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Well tonight was officially my worst bedtime ever and it isn't over yet.<br>
My daughter generally goes to bed no later than 9pm but for some reason tonight she was having a tuff time settling down. I don't have a rigid bedtime for her but when she starts to get overtired it is obvious (does stuff she knows she shouldn't, purposely hurts herself ect) So when this happens I ask her if she would like to nurse (she still nurses to sleep), usually the answer is yes and she is out in less than 2 minutes.<br>
Sometimes she even turns off the lights and comes over to me and says "I need nurses, I need night night"<br>
When she is *really* overtired nothing works. So I give her the option of laying quietly on the couch and listening to relaxing music or nursing. Either way she will usually go back and forth for about 15 mins and then she falls asleep.<br>
Tonight when she was having relaxing time on the couch she said "I want my daddy" (who was sitting on the other couch). I said "daddy is right there, lets listen to music right now". My huband said "You can come be with daddy" and she got down and it totally broke us out of our night time crabby routine. She immediately slipped into the over tired, making unreasonable demands, wanting to both do and not do something at the same time mode. She went and got some books to read and my husband would only read one of them which totally set her off. I took her and tried my last resort activity (watching music videos on youtube of sleepy songs) and she continued screaming so much she threw up, no matter what I did I couldn't get her to snap out of it. I kept singing to her, rocking her, telling her I loved her, that daddy loved her offering to read her stories ect.<br><br>
My husband wanted me to go upstairs and lay down with her but whenever I do that she does the painful bite nursing thing and kicks and slaps me for about an hour while screaming horribly and then falling asleep. The only difference between this and CIO seems like I end up with a lot of bruises. I said I don't want to do that but you can take her up if she wants (because she wanted him anyway) and she immediately stopped crying and I have not heard a peep since they went up there.<br><br>
I feel like I handled this horribly and I am not sure what I could have done differently. I feel horrible and useless right now, I have never seen her so hysterical. I just wanna cry and throw up myself.
 

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Oh my... that sounds awful <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">, I really am sorry that you went through that! Not having an older child, I cannot offer any advice, but only my support... It sounds like you need a candle lit bath with yummy oils, soft music and some quiet for yourself!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Golly, that sounds rough! I'm sure you did the best you could! I bet you wish someone would swaddle you and rock you to sleep! Sometimes that's how I feel!
 

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Sorry you had a tough night. I think I would start bedtime much earlier, 7:30 or 8pm...maybe try being strict about it for a while and see if it helps. I really would not wait until it's obvious that she's overtired. Then it's too late.
 
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