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haven't been here much, dh and I are still working on our relationship its working out better with him not living here...<br><br>
Baby is due in 2 months..the earliest I told him he could move home would be one year. When I am done school, once he's set in place some of the things I've asked him to do (counselling...quit smoking....yeah you know how quick those are comming along <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Exhausted? I can think of a few more adjectives. Tired, annoyed, upset, betrayed, lonely, bitter...the list goes on. I'm about 6 months now...things are SO hard with my babys dad. Its really difficult. He is so disrespectful and openly is seeing other women at this point. I'm trying to stay focused on keeping my household sane. Trying to get my 7 year old son through this last week of school. Ugh...wondering daily (when the tears stop choking me up) "what did I get myself into".
 

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Oh mama that's horrible he's openly seeing other women while you are pregnant (what are those tarts thinking?)...I don't think selfishness on that level is personal but I think its terminal <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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MY STBX took our kids and the new GF to the movies the day after I delivered our baby. LOTS of people we knew were there. Lots of people that knew I just delivered a baby.......It pissed me off.<br><br>
Anyways to the OP- I am makng it, barely.
 

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wow peachymomma....<br>
luckily the only thing my husband would commit infidelity with would be his work not another woman...he thinks with his motherboard..<br><br>
how are the nights alone with new baby?<br>
I am dreading that as he's only comming over 2-3 nights a week...and I am sure screaming baby isn't going to make him come over more..
 

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yea...im horrified of the new nights with a crying baby....ALONE <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Ah nights with a new baby. Actually haven't been horrible. This little man is just the calmest thing, ever. (knock on wood or something)... We are finally all moved in, and getting unpacked. The kids are all adjusting to a new schedule, etc and the babe is good. Me, well I'm crazy. Good days & bad days. Lots of impatience. I feel like I wasted precious time, I want to be settled. In a *nice* relationship with another <i>adult</i>, and dammit I don't want to have to start all over. I don't want to put the kids thru that, nor do I want to keep doing it...<br><br>
Like I said, good days & bad. Trying to focus on what's good right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">how are the nights alone with new baby?<br>
I am dreading that as he's only comming over 2-3 nights a week...and I am sure screaming baby isn't going to make him come over more..</div>
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So far I have survived them.... What I am really dreading is the first time another child is sick and I have two crying. Thats gonna be BAD! He always helped with the older child. Now I am gonna have to figure it out... Keeping my fingers crossed that it is several months from now....<br><br><br>
Oh yeah my LO is much calmer than any of the other have been! Gods helping me out there!
 

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Honestly, I'm wanting to be a fly on the wall in your houses JUST for a little while. I find it so hard and you guys have like 3 and 5 kids!!! I'm over here clapping loudly for you all being so strong. I've gotten good at being a strong mother to one. But I'm not in love with his father, so it was easier. I have managed to put food on the table (okay right now we don't even have a kitchen table) but food was in hand, about to have my masters degree and my son is not yet a lunatic. But two kidssss??? I'm scared to death! I'm scared I'm gonna want his father here, but that can't happen because he's now emotionally attached to another woman.<br><br>
3 more months until the new baby comes. I can't wait to fall in love with him, and I'm figuring that he will make all of the sleepless, lonely nights worth while.
 

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hey guys, I've been on here for awhile but started posting a few weeks ago when I found out I was pregnant with a surprise baby from my fiancee who is one of the more confusiing people I have been with since he found out I was pregnant and that I wouldn't terminate or adopt out. This has been so hard. Not because of the baby so much. I am actually really looking forward to a new one (my youngest is 9).<br><br>
The weird thing is, after he decided to stop treating me like crap for not getting an abortion, declared that he still wanted to marry me, stated that he would be supportive etc, he has not told a single one of his family or friends.....I am no longer "allowed" to see his kids, his family, or friends, I have not been to his place for over a month. He has not asked me once about how the pregnancy is going, plans for the birth, who I am using, how my last visit was (I've been spotting on and off), or discussed it with me at all. When he comes over to my house to visit he just sits or stands there, doesn't ask me if there is anything he can do, help with, blah, blah blah. It's so weird. and now he keeps asking me if I miss him, if I love him, etc.. etc. At this point all I say is "love you" on the phone. Truth is, I don't know how I feel. We had so much in common, same beliefs (mostly), like to travel, etc. etc. we really hit it off and I could see myself being with him long term unlike most of the guys I've dated since my divorce over five years ago.<br><br>
I know there isn't much you guys can say, I said a bit about this over on the red flag thread but I really need some support, would love to hear other folks take on his behavior. I'm not worried about being a single mom again, just not sure about what to do about the relationship.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know there isn't much you guys can say, I said a bit about this over on the red flag thread but I really need some support, would love to hear other folks take on his behavior.</div>
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Heed the warnings. He's sending you a very clear message that he isn't interested in this pregnancy, so be prepared (mentally, financially, physically) for him to continue after the baby comes. He could surprise you, but be prepared.<br><br>
I don't mean to be harsh, but his actions are speaking pretty darn loud.<br><br>
I did not heed the warning signs, and ending up alone with a newborn baby without a plan for this was a big mistake on my part. I am so lucky to have my family and XH (whom I co-parent the older 3 with), as they have been so wonderful during this past 6 weeks. But not being prepared after so many warnings can be/is very difficult.
 
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