><br>
And maybe I just need to not use internet resources for homeschooling (like you tube and such). Obviously, I can't be trusted. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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maybe a timer would help?? i know it would help me,lol.
 

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I am on way too much.<br><br>
I am working on it.<br><br>
The irony is - I don't miss it when I am away from home - but when I am home it is like a beacon call!<br><br>
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I think I'm going to give up my idea that I have to lesson plan and record keep online. I can't be trusted obviously (it's not my fault! You internet people are all so goshdarned INTERESTING!) But really, I like paper and pen better anyway. I missed my lesson plan book these past few weeks.<br><br>
I'll still need to do some stuff for work on the computer, but I'm going to try to make that after dinner so that if I get sucked in, I'm not avoiding anything too essential.
 
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