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how long is just right for house guests?

  • none, I don't like house guests

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  • less than 2 days

    Votes: 36 25.5%
  • less than 5 days

    Votes: 63 44.7%
  • more than 1 week

    Votes: 24 17.0%
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It depends on how far they've come. If they are within the same state..... 3 days. If they've come from very far away, my limit is a week or two. It also depends on how many of them there are and what kind of entertaining they expect.
 

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Depends on the guest.<br><br>
We had a family of 9 that honestly were just aquaintances stay for a week - yes a full week - last summer because we were a convenient stop on their long vacation (Washington DC). My understanding before they arrived was that they would stay 2 nights.<br><br>
It wasn't as bad as it sounds, but I certainly would have preferred a shorter stay.
 

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I voted two days, but I agree with the PP. It depends how far they've come. Our friend stayed with us two or three weeks when he got back from Iraq and that was just fine. Our other friend used to come and stay for a week at a time. For family though? two days
 

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LOL, I was looking for the 2 week vote.
 

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I think Ben Franklin said, "Friends and fish both stink after three days" or something to that effect <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Personally I don't like people staying in my house longer than a few days.
 

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<span style="color:#0000FF;">DEPENDS WHO IT IS</span> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><b>Mil</b> -- 3 days if she wants to risk her life (buit we are having her 2 months this summer for family stuff -- to help out SIL and to assess if we need to put her in assit living)<br><br><b>my sister</b> -- she can stay a month if she wants.<br><br>
how far did they travel?<br><br>
what are you doing -- holidays, vacation, kids......?<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">LOL, I was looking for the 2 week vote.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> you think I showed my bias <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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well, my dear 80 year old step grandfather claims that if the guests need a new roll of toilet paper in their bathroom, it's time to go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Our family is so far away it only makes sense for them to stay for long periods of time. It's hard preparing 3 traditional square meals a day (as in the case with the older generation who is used to eating a meat dish, side dishes, etc. For some reason when you mix ingredients into one dish they freak out.)<br><br>
For non family I would say three days.
 

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Two days is about my limit for most people. There are always exceptions, but in general, I like my space and my privacy and am a much more pleasant person to be around when I get some regular alone time.
 

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For me, it depends on the person, but for some people, it could be much longer than a week. And it's more about the relationship than distance for me. My little brother lives only 10 miles away, but I would love for him to spend a week with us. My mom lives three hours away, and I usually need her to leave after about 3 or 4 days.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Two days is about my limit for most people. There are always exceptions, but in general, I like my space and my privacy and am a much more pleasant person to be around when I get some regular alone time.</div>
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me too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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i think it depends on the guest. i had one person and their family come, and i was definately ready for them to leave after about an hour. they stayed 2 days, and i could seriously feel my house (as in the structure) give a sigh of relief after they left. it was very uncomfortable for us all.<br><br>
now on the other hand, my dad comes to visit and about 2-3 days is good. we get a long ok, but its still kinda odd. he likes his privacy, as do i, but i have a large enough home that we can all have it.<br><br>
then there was my dear sweet friend/soul mate who came to visit with her family last summer. i could keep them here forever! they were one family that meshed so well with our family that really it didnt even feel like we have a full house (4 adults, 3 kids), communication difficulties (3 members of the family are deaf), or even that they were people i had just finally met in person after 2 years of talking online. they were definately family members here.
 

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We have a 2 bedroom house.<br><br>
Our limit on overnight guests is one girl at a time, for one night only. Once we had two girls sleep over simultaneously and it was a disaster. At this point, DS is too young for overnight guests, or to be an overnight guest, and I won't allow either of the girls to have a boy sleep over.<br><br>
Our limit on whole families visiting is about 5 hours.<br><br>
If cousins are coming in from out of town and need a place to stay, my aunt and uncle live about 20 minutes away (by car) and have a huge house with plenty of room for guests.
 

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I would have voted "less than 3 days" if it had been an option. 2 nights, then get the heck out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> (kidding... sort of)
 

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We recently had houseguests for just over a week - a LOT of them! Next time it WILL be a shorter stay...except for my sister, I miss her OODLES already!
 

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I think I should get a prize <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> My MIL was just here for 6 WEEKS!<br><br>
YES 6WEEKS!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
(she flew in from Australia but still... it was nice to have help but seriously thats waaaaaaaaaay too long!!!)
 

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it depends on the guests. When MIL\FIL come they come from Austria so they stay for 3 months. When we go there it's usually 3 weeks but this summer dh will stay for 1 week the boys and I will be there for 6 weeks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: . When my parents come 3 days. My SIL and her family are going to stay for 2 weeks this summer but they are easy and not like having guests at all. My sil and I mesh well together and love having 2 mommys in the house one to do the cooking and one to play with all the kids. I lived with them for about 2.5 months after the twins were born and loved staying with her. My sis and her girls will also be here for 2 weeks this summer and it will be too short I love having them visit they are easy and loads of fun. So it depends on the guests and how well they mesh with your direct family
 

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you get the prize for sure, 6 weeks is <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">you get the prize for sure, 6 weeks is <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:</div>
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We will be all over Austria too see all dh's aunts, uncles cousins and such. Plus DH and I may just take a quick drive to Italy for a few days of alone time. We also have 4 good friends that stay with us when they are in the US so we can go see them too. But yes I will be more then ready to come home after 6 weeks
 
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