With my first pregnancy, I did research, but I could have done more. I was lucky that both the pregnancy and birth were relatively easy. I had a great doctor and they administered my DD's first bath, measurements etc in the room we were in.
This time around, I've done more research, and we live in a new state (Texas) so we went on a maternity tour (my hubby is not comfortable with home birth/etc and I am okay with hospitals). I was shocked when they informed me that they take my babe away for "about an hour". Immediately, I asked "WHY?" (my hubby said I sounded snotty and jumped in quickly to say "Is it necessary to take our baby away for an hour?" (but I was thinking, "No, WHY are you taking my baby away for so long so early after birth?"
I get the standard answer "So we can measure him, give him a bath or a bottle but your husband can go with us while we attend to him".
This was new for me (I've heard it is a standard procedure for hospitals to whisk babies away, but I didn't have to deal with that with number one). I explained to my hubby later "Why would they need him for an hour? He's NOT getting a bottle and why can't they weigh him etc in our room?" It totally bothers me. Not to mention that our son is NOT going to be circumcised...I don't want any early retractions, etc.
I am totally revising my birth plan to include all sorts of things that cover these bases, but my husband has not done any research.....his ability to go with the flow just pisses me off because I am afraid that I will write in block letters on my birth plan "NO BOTTLE, NO CIRCUMCISION, NO RETRACTION, etc" and when he leaves with our son while they have him, I'm afraid that he will be swayed by "Well, the doctor said this was necessary" argument and that our son will be retracted, vaxed or something that I specifically was against.
My hubby is like "Oh, they won't do (fill in the blank) and thinks I'm being paranoid, but s**t does happen, right? The thing is, when HE truly believes in something,he is totally the strong personality and will put his foot down and he doesn't mind conflict. BUT I can totally hear a nurse or whoever say "No, we've got to check his penis for (whatever) reason" and then totally rip him open....
I don't mean to sound as if I don' t have faith in my husband, but he DOESN'T research and I just hope he sticks to the birth plan because ITS IMPORTANT TO ME and I won't be there!
In any case, he may be right....things may go totally smooth and he will not have any issues to contend with and he can call me a total worrywort, that everything was perfect, and my son will be back in my arms within 10 minutes.
I go into this birthing process with a little more apprehension than I did the first time, but I think its because I am more aware. I've tried to talk to my hubby about my concerns, but like I said, he's so much more go-with-the-flow
and just has more faith in the system than I do. I have no idea if I've stressed the importance enough for some of these matters to him (like the retracting and he just says "Yes, yes, yes, but is he really HEARING me?!)
Okay, I'm semi-done worrying.