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I really need some help. I have just returned to work. I teach at an early childhood center and ds comes with me. It is a great arrangement for us except that on the hour drive to and from he screams the whole way. I have been very careful to change him right before we leave and feed him too. He gets so frantic...I am certain he is scared and I can put my hand on his head and drive (though that really isn't the safest thing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> ) but that doesn't help at all. I have stopped and nursed him to calm him down but that seems to make it worse when we start on the road again. By the time we get home he is soaked with sweat and just shaking!<br>
He does not take a paci or anything like that.<br><br>
I need help!
 

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My oldest DD did that, too. And it continued until she started sitting forward-facing, which I put off as long as possible because it's just safer to be rear facing.<br>
I never did find a solution for it, either. She was not the sort to fall asleep in the car - she just hated it! We even tried a different carseat, with no luck.<br>
I just sang to her constantly (at the top of my lungs) when we were in the car, so at least she would know I was there. Not that it helped any, but that's what i did.<br>
If DH were driving, I could sit in the back seat beside her, and that would sometimes help. When she got bigger, letting her pick out a favorite toy to bring in the car also helped a little, sometimes.
 

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My ds used to scream in the car until we got a new car seat. We got him out of the baby bucket and bought him a nice cushy Britax. Now the only time he cries in the car is when he's tired or hungry.
 

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My ds used to do the same thing. We have since switched car seats. He seems more comfortable in his new one. I also give him a set of baby car keys to play with. They seem to help distract him until we get to our destination.
 

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Poor thing, poor you! Hannah was like that too until about 6 months, now she doesnt like the car but she doesnt cry unless we have been in it for more than 20-30min. Im sure she will be much happier when we turn her around but thats going to be a while.<br><br>
I hope your ds outgrows that soon.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> My ds cries and cries. I've tried everything and some stuff works and some stuff never does - it just varies from day to day. I'm so, so sorry for you. Sorry, I'm not much help - just here to offer understanding hugs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> !!!
 

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My ds sometimes cries, but usually it's getting into it when he's tired or would rather be playing. What works in those cases is I strap him in, and then get in next to him and nurse him. Sometimes he drifts off to sleep, other times it just calms him down enough to get going. Also, he always has toys to play with, that seems to help, especially one from infantimo (sp?) that has a mirror on it.
 

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My little boy HATED his baby bucket. (I think it's also because they get really warm in those tight confines.)<br><br>
We put him in the Eddie Bauer carseat at 4 months, and he was a lot happier. We think it's because he's higher and can see more out the windows. We also had success with a couple of car-only toys, so that he's got something to look forward to when he's in the car. Nowadays, he just plays with the toys until he falls asleep.
 

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My son was a little happier in the Britax, but it just means he cries 1/2 times and not EVERY time. I try lots of toys, in fact last time I couldn't help but laugh b/c it was like watching a cartoon from my rearview mirror. I would give him a toy and a couple of seconds later it would be thrown across the backseat! No matter what I gave him he would look at for a second - maybe 30 and then across the car it would go flying and he would start crying again. It was a little comical!! I think this happened through 6 toys!!! Luckily as he's older he's not quite as hysterical - just unhappy!! Still it's torture b/c I am as anti Crying as you can get so it tears me apart to hear him cry - hopefully it'll be better when I turn him around in 2 months!! Anyway, not trying to hijack the thread, but I did want to share the toy throwing incident!!
 

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Chaja said:
hopefully it'll be better when I turn him around in 2 months!! QUOTE]<br><br>
I just want to note that babies not only must be one year old, but also must be 20 lbs before you turn then forward facing. But staying rear facing as long as possible is the safest.
 

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My dd did that too, from the first time she rode in the seat. Finally after 3 mos. of constant screaming, I tried putting her in a convertible carseat. Instant cure! She no longer screams at all. She will look around and then fall asleep when she's tired. I think she was feeling confined and curled up and not able to see anything in the infant seat.<br><br>
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My ds is only 8 weeks so yes he is in an infant seat. He is a big boy and we went shopping today for a convertable car seat (rear facing of course). We will see if that works! Thanks fir all the great replies!
 

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He may just grow out of it too. My dd was like that in the car seat until 5 or 6 months, now the only time she cries in it is if ds is too loud for her.
 
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