[Kylad]

I am suddenly so afraid, I am 33 weeks pregnant and have a amazing nineteenth month old son.
I left the father of my children about four months ago and now I'm suddenly panicking.
I just got out of the hospital because i caught a virus and ended up really dehydrated and contractions started, they were able to stop them and once rehydrated I'm much better, but the scare got me thinking.
This baby is actually coming, it's hard enough being a single mom of a one year old, how am I going to be a single mom of a one year old and a newborn.
I remember how hard it was after my first, not being able to sleep, breast feeding was horrible and painful in the beginning, every time I fed him I cried, the bleeding, the healing, the crying and once again no sleeping.
I had some one who helped me then and it was still hard, and there wasn't a young toddler who needs my attention.
I'm freaking out I'm going to be doing this pretty much alone and with out help, my family is very unreliable these days and my ex will help a bit, but I seriously doubt it will be all that much (though I am really hoping he will surprise me) my son is going to have a hard enough time with this and I'm afaid that he isn't going to get enough attention and it's going to some permeant damage or make him associate the baby with crazy mommy, or loosing that only child spot.
Lol I've deffintly hit the crazy point of this pregnancy, but i can't help it I'm really afraid and I have no idea how I'm going to balance it all and still be a normal sane good mommy all through it.
I don't know what I'm looking for lol reassurance that it will be all right, advice on how to get through it and still be a good mommy, any thing will be appreciated.
And thank you in advance

 

[2xshy]

first off you need a hug.

You WILL get through this, I know that. It may be tough but you will make it out the other side and be that much stronger.
You are 33 weeks now so you have some time make a plan of how to cope the first few weeks.
You said your family is unreliable, but what about friends, a neighbor, someone from church or something similar. Can you reach out and ask them to be around once the baby comes so you are not overwhelmed? I don't know what you relationship with your ex's family are but maybe you could talk to them too.
Are there services in your area for single mothers that could be of use to you? If you don't know try and see what is available.

I can only imagine how scary this is, but try to be optimistic. While no one knows what kind of personality this babe will have, you may find it much easier this time around now that you are already a mama.

I'm sure there are others who will have great advice for you here.

 

[DaughterOfKali]

Be strong, mama. You can do this!

 

[attachedmomto3]

i agree with pp you can do this and you will do this!

you might want to look into a postpartum doula. or someone who can come over and help out from time to time. and start cooking and freezing dinners now, so you'll have something easy stocked up.

maybe you could go to LLL meetings in your area and become friends with some moms there or one of the leaders, so you would have someone like that to help you out with breastfeeding and to help with your toddler if you needed a break. all the mommies i've meet through my LLL meetings were wonderful!

stay strong and optimistic, you'll make through!

 

[lolar2]

I am neither single nor pregnant, but if I were, I would look into staying with relatives (even unreliable relatives) for a few weeks or months just before and after the birth, if at all possible. I've known several friends and relatives and acquaintances who did it that way.

 

[canadianchick]