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My little guy is reverse cycling and wake up about every 2 hrs to feed. I'm away from him about 9 hours during the day, and we have 2 hrs of drive time a well - so he spends too much time without mommy and daddy attention. I got used to this and am fine with the lack of sleep. I know my boy need special time with me. BUT....<br><br>
He's gone from just the usual wake ups to waking up with a rage-filled scream. It's not a pain cry. It's a furious angry temper-tantrum cry. He does this no matter what - co sleeping, crib sleeping, swing sleeping... he is furious that I take a minute or two to get sorted out to feed him. God forbid I got to the bathroom first. Major meltdown.<br><br>
Has anyone else dealt with this? We have never CIO'ed yet, but now I'm starting to worry that I might be encouraging bad behavior. There is a big difference between his past hungry cries and the new "NOW!!!" cries. He also screams this way when he's angry that he can't walk yet, or when move him away from something he wants (like a light cord, the cat food). He's starting to show "testing" behaviors... how much he can get away with. Is this one of them? And how can I deal with it?<br><br>
This AM I firmly told him that his tone was unacceptable. And then at the next wake up he cried normally, and I said "yes sweetheart, that's how we ask for milk." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But at 7 mos, that's not likely to do much.... Ack.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This AM I firmly told him that his tone was unacceptable. And then at the next wake up he cried normally, and I said "yes sweetheart, that's how we ask for milk." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But at 7 mos, that's not likely to do much.... Ack.</div>
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You're right that it isn't likely to do much for HIM, but it might do a world of good for YOU. I have found that my mindset and how I talk to my LO makes a huge difference in how I feel about how things are going. (and things have NOT been going well lately re: sleep here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">) Just continue to encourage him when he is exhibiting the behaviors that you are looking for, and grit your teeth when he's not I guess? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> It is so frustrating when you feel like they have a tiny bit of understanding without being able to get them to truly understand. I think the period starting around now (my LO is 6.5 months) is amazing in so many ways as you start to see them figuring things out, but it is also so hard because they just cannot be reasoned with yet.<br><br>
I just keep reminding myself that what my LO can understand is that she has a mama who loves her and will always be there for her, and I remind myself that I am doing the very best that I can every day, even when my best doesn't feel like it's good enough.
 
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