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<p>So, I just thought I'd throw this out there.  I have been really noticing mood swings lately.  My poor husband has been catching all of it.  I was so angry by the time I got home today because of work, traffic, red lights, and just things in general!  I just want to snap his head off for no reason!  He has been really good about things, but of course keeps asking what he can do to make me feel better.  I know he's frustrated, but I feel like there is nothing I can do to stop myself.  Is anyone else having this problem?  I really don't want or mean to drive him away right now, but as another thread discussed, sex isn't an option right now...and I am just so tired, moody, and feeling so lousy that I just want to be left alone.  HELP!</p>
 

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<p>Me too mamma. I have been cranky with the kids, and that just makes them misbehave and act feisty to me even more. I took an evening away today, so hope that will help with the mood. I;m sleep deprived and hormonal....bleck.</p>
 

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<p>Yes!  It's horrible.  I can keep it together pretty good at work, but then I get home and snap. My patience just isn't there.  I feel bad for my DH sometimes.  The other day my sister told me, "Wow, you sure don't make yourself pleasant to be around"  I wanted to punch her!  It's hard working FT and being pregnant, then being mama when you get home!  :(   Already looking forward to maternity leave...</p>
 

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<p>I'm sorry.  I've had one of the worst blow ups/fights in our 5 year marriage since getting pregnant this time.  I know what you mean.  KNOWING you are hormonal and trying to step back from yourself and your feelings,giving yourself that time to cool off and relax, finding some way of laughing and diffusing the pressure/feelings sometimes helps.</p>
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<p>Probably TMI, if the sex isn't an option because you feel nasiated and gross, I totally understand and I've been there, but if it's not an option because of danger to the pregnancy or whatever, and you WANT to, I would suggest finding some way thoufor you to get in the mood and maybe do some mutual touching, if you KWIM.  It worked for us during the six week waiting period after having my daughter and at some other times for various reasons.  *I* find that that kind of sexual tension reliever is really good for my own emotional wellbeing.  Anyway, I'm probably being silly, but since you brought up the no sex thing, I just thought I would bring up a solution that works for us. :)</p>
 

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<p>I am so glad I'm not alone. Just another example is that right now, my DH is still asleep, and I kinda want to go in there and punch him in the arm and ask why are you not up yet?  It is freaking 12 noon!!!  If you would come to bed at a reasonable hour, then maybe you wouldn't sleep half the day!!!  ARRG!  What are you going to do when this baby gets here????  He works until about 8:30 every night, so I know he's not ready to go to bed at 10 when I am, but 3 or 4 am?  Really, what is going to happen when we have this child?</p>
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<p>But I am sitting patiently.  Trying to monitor myself.  For the past couple of weeks, he keeps asking if there is anything he can do, and there really isn't.  I feel like I've been abducted by aliens or something and had my personality completely replaced.  I have even been getting car sick when I drive or when others do...so the 30-45 minute drive home every day doesn't help.</p>
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<p>As for sex, it is more of a "I can't get in the mood" and part of that is because I feel horrible, the other part is I am just so moody.  I will be laughing one minute and then screaming the next, then crying, then depressed...all within 20 minutes. ???  It is so frustrating, and I can see myself doing it, but there is nothing I can do to stop it! </p>
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<p>I think it helps knowing I'm not the only one, and you guys are right, it's hard to work full time and be pregnant.  I am actually a special ed teacher for students with severe to profound disabilities, so usually my patience is great, but by the time I get home, I just want to be left alone in a room of quiet!  I am so irritable!!  It doesn't help that my DH is kinda a big kid himself.  He stays up so late playing video games, and just doesn't really take much responsibility. I have to nag him to get things done around the house...he doesn't see them. Don't get me wrong, he is an amazing man, but we all have our flaws.  Thanks for listening ladies...it's nice to have a place to rant.</p>
 

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<p>It sounds like your hormones are especially wacky right now.  I think just like some women who get more severe morning sickness (due to hormone increases that our body can't keep up with) you're getting some extra hormone that is making it hard to be on an even keel.  I think you probably will eventually come to a balance and feel better, if not great.  Probably at least by the early second trimester.</p>
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<p>Still, it makes me wonder.  Do you normally have extreme PMS?  I honestly am not sure all of the hormone cocktail that we have in our body while pregnant nor what each one does to us, but I wonder if just tweaking one or another through a gentle herbal suppliment or cream might make you feel MUCH better.  Maybe you could mention it to a practitioner when you get the chance.  Feeling that volitile is frustrating and scary.  You are NOT alone, but you might be able to make things slightly better.</p>
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<p>As for your DH, the pregnancy will be of some effect on him, but the birth REALLY will.  I would encourage you to look into a class like Bradley Birthing.  It was a 12 week class that REALLY got into the anatomy and nitty gritty of birth.  My DH thought it was awesome!  He feels so much more informed about birth than 95% of other men out there (he'll come home telling me about stories where guys try to share their wives birth stories and HE knows what they are trying to communicate).  It was also really empowering for him know how to help me during labor.  It was a wonderful experience for us.  But more dramatic than all of that is the moment when he became a daddy.  He's a great guy too, and there are definitely things that drive me crazy about him, but something really clicked in him when he took on the responsibility of a little person--his little person--in our lives.  I hope that is encouraging.  Just take care of you in these next few weeks!  I feel very strongly that it will get easier soon. <span><img alt="wink1.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="width:15px;height:15px;"></span></p>
 

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<p>Funny you posted this thread ~ I was saying to a friend today that I do not remember being this annoyed all the time when I was pregnant with DS. I skate on the verge of being annoyed at all times where just the slightest wrong statement sends me into overdrive annoyed! I have a friend who has no children (was married for 7 years when she was in her 20s but never TTC or wanted children) ~ but yet she thinks she knows it all sometimes...and most of the time I can overlook ~ now that I am pregnant I just want to smack her. When she found out I was pregnant her first statement out of her mouth was to DH and she says "good shot dude"...and it just crawled ALL over me. Just sounded like a locker room comment that should not make it out of the locker room! She then proceeds to start asking me when I am going to limit my caffeine intake (I only have 1 cup of coffee daily) and tell me I need to do something with my kitchen stools for when the baby starts crawling (because my stools are in a position to keep the dogs from being able to counter cruise). I looked at her and said ~ I am clear on how to have a baby and on what to do once the baby is here...thanks anyway!</p>
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<p>Then I proceeded to go into the bathroom and yank my hair out and scream until I felt better! Part of it is she is so inappropriate because she just doesn't know how to react...the other part is in all walks of life she thinks she knows better than anyone else how to do everything (even if it is something she has never done herself)! One would ask why she is still a friend ~ mostly at this point because DS loves her and she is family to our family (even though she literally could not jump harder on my last nerve if she tried right now).</p>
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<p>Ahhhhh...that felt better! At any rate, I am right there with you feeling like the rest of the world is skating on thin ice with me at all times!</p>
 
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