[mistymama]

I'm feeling so mushy lately over DF. I thought it might be fun to start a thread about the little things our partners do that make us so happy. Even those that are annoyed at their partners right now can probably think of a few small things that remind them of why they love their DH/DP.

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I'll start...

He plays guitar and has a beautiful voice. I love nothing more than when he sits down and plays songs for me, or for me and DS. Even better when he teaches himself songs I love (that he does not necessarily like) and plays them for me.

He drives my old POS Jeep and I drive his newer car, everyday. He says he does not mind because it's only a few miles to work .. but each time I drive that Jeep, I'm reminded of what a sacrifice he's making for me.

He had massive foot surgery and one foot is still in constant pain .. yet he goes to work and does a very physical job without complaint because we need his income.

He can't stand to see me cleaning while he sits around. So if I get up to do dishes, he'll come in and help me.

He is an awesome Daddy. This is what has me soooo in love with him. My son is from my first marriage, and my x husband dropped off the face of the earth and just recently gave up his parental rights.

DF is so protective and loving towards DS, and when he heard he will be able to adopt him, he broke down SOBBING for a few minutes, he was so emotional and happy. Watching him be a Daddy to a child who is not biologically his, giving that gift to my son who otherwise would not have had a father ... it melts me.

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I can't wait to hear some more feel-good stories!!!

 

[Clarinet]

Your husband sounds great!

Mine has been making it hard on himself to be a good husband and father because he keeps looking at his parents' relationship for guidance and we are Just Not Like Them. Lately, though, he's taken to thinking about US and what WE need, not what other people expect him to do and going from there. There's been a serious shift in attitude of the whole family the past couple of months.

DH is in the process of sealing the wooden stairs we had built a few weeks ago. Every night this past week, he's sanded and varnished and still has probably three or four coats left to do but they are beautiful.

DH likes to fix and refinish cars. He does great work. He once fixed a car that had rolled over onto the roof and I drove it for a year before we sold it. It amazing, the transformation.

He's also been a lot less whiney about having to watch the kids - this is a big one.

 

[woobysma]

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Originally Posted by mistymama Watching him be a Daddy to a child who is not biologically his, giving that gift to my son who otherwise would not have had a father ... it melts me. :

This is a huge one for me, too. I can't describe it, but it's almost overwhelming watching him just do normal daddy stuff with the boys. I was a good single mom, but I was never a *DAD*

I love that he's never jealous or petty about anything.

I love that he ALWAYS apologizes if he does or says something out of line.

I love that when I said I wanted to switch to PT at work and take a 20% pay-cut, he said "no problem" (.... of course, that came right after I said "no problem" to him wanting to buy a Harley..... that might have had something to do with it......

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I love that he totally supports me going back to school, even if it means he goes to bed alone most nights

 

[Mama Poot]

Okay even though I PM'd you earlier, I guess I'll give it a try...

DH is an excellent father. He loves to play with our boys, has no qualms about changing and WASHING diapers, and is very helpful around the house.

 

[Canadianmommax3]

my dh goes out every single morning (when i'm not working) and buys me a tim Hortons coffee (which i am addicted too) or if he is out and about he'll call and ask me if it want one. (sometimes he'll surprise me and bring me breakfast home which i love)

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[vermonttaylors]

He got up yesterday and took the kids out to breakfast so I could sleep.

He loves me!

I love him!

He loves our kids!

He is funny as hell!!!!!!!!!

Theres more but I gotta run.

 

[Monkeygrrl]

~ he works 5 days a week...then comes home and chips in around the house...
~ he takes care of the kids at a moments notice, when we have to go to the store or have appointments...
~ he doesnt complain that he doesnt have any play money, because he knows that the money went to bills and food and to take care of his family...
~ he loves unconditionally...even those children he didnt help bring into this world...
~ he listens, is willing to be taught, and is willing to learn better ways of doing things...
~ he makes me feel safe and loved and cared for and wanted...

~ she works parttime from home, and takes care of the kids during that...
~ she doesnt question work schedules, school schedules or appointments...she just rearranges her work schedule around it...
~ she puts everything she has into this family to make it run as smooth as possible...
~ these children are hers, whether she gave birth to them or not...and she proves it by her actions and words...
~ she loves and accepts who i am, and who i am becoming...
~ she listens, is willing to be taught, and is willing to learn a better way of doing things...
~ she makes me feel safe and loved and cared for and wanted...

together, the three of us are strong...
life is good...

peace...

 

[mistymama]

Margaret, I had to smile seeing your post. I grew up in Sac but now live in the deep south .. and boy, are there days I really miss it.

 

[graceshappymum]

Wow.....

How nice to see such a positive post about our dps.

My husband works more than he should and never complains, he always looks for ways to make our life more comfortable financially.

He is a phenomenal father, he takes our dd without a question when he gets home from work so that I can have some time to shower peacefully.

He always does the dishes, and says that he enjoys it

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He sings beautifully, (he is an opera singer by training).

He supports me without question in all that I do and sacrifices his wants when I am going through a rough patch......(we almost lost our dog on Wednesday and he was a rock and pulled me through.....the dog should be ok btw).

I could go on and on and on......but I actually have to get some stuff done today....puppy needs meds

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[GradysMom]

He tries!
He does dishes, scrubs poop and loves to watch me breast feed. He hates his job but can't stand the idea of me going to work and putting ds in daycare

he sent me this article from work...
http://www.lifesite.net/ldn/2007/mar/07032607.html

AND when I'm sad at 2 am and I need to talk about how mad I am still about my c-sec... he listens

 

[Monkeygrrl]

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Originally Posted by mistymama Margaret, I had to smile seeing your post. I grew up in Sac but now live in the deep south .. and boy, are there days I really miss it.

we love it here...although are thinking of moving out of the city in the next couple of years...staying close enough to commute, but out of the city...

peace...

 

[cappuccinosmom]

I never have the time to write down everything I love about my husband.

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The latest brownie points he got because of this conversation:

Dh: You smell good. Did you use something?
Me: Coconut oil on my dry patches, is that it?
Dh: No, you just smell like a mother.

He is very, very affirming, which I appreciate. I do not expect him to be up with the baby, because he wakes at 3 am for work and then does home repair on the side (besides which, he doesn't have what the baby wants anyway

) . But often when I am up with a wakeful baby, or when I fall into bed after said wakeful baby falls asleep, dh will half wake up and say "Thank you so much for all you do. I see all your effort and I appreciate it. You are such a good mother!"

 

[Unoppressed MAMA Q]

we are spending a lot of time talking and bed-sharing lately, and it is revealing a sweet and dependable intimacy that, in the insanity of providing hardcore attachment parenting to two children, i had almost entirely forgotten existed. now the kids are getting older, and my insane attachment to complete perfection in parenting is giving way to a certain level of peace and comfort that i didn't believe possible. i think i'm in love with my whole family! as long as i don't have any more babies, we're going to be OK!

tonight the kids are gone, and we're just going to go to bed ALONE and read and sleep naked, and not clean the house or visit family AT ALL! gotta run!

 

[mean_jeannie]

Well, he mowed the lawn yesterday. That's got to count for something. And he makes the baby laugh like crazy.

Okay, no, I'm really going to think of something he does that makes me happy.

Well, he makes the baby laugh like crazy.

No really, he defends my parenting style and really means it. That does make me happy - that he's got my mommy-back!

 

[Jmo780]

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[Emzachsmama]

He works really, REALLY hard so that I am able to stay home with the kids. He knows it's really important to me.

He loves my dd like his own - actually he considers her his child regardless of what biology says.

He tells me he loves me at least once a day, every day and usually more.

He put up with my messed up family because he knows family is important to me.

He snuggles with me all the time just cause he loves to be with me.

He took the kids swimming today and when I mentioned that I was going to do housework while they were gone, he told me to just sit and relax and enjoy the peace and quiet and that the housework can wait.

He lets me sleep in every weekend because he knows I love to sleep

We have been married for almost 9 yrs and I love him more now than I did on our wedding day.

 

[Soul-O]

First off...

Hi Candace

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On to the topic at hand:

My DH is totally wonderful in every way possible. He has stepped up to the plate in a big way with the two oldest DSs (from my first marriage to a highly abusive man) and has loved and cared for them as they deserve. He is a terrifically gentle and involved parent to DS #3. He is committed to having me stay home as long as possible because he truly understands the benefits that a SAHM has for a family. He not only defends but really champions my mothering style and never hesitates to point out how the children benefit from extended nursing. He is my greatest cheerleader, a perfect shoulder to cry on, kind, thoughtful, and understanding. He's even a great cook and very helpful around the house! Not to mention the fact that he is brilliantly smart, super clever, extremely fit (runs on an Army 10 miler team), and very handsome & sexy. I really can't say enough positive things about my DH!

 

[mistymama]

Tabitha, CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!

I've got to get my new xanga up and going .. had to take it down during all the court stuff with my x.

Stephen is such a perfect fit for you.

 

[becoming]

My DH still gives me butterflies.

He works so hard to make our home a beautiful, peaceful place for us and our children.

He cares about our kids deeply and is always trying to teach them "life lessons," which is really cute since our 5.5-year-old doesn't listen and our 20-month-old doesn't understand.

He loves my daughter like his own. (She was conceived/born during our separation/divorce, and we reunited 3 weeks after her birth.) He treats her exactly the same way he treats our DS.

He is so, so understanding of my many flaws and hang-ups and strange ideas on things. He just goes with the flow.

We are really and truly a team. I feel like we are two hearts and two minds with one common goal -- to raise a happy and healthy family. It is wonderful to feel like TRUE partners.

And we have such awesome memories together that I can always look back on and smile, even on our worst days as a married couple.