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Hoping, Healing, and Conceiving Again
July 2011

This thread is for women who wish to conceive after a loss and need support, hope and healing. If you wish to be added to the thread or want to modify your info please make requests in bold.
Fertility Friend Charts - Let me know if you want your chart added to the list. If you do, just post the link and add the icon in your post so I don't miss anyone.

Bring on the babies!!

Waiting to O:

Shannon84

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Snadaska

Mamanoish

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Snadaska

TandN

Sienna Forever

3SurfBoys

Waiting to know:

MegEliz

Vegan Princes

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RoseRedHoofbeats
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Lydiah

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Norabella http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1e2b58

AmBam

Yellow Butterfly

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Xerxella http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/21b89c

Waiting to be ready:

maxnmaizy

physmom

Wilson

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zejh

callieollie

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Recent BFP's!

August

July ChiaraRose & sommer
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June Hildare

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April lavatea

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In our thoughts:

lavatea

ZinniaGarden

anansi

marnica

jennabella

kgulbransen

Naturegirl

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*In an effort to keep our header as up-to-date as possible, the threadkeeper reserves the right to move you to "In our thoughts" from "Waiting to O" and "Waiting to know" if you have not posted in this thread or in the previous thread. The threadkeeper may remove your name from the list if you have not posted to the thread within the previous three months. You are always welcome to rejoin the thread at any time.
 

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I thought I'd re-post, as we started a new thread…

snadaska - sorry to hear about the bfn. who knows, though - isn't 11dpo still early to test? could be that this time you are just having a different experience?

MegEliz - I wish your doctor had more to say. Any chance to get a second opinion somewhere, see someone else?

slshoe128 - you made me chuckle. I felt that way too when we were "covering our bases", of course, now DH wants to keep that pace up regardless...not that I'm against it, mind you, but I know how you are feeling!

I ALSO just realized what AFM stood for! so, AFM - this is weird, but I have to ask it because I'm over analyzing every single LITTLE THING - I usually wake up (during the week) at about a quarter to six. I woke up briefly at maybe about 5? or 4:30? with a major twinge on my left side. Felt in the lower abs, on the left - anyone have that? It was weird. Could just have been about any old thing, but of course I'm wondering if anything going on with me is possibly related to potential pg...

Anyone have any thoughts about weird twinges? Can that be an early pg symptom, or just me being silly? Here's my chart:

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/35a220
 

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Thanks for volunteering for threadkeeper, Xerxella!

Don't you hate the weird twinges thing? The only time I ever had a twinge that I knew actually meant anything was the one and ONLY time I had ovulation pain. (two kids ago) I tend to panic and overanalyze everything. I'm obsessing over the fact that I don't "feel" pregnant. You're chart is really looking great though!

AFM: Every time I think about testing in the morning I get that "missed a step" feeling in my stomach. Ugh.
 

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Oh wow, I cannot believe it's July. BYE JUNE DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT YOU ON THE ASS ON YOUR WAY OUT!!!!

I told my mom about my second miscarriage. She was really sad for me and said I should have called her but she was nice about it. I'm going to stay with her for a couple weeks in Texas and I wanted her to know since I'll probably still be weepy and might get my first period while I'm there, which if it's anything like my first post-m/c period from last times, means I am going to be taking lots of hot baths and popping Vicodin.

I am hoping to take it easy this holiday weekend. All my stepkids are coming. If we can just avoid my FIL and MIL and pregnant SIL I'll be happy.

~Rose
 

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MAnna - thanks, I thought I was just being nutto about this...I just need to relax. As for you, try not to put too much pressure on tomorrow am...how many dpo will you be? I totally understand, though!

Rose - hope this weekend is relaxing as can be for you.

I will be charting again tomorrow. I'm totally braced for the drop in temp - somehow I'm not at all convinced conception happened this time. Doesn't mean I'll not be disappointed, but at least I'm trying to brace myself for the bfn that may be in my future next week. I'll wait at least until next Friday, if my temp doesn't drop before then.
 

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I'll be 10 DPO tomorrow. I'm having to sit on my hands not to break down and test tonight. But I figure giving it 12 more hours and using the FMU will make it less likely that I'll see a BFN. I'll probably see a BFN anyway, but if I see it tonight, I'll be depressed (and kicking myself for wasting a test).

Sigh.

I have to keep going back and looking at my chart and saying "it looks good, it looks good, chill out..."
 

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it DOES look good - please post once you test, hoping for good news! 10 dpo is kind of early, too, isn't it? so in theory you could get a bfn but have a later bfp...fingers crossed...
 

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Me and DH are having such a hard time preventing. Both of us hate using the condoms, on principle and the way they feel, and whenever one of us in the mood the other one brings up condoms and then I start crying.

If I weren't still incapable of staying awake for longer than 12 hours at a time I would just say screw it. But I know my body's not ready and I'm fertile enough that it IS a possibility I'd get pregnant in this condition and that would be bad. And I am SO. TIRED. OF. SPOTTING. I am so tired of the smell of old blood. I've been spotting for THREE WEEKS and I want it to GO AWAY and have normal looking normal smelling discharge and then get my period with real blood that's actually red AND THEN I CAN HAVE NORMAL BABY MAKING SEX AGAIN. If I haven't got it in two more weeks (unlikely, I hope) I'm breaking out the ginger and parsley.

I want to be testing with everybody else. =(

~Rose
 

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Rose, I want you to be there too. It's not fair that you should still be in flux like this. Not fair. (((hugs)))

At least I know that if it's a BFN in the morning, I'll have some sympathy here. :) That's nice.
 

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Oh Rose, I am so sorry...I know how it feels to just want your body back to "normal"....after my loss it took so long, and I wasn't even actively ready to try again; that must be really hard because your mind/heart is ready but not your body. But, I think you are right - it's a good idea to wait a cycle to get in the best physical shape you can. That's why my DH and I waited until after my last AF, because that was the first one I was sure of after losing Rex (there might have been AF before that, but it was right after I slowed down the spotting/discharge from the post-birth). I just kept thinking about how I was physically "in training" to get my body ready to (hopefully) get a bfp and have it stick. But, I know - we hated having to mention the condoms. Hugs to you.
 

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rose-im sorry that you are still spotting. i hope everything gets back to normal soon. im really sorry. i know its hard having to wait.

well im looking forward to all of the other testers results.

i wish mine were positive but sadly its not going to happen. im spotting and cramping which is how af starts for me. im pretty disappointed. i hope next cycle ithappens. i hate that i o so late (cd21 or so) it feels like forever from now.

i am going to keep checking the board to see how everyone else fares. we need a bfp (or several) for july.
 

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I think I am having a such a hard time because I almost resent getting pregnant at all the second time. I didn't want to be and I didn't plan to be and I didn't even get to enjoy any of it at all and it just set me back at least a month and probably more like two or three, when if I had just gone off birth control like normal like I wanted to, this cycle would be my first fertile cycle and I WOULD be testing with everybody else, and it just sucks.

I don't even mind if I don't get pregnant right away. I really wouldn't. I just. Want. To try. I feel like I'm exactly where I was a year ago, before we even started trying to TTC. In September, I had my IUD out. In December, I got pregnant. In February, I miscarried. In April, I went on birth control, and sometime between then and May, I got pregnant. And then in June I miscarried again. I MEAN WTF?!?!?!

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Rose, it is so hard just waiting. I remember having to wait after our last m/c and it seemed so WRONG to be avoiding, even though I knew it was the best chance for a baby that would make it. It doesn't make the waiting any easier though. It's funny how each month of waiting or of a BFN just seems soooo long.
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Could you please move me to waiting to know. I am 6dpo now. I am not even remotely hopeful, which in some ways is making the 2ww easier because I'm not dying to test. I am already just waiting for Af. I've already decided that after this cycle, I'm going to call the OB to try to set up more tests or schedule an hsg or figure SOMETHING out. I have an appointment in August and it's supposed to be if I don't get pregnant by then, we're checking in to see "what now?" but I only have 4 doctors visits in a year for anything so I don't want to waste one not really doing anything. So I'm going to try to talk to his nurse (because he's impossible to reach) and see what tests we can do. Does anyone know if/when it's worth re-testing hormone levels? I had it done a year ago and the only thing that was off was progesterone but I feel like things are messed up more now (higher temps pre-ovulation than they used to be, a really slow temp rise... just things that are making me think maybe issues with estrogen, FSH, or LH). I don't know. Did anyone have their levels rechecked or anyone know if there is a norm in when that would be redone, if ever?
 

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I'm really tender over my left ovary (ectopic was completely ruled out on ultrasound when I was at the ER so it's not anything scary) and debating going to the store for chocolate and an OPK. Seeing my pee make a stick do something exciting might be novel. Also then I can be sure that in a few days I won't need to worry about condoms.

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Hi ,, I have been MIA for a while because my body and mind were doing nothing that would have been helpful to ttc. THis is my second cycle trying and I am 1dpo. I had a beautiful ovulation, my clearest in symptoms so far and I am hopeful.....let the long 2ww (Please move me to waiting to know) begin
 

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BFN this morning. Sigh.

And my temp, for whatever reason, was off the charts. 99.66 up from 98.29 yesterday. What? I'm not sick.

I'll be testing tomorrow. I keep trying to remind myself that 10 DPO is early, but in my heart I think that if it's negative today it's not going to change.
 

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Rose - just wanted to say from your post last night that I know exactly what you mean about resenting having to go through it all again. I thought I was done. I only really wanted 2 kids, my last pregnancy was HARD, and the thought of doing it again makes me feel resentful. Hopefully you can find out when you can get rid of those condoms, though, and feel like you can do something. It'll be nice to be able to focus on that. Hopefully soon. Hugs.

MAnna - hang in there, it's early. Interesting spike in temps though.

callieollie - seems like a year is long enough for re-testing...?

AFM - temp up again but I was (a) later than normal in taking it, and (b) DS woke me up at 2:30 so I feel like my rest was messed up, wondering if that has something to do with it. I'm now 7dpo, waiting for testing until at least 13dpo I think unless I get a "3 for 2" hpt package. I had cramps and backache last night, backache still here slightly today. Could be weird, but I never really know what's "normal" for me pre-AF because it's been a really long time (last full AF schedule was over a year ago) and I was never really regular. Still, I'm bracing for the bfn next week.

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Callieollie- My RE re-tests the full hormone panel once a year, I think you should re-test just to see where everything is, a lot can change in a year.

MatushkaAnna- HUGS to you! I am still hopeful for you this cycle, when will you re-test? Thanks again for your advice:)

Snadaska- My cycles used to be really long as well (like 37 days) and it is a long wait...I'm sorry:) I may be right there with you again this cycle, I'm not sure if I "O" yet or not...wierd cycle. Sorry for your BFN this last cycle.

Rose- HUGS to you! I hope your body get back to "normal" very very soon! Hope your weekend goes well:)

ekandrmkb- FX for you to get your BFP next week!

OK OK, I have to ask what does - "AFM" stand for....can't figure it out..haha!

Just in case anyone was worried about my girl parts..haha..they are doing ok for now:) ICE ICE BABY! hahaha!
 

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AFM = As for me

I am so seriously depressed. I'm so freaking tired of seeing negative tests. Yeah, yeah, I know it's not been "long" since the mc, but it seems like longer because I had been waiting to be pregnant for 6 mos before I was pregnant with my son, then lost him at 3 months and now here I am, and I"m on the very wrong side of 35, and if we didn't conceive this cycle then I don't know what else to do. I ovulated (to all appearances), had a nice biphasic chart and we were like bunnies. Everything was "right". I've gone from being "fertile Myrtle" to being ...ok, can't think of a rhyme.
 

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MAnna - hang in there. I totally get it. I just turned (gulp) 39 recently, and feel my time is ticking ticking ticking! I think I'm prepping myself for a bfn next week because I don't know how long we're going to try, and if we start getting bfns every month, I need to try to be emotionally ready. So many people (including my OB) say that the age thing is not that big an issue, but it's a little nerve-wracking, esp. when you thought that your path would go a totally different way, with no loss...having to start all over again is so hard. I wish none of us had to deal with this..

Hopefully for you the next few days will bring some better news!
 
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