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<p>An etiquette question....</p>
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<p>We are hosting a Christmas Open House in our home this weekend and have invited a large number of people (hopefully they won't all show up at the same time!!).  We are spending a fair chunk of change on food, and I really don't want to spend hundreds more on alcohol.  I also don't want to make it BYOB as this party is meant to be our gift to our friends so we are handling everything. </p>
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<p>If you are hosting a party, and you provide a signature cocktail do you also need to provide wine and beer? </p>
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<p>I am planing on making bellinis (peach puree and champagne), and I will be making eggnog from scratch - which I will leave non-alcoholic but we have rum so guests can spike theirs if they choose to.  Is that reasonable?  I will also have pop and juice for the kids and for guest who won't be drinking, plus coffee and tea. </p>
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<p>It is a family party so I don't expect anyone to have more than a couple of drinks while they are here.  It is not like people are coming over to get drunk or anything. </p>
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<p>So part of me thinks that bellinis and eggnog would be enough, but the hostess-with-the-mostest part of me says to have wine and beer on hand as well. </p>
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<p>I think the two cocktails you have planned would be enough.  We just hosted our neighborhood Christmas party this past weekend and offered beer and wine along with soda, water and lemonade.</p>
 

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<p>We entertain a lot and my thoughts on your thoughts</p>
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<p>I think two alcoholic offerings are just fine for the type of party you are describing.  Bellinis sound delish!</p>
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<p>But, I think eggnog is one of those love or hate drinks and I would considering offering wine or beer instead.  I was at a party recently where they served sparkling wine with a few berries in the bottom of the glass.  You could make you own sparkling punch (with cheap wine) and add some sort of garnish to fancy it up.</p>
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<p>I love the Christmas open house idea.  Our neighbors used to do one every year and we never missed it.  It is possible that guests may show up with a bottle of cheer so you could serve that if you wanted in addition to your planned offerings.</p>
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<p>I didn't do a special party cocktail this year. We did buy two cases of beer and had four bottles of wine.  We already had other things for mixers as well as soda and apple cider.  We  ended up being gifted five bottles of wine from guests!  How many people are coming?  I know how the costs of the party can seem to escalate very quickly.  I would still have a couple bottles of wine and some beer on hand because not everyone will do Egg Nog or Bellini's.  </p>
 

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I'd have wine and beer on hand. Is this the kind of crowd that's likely to bring stuff along? Among my family and friends, people rarely show up anywhere without bringing something, so I would probably have just a bit of inexpensive wine and some beers that we would drink anyway on hand since guests will likely arrive with a bottle of wine/champagne/seasonal beers.<br><br>
I know a lot of people who aren't into sweet holiday drinks (including myself, since many of them include allergens I should keep away from) so I think having the option of a glass of wine or a beer is good.
 

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<p>What time of day is the party?  I think the egg nog and bellinis would be perfect for an afternoon gathering but would suggest adding some wine and beer for an evening party.  (There is no real rationale behind this, just how I would probably do it.)</p>
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<p>Your party sounds great!  I would love to host something like this someday.</p>
 

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<p>Wine and beer can always be used later if they don't get consumed at the party, so I'd probably just have some on hand. I also think it's fine if you don't though -- the drinks you have planned sound great! And people don't tent to notice what isn't there -- they'll leave saying, "Weren't those bellinis delicious?" not "Great party, except there was no beer," you know? </p>
 

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<p>Yummm...that sounds lovely! I think it depends on your family, though. In my family, there would be a revolt if beer were not available. Like another poster, I would opt for belinis and beer, and leave the eggnog/rum out. I love eggnog personally, but a lot of people do not.</p>
 

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<p>I'm assuming this is a during the day open house?  Perhaps in the afternoon?  If so, I think it sounds perfect.  Those prefering something not as sweet can do straight champagne.</p>
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<p>We're doing a Christmas dinner party on Saturday and the plan is to start with champagne and egg nog.  It is a good way to go!  ;-)</p>
 

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<p>We would have beer as well, but I don't think it's necessary.  You aren't doing anything wrong by not having it, but it might be nice for people who don't like eggnog or peaches.</p>
 

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<p>This is what I was thinking too:<br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>limabean</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1285496/hosting-a-party-and-alcohol#post_16116550"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Wine and beer can always be used later if they don't get consumed at the party</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>pianojazzgirl</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1285496/hosting-a-party-and-alcohol#post_16116689"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>This is what I was thinking too:<br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>limabean</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1285496/hosting-a-party-and-alcohol#post_16116550"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Wine and beer can always be used later if they don't get consumed at the party</p>
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Ditto, but if it's a financial burden, no biggie, you know? At least in my circle of friends/family, bringing a bottle of wine or six-pack of microbrew to a party is kind of the standard.</p>
 

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<p>I would be totally fine at a party with just the 2 drinks options offered.  Especially with the other options of coffee, tea, soda, juice, etc.  Then again, I tend toward just water or coffee anyway.  Even though a lot of people don't care for eggnog, I do think people understand it's seasonal and wouldn't nix it for having beer or wine instead.  (plus it makes awesome pancakes or french toast with any leftover).  </p>
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<p>I do think (at least based on stuff we've hosted) people tend to bring beer or wine if they intend to drink at a party - maybe just plan on setting anything like that brought out for people instead of saving it back as a gift.</p>
 

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<p>I am one of those who hates eggnog, I agree it is a love or hate kind of drink. Not to be sexist or insensitive, but I know if my DH was going to be there, he would definitely be searching for some wine or beer, although I am sure he would have a bellini too <span><img alt="winky.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/winky.gif"></span>. But most guys like beer. I have many relatives that won't drink anything but beer at a party..Some guests will invariably bring wine, so you could probably get away with just beer..but I would def buy some-light and regular. Hope you have a great party!!</p>
 

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<p>Yeah, you guys are right.  I'll definitely pick up some wine and beer.  It is an evening party - I set the time from 6pm to 11pm.  I am not entirely sure how many to expect - we have basically invited everyone we know.  I am thinking maybe 30ish adults and 20ish kids will show... but hopefully at different times!  I know friends of ours without kids, or grown children are planning on coming later in the evening in hopes most of the yellers and screamers will be gone by then! </p>
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<p>I expect some people will bring wine with them, but I don't want to count on it in order to serve my guests. </p>
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<p>The bellinis are actually a new addition to the menu.  I was watching a Jamie Oliver show today and he made them by just dumping a can of peaches, syrup and all, into a blender and whizzing it up.  He then poured about an inch of the puree into a glass, added champagne, and voila!  Bellinis!  So simple and so yum I just had to add it to the menu!</p>
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<p>We have been talking about having an open house for years, but this is the first time we are actually doing it.  We set a date and started inviting people in November so we are committed.  I really hope it goes well so we can make it an annual event!</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>just_lily</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1285496/hosting-a-party-and-alcohol#post_16116493"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>An etiquette question....</p>
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<p>We are hosting a Christmas Open House in our home this weekend and have invited a large number of people (hopefully they won't all show up at the same time!!).  We are spending a fair chunk of change on food, and I really don't want to spend hundreds more on alcohol.  I also don't want to make it BYOB as this party is meant to be our gift to our friends so we are handling everything. </p>
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<p>If you are hosting a party, and you provide a signature cocktail do you also need to provide wine and beer? </p>
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<p>I am planing on making bellinis (peach puree and champagne), and I will be making eggnog from scratch - which I will leave non-alcoholic but we have rum so guests can spike theirs if they choose to.  Is that reasonable?  I will also have pop and juice for the kids and for guest who won't be drinking, plus coffee and tea. </p>
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<p>It is a family party so I don't expect anyone to have more than a couple of drinks while they are here.  It is not like people are coming over to get drunk or anything. </p>
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<p>So part of me thinks that bellinis and eggnog would be enough, but the hostess-with-the-mostest part of me says to have wine and beer on hand as well. </p>
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<br><br><p>That would be plenty for my friends and family, we aren't big drinkers here.</p>
 

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<p>most microbreweries will sell you a quarter keg for a very reasonable price-its what we get when we have big parties/events like you are describing.</p>
 

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<p>Most liquor stores will also sell various sized kegs from both large and smaller breweries.  Though for our party (there were 12 adults and some kids) we had a case of Sam Adams and that was enough and we only opened one bottle of wine.  Our neighbors aren't real big drinkers and this was an afternoon party.  Now, if we were still living in WI chances are that wouldn't have been enough.</p>
 

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<p>I vote for just having the 2 alcoholic drinks and having the rest be just juice/coffee/tea/etc.  (Btw, the Bellini sounds fabulous!  I LOVE Bellinis in restaurants and it'd be great to have some at home!)</p>
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<p>Another reason why I'd limit the alcohol, at least around here, is that we've got really strict drinking and driving laws that just came into effect.  Basically if you've had more than one drink during an afternoon or evening, you're likely to be over the limit on the breathalizer test and the fines and restrictions are really hefty. </p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>jeanine123</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1285496/hosting-a-party-and-alcohol#post_16117107"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-right:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-bottom:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Most liquor stores will also sell various sized kegs from both large and smaller breweries.  Though for our party (there were 12 adults and some kids) we had a case of Sam Adams and that was enough and we only opened one bottle of wine.  Our neighbors aren't real big drinkers and this was an afternoon party.  Now, if we were still living in WI chances are that wouldn't have been enough.</p>
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<br><br><p> Ah, yes - I live in WI, so you should take that into consideration when reading my recommendation to have beer, too. ;)</p>
 
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