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DD is 25 months. I have nursed/rocked her to sleep every night of her life. It usually isn't a big deal. I nurse her for 10 minutes then DH walks her around the room for another 15 or so until she's out cold. No problem.<br><br>
Lately, though, he has spent about an hour in there walking her and trying to get her to sleep. Every time he tries to lay her down she freaks out. He is getting very very frusterated.<br><br>
Last night after spending over an hour trying to get her down, she woke up around 3:00. So I nurse her for a while. Maybe 15-20 minutes. Normally I would let her nurse as long as she wants, but I am pregnant and it HURTS and I can't sleep while she nurses so I get exhausted. When she finally accepts that I have to sleep, she wants DH to get out of bed and walk her around. Which he does. But after walking her for about half an hour in the middle of the night, he tries to lay her down again and she freaks out. She was up for about two hours in the middle of the night last night.<br><br>
I thought maybe she was teething, but I don't see anything or feel anything in her mouth, so I dont' know what the deal is. She is, obviously, exhausted this morning.<br><br>
So anyway. We need some solutions. DH actually asked me for a book to read about sleep issues, which is a first. What should I get him? I'm thinking Jay Gordan or Pantley. The thing is though, is that I don't really feel like I want to night wean her necessarily -- I just want her to be able to nurse for a little while and then go to sleep. And to go to sleep at a reasonable time at night.<br><br>
Sigh. Thanks if you got to the bottom of this. Few things are as sucky as being tired ALL THE TIME. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I wish I had the magic solution! Here are a few ideas:<br><br>
When he lays her down, is he putting her in a cold bed? Is he lying down with her, at least for a little while? It might be that the transition is too jarring and/or she fears being left alone. Since you said "in there" I'm thinking she sleeps in a separate room from you? Try putting a hot-water bottle in the bed while he's walking her, and then he can move it out of the way just before putting her down so that she goes from warm arms to warm bed. He could try lying down still holding her and then, after another 5 minutes at least, rolling her off him but staying next to her until she's deeply asleep.<br><br>
Extra cuddling and nursing may be a temporary need as she fights off an illness or develops a new skill. That doesn't make it any easier for you now, but at least it gives you hope that it's temporary!
 

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Have you read the No Cry Sleep Solution? Maybe it will help. The author offers gentle and loving ways to soothe little ones to sleep.
 

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Thanks everyone. We do co-sleep, we just put her down around 8:00 and we get in bed with her later, around 11:00 or so. I hadn't thought of the cold bed thing, I suppose that could be it, but I don't know. I know he does often lay down with her. Pretty much, I think he's tried everything.<br><br>
Angela, I pray that that is what it is what it is, because right now it feels like there is no end in sight. Did Savannah's teeth hurt before they even started poking through? We generally don't do drugs around here, but if she can't sleep because she's in pain, maybe we should try something. Hm, maybe we still have some hyland's teething tablets around. I'll give that a try. Man, now I wish I had waited until her molars were in before getting pregnant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Angela, I pray that that is what it is what it is, because right now it feels like there is no end in sight. Did Savannah's teeth hurt before they even started poking through? We generally don't do drugs around here, but if she can't sleep because she's in pain, maybe we should try something. Hm, maybe we still have some hyland's teething tablets around. I'll give that a try. Man, now I wish I had waited until her molars were in before getting pregnant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Oh the two year molars are EVIL. Savannah's hurt for MONTHS. She really didn't have any trouble with any other teeth, but those... oh those.... They came in ONE-AT-A-TIME to prolong the agony. And they were SLOW... from the -maybe there's a *tiny* bump there- to tooth all the way through would take a month or more. Hylands. All the time. She wouldn't take them, so I disolved them in her water. Hylands and rescue remedy. In every cup of water. Kept one by the bed for the middle of the night. She'd wake up out of a dead sleep (the kid who as a rule has slept through the night not even peeing since forever) SCREAMING.<br><br>
I bet it's the molars.<br><br>
Buy a case of hylands. Rescue remedy for both of you.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
-Angela
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Ani would eat the whole freaking bottle of hylands if I let her. She LOVES them. I'll break them out tomorrow.
 

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One of my daughters did eat half a bottle of them. Sneaky girl. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Not to hijack, but this is interesting to hear how teething the 2 year molars can be the worst. My dd (26 months) woke up and had a HUGE temper tantrum in the middle of the night. I was completely mystified, but yes perhaps she is having a harder time with these particular teeth. I think I am going to brave the snowstorm we are having and go buy some hylands and rescue remedy for me! Oh, and for dd!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
As always, thanks for the insight MDC mums!
 

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Also not to hijack <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> , but I have an Anneke too! I love that spelling!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Also not to hijack <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> , but I have an Anneke too! I love that spelling!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> We love it, too. We hope she doesn't get too sick of spelling it out her whole life, though. We live in a pretty Dutch community, though, so at least for now it's not too bad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We did have someone at the doctor's office call her anna-key, though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> We love it, too. We hope she doesn't get too sick of spelling it out her whole life, though. We live in a pretty Dutch community, though, so at least for now it's not too bad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We did have someone at the doctor's office call her anna-key, though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"></div>
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We're in the Netherlands, so we're safe for now with pronunciation. But we visited family in California and a friend of the family asked "soooo, is it ah-KNEE-key?" Oh boy...
 

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hoping it's teething and thus temporary<br><br>
with our dd tho we had to lay down some "ground rules" so to speak for sleeping. We co-sleep and we will lay with her til she goes to sleep. However, after nursing her every hr after the first 3 hrs all night long for about 9 mos and being totally exhausted and cranky I found a change was necessary.<br><br>
So I will only read to her for so long and only nurse her for only so long and then I lay down with her. If she cries I try to comfort or cuddle or something - but it's not time to nurse again or for more stories. I tell her calmly "Mommy is going nite nite. Let me know if you would like to cuddle with Mommy" and after a second she will usually lie down next to me and go to sleep. I have to say the first night when she was denied breastmilk - after just having it within the last 45 min - she cried like crazy. I felt awful! I cried too and thought maybe I was wrong. But I stayed with her and held her, sang, told her stories - whatever it took to comfort her. The next night was better and now, like I said, she will cry sometimes because she can't nurse for 40 min every hr or so (I also can't sleep while she's nursing espec since she's always had poor latch issues). But she only cries for about a min now and hten will lie down and cuddle to go back to sleep. Most nights she sleeps from bedtime til about 5 AM and then will wake tonurse a lot after that. Mommy is much happier and better rested and now I can finally think about having #2! BTW she is 19 mos.
 
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