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Well, up til now I really have had no need to discipline DD, but now at 5 months she is crawling, and seems to be fascinated with all of the electic and/or phone cords that she sees. Seriously, I cannot even go to the bathroom without sticking her in her exersaucer, or crib (with toys to play with <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> ). So far I have said "no, you cannot play with that, you could get hurt. Here are some of your toys" and place her by some of her other toys. It's not exactly working :p She still just looks at the cords, and keeps moving toward them. I have got rid of almost all of them, and tried to baby-proof the room as much as I can, but I cannot possible make it totally safe for her, KWIM? How do I start discipling her? Or is it even discipline if you just say "no" and move her? She also pulls hair and such, but not too bad, and I usually just unfist her hands, and don't say anything. She loves exploring new textures, and it is just part of her learning.<br><br>
Any ideas? How and when do you start disciplining? She is still too little to understand most of what I say <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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Well, disciplining isn't really *about* saying no and punishments and such. Discipline is the way that you speak to your kids, listen to their wants and needs, and respect their individuality so that they respect you, in return. You have been "disciplining" since the day your child was born. By talking to her, explaining how, what, and why you are doing what you are doing, etc.<br>
*Discipline* in a no, don't do that/punishment sense is just an extension of this. You see her going for the wires, and you gently explain that they could hurt her, so you re-direct her. If it doesn't work, you move her to a safer play area or get rid of the wires somehow. That's about all you can do, in a "discipline" sense. If you start this type of interaction now, she will accept it and respect it in the future, as well. In a couple of years, when she tests you by running toward the street repeatedly even after your explanations and redirection, you basically do the same thing: show her you mean business by taking her inside to do something safe as a natural consequence. It takes a lot more efforts than threats and time-outs or spankings or whatever, but it works much better in the long run.
 
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