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i know this is my son and i adore him, but i am pregnant 8 months and he is 3 years old. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">...please tell me how to manage his energy outbursts with my pregnancy hormones....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I guess it depends on what you mean by energy outbursts.<br><br>
DS is 21 months old and I have found that my patience is very low. If he is throwing a fit because he is either upset or angry, I just have to walk away sometimes and calm down. When we're both irritable we seem to feed off of eachother and then both of us are miserable.<br><br>
He also goes through times when he is so excited that he doesn't know what to do with himself. He will kick, jump, run around or anything else that seems to pop into his mind. At those times, I just try to get out of the way of any flying limbs and let him go.
 

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My mother always says.... at 2 your kids do things that drive you crazy, at 3 they do things TO drive you crazy. Try to keep your sense of humor because our kids will tend to feed off of our reactions. You only have a couple more months of pregnancy left with just that time left with your 'only' child... try to take deep breaths and let it go...<br>
Any playgroups or parks or something where you can go and let him run off some energy?
 

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My dd is full of energy lately also. And if the whining doesn't disappear I will probably go insane soon.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> but I love her and keep thinking this pregnancy is almost over and then I will have more energy and it will be warm outside to go play outside.<br><br>
I try to set her up with crafts and take her out once or twice a week to a playgroup or something to get some energy out.
 

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DH and I have been trying to get dd out of the house more now that the weather is getting nice. Playgrounds, the mall, visiting our new house, going out in the back yard and playing in the dirt. I've also been encouraging her to play at helping me around the house since she likes to imitate a lot. But dh got sick last week and now she's sick too so we stayed in bed all day yesterday and nursed and slept and watched a movie on repeat.<br><br>
If you can't handle his energy, it's okay to let other people help him run it out.
 

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i don't handle him very well, i imagine...<br><br>
he's 4.5 and full of energy and very stubborn. i'm fairly certain some of his stubborn-ness and such is acting out b/c of stress from a newborn coming ... i'm sure it's very stressful being a little guy and just not really knowing what's going on, but something big is coming.<br><br>
but my patience is at a low and i TRY TRY TRY, as does dh ... at this point, i'm almost convinced there'll be less stress once the baby is here and we have the whole delivery, etc., behind us and can finally move forward, you know?
 

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Yeah I'm not doing very well either. DS is 21 months and he's a very good boy. but he wants to jump on my tummy or wants me to chase him and I can barely walk!
 

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Hmmm. Yesterday, my 5.5 year old threw a major tantrum for over an hour. I totally knew that she was tired, hungry, and that the time change has been hard on us all... BUT I still handled the whole thing badly. Especially, when I went to pick up my 12 year old and he'd ridden the bus home when I told him I'd pick up... That was after the 15-20 minutes I sat waiting on a train to move. Oh, then I came home with tantrum-throwing dd to wait on ds and one dog had chewed a piece of dd's art work and the other had crapped in the bathroom...<br><br>
It's not just toddlers, let me tell ya! Yesterday when dh walked in the door, I told on everybody and had a crying-fest.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Serenity now!!!<br><br>
The only advice I have is, TRY TO STAY CALM, as soon as I get worked up, upset, or stressed, everyone else in this house just feeds off of it... It is true, "if mama ain't happy..."<br><br>
Hang in there!
 

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it can be challenging, that's for sure. i definitely see a correlation between how grumpy i am and how whiney and challenging they are, so i'm trying really hard to stay positive.<br><br>
Get 'em outside to run and get that energy out as much as you can. preferably someplace where you don't have to watch them like a hawk every second so you can sit and relax while they play.<br><br>
we made some playdough the other day and man - they played happily with it for like 3 hours! it was the most awesome thing ever! it made me realize that i haven't been planning as many fun activities and crafts and things with them as I used to - so that's inspired me to do more, since it made them so happy *and* gave me a break to boot!<br><br>
the end of pregnancy with other kids is just hard. i actually find it a lot easier to deal with once the baby has arrived - i'm not nearly as grumpy and uncomfortable.
 

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We've been going on looooooong walks and she even wants to pull the wagon so it really wears her out. We try to go outside a lot or we turn on a cd and dance. Anything to get her moving.
 

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I notice a direct correlation between my mood and the kids whining too. I also know that when it gets too much to handle, what works like a charm is just not saying a word, pulling out some activity (play doh, crayons, fingerpaints) and sitting down and doing the activity. The screaming/fighting/whatever is going on will stop almost instantaneously as they get interested in what I'm doing and then they follow suit.<br><br>
5 - 10 minutes of concentrated playtime will buy me an hour or two. Honestly.<br><br>
I'm still not coping with being a mom and being this pregnant... don't get me wrong<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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I'm DDC crashing here but I am SO in the same boat. I have a 3 yr old and a 20 month old. I find myself praying in my head 20x's a day for God to help me keep my cool.<br><br>
My three year old totally does things that he knows he's not supposed to and then laughs about it really annoyingly at my face.<br><br>
Yesterday my 20 month old dug poop out of his diaper so my 3 year old stuck his hands down DS's diaper too. So they both had poop on their hands. I was just bawling while I was scrubbing their hands.<br><br>
It does help to get outside but today and yesterday are the first semi nice days we have had in months. 39 degrees, we're headed for a walk in a few minutes in fact!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I notice a direct correlation between my mood and the kids whining too. I also know that when it gets too much to handle, what works like a charm is just not saying a word, pulling out some activity (play doh, crayons, fingerpaints) and sitting down and doing the activity. The screaming/fighting/whatever is going on will stop almost instantaneously as they get interested in what I'm doing and then they follow suit.<br><br>
5 - 10 minutes of concentrated playtime will buy me an hour or two. Honestly.<br><br>
I'm still not coping with being a mom and being this pregnant... don't get me wrong<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"></div>
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That's a really good point. I know a lot of the time my boys are just starved for my attention. I've been tired & sick & sore for so long now they just want their mom back I reckon.
 

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God, I hear ya. Bear has been sick this week and has had two MASSIVE fits, one of which was public. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I felt so bad for him, I knew that he was coming down with something and flat couldn't handle it. We were at my parents' house for his riding lesson and there were lots of other people there doing other things and a very befuddled riding teacher. It was one of those, "I want to ride!" "Nooooo, I don't want to ride." "Nooooo, I want my horse!!!!" "Noooooo, don't put me on there!!" (Clinging to a slightly worried pony's stirrup all the while) Then when the teacher hopped on to school the horse while he got his act sorted out it was, "Noooo! That's MY horse! I don't want to share!" Then we degenerated to, "I want to sell my horse! I don't want her! Give her to another kid!" After the lesson was up (and the pony was going beautifully with the teacher, I might add. At least it worked out for someone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) we had the "Oh god, I blew my riding lesson!" realization... We had been sitting by the arena in some folding chairs and he wrapped himself around his like a danged octopus on a clam. Luckily one of my friends helps my mom out and was there at the time. The two of us had to literally pry his hands off of the chair and drag him to his carseat. GD was out the window by that point, he was at risk of hurting himself and me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> He spent another 15 minutes screaming in the car. That afternoon he popped a fever, surprise surprise.<br><br>
Then last night he came home a grumpy poop from preschool. DH and I just kind of looked at each other, knowing what kind of a night we would have. Gave him every opportunity to calm down and behave, tried listening to what was up with him, were flexible with the routine and he was just flat being defiant, grumpy and smart mouthed. It degenerated over the course of the night into an hour long, Hulk-esque rampage through the house. Afterwards DH and I just kind of collapsed into a heap, feeling rotten. Its one of those things where we know he feels like crap (still has a nasty cough) but he just can't be allowed to act that way, you know? I'm feeling really distraught because I just can't imagine a scene like last night or earlier this week with a newborn added to the equation. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Sometimes I feel like I'm just setting the whole family up for disaster.... And I just don't have the physical or emotional energy to deal with it. *sigh*
 

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Exactly!
 

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thank you so much for your answers. it is so comforting to know that i am not the only one going through this....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">....we live in the village so no playgrounds here...but the whole village is the playground after all! we have sheep and goat and chicken and dogs, the problem is that i am too lazy to go to our new house \(still under construction) to take ds there....he hates to walk and we end up screaming and dragging..<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">...almost no kids his age around us to play with and we homeschool so he is not in kinder garten of course. now i am trying to put him to sleep at noon so that i can have some rest....and dh can take him sometimes to play with the sheep, but only few times. it is just seems unbearable sometimes to be stuck with him all day long on my nerves only <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">....my poor little guy and i say i love him soooooooooooooo much <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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DD is 3 and going a little wild at times too. I went through a period where there was a lot of yelling and tears, but in the last month or so I've just let it roll off my back. I find myself walking out of the room and letting her kick and scream on the floor a lot more. I also speak to her very quietly (but still ina focused way) when she's acting up and it forces her to quiet down to hear me. She had a horrible tantrum the other day and I finally said "well, you do this...I've got some other things to do" and went upstairs. A few minutes later the crying stopped and I heard a little voice call to me "Mommy! I'm happy now!"
 

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sometimes to solve the things out i use threats....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hide.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hide">:....and i hate myself after that..do you go that far? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I don't handle very well.<br><br>
I've took him out for a playdate Wednesday. It was so nice being out of the house and just letting him play without worrying about what he was into. We are going out today again too. I've stopped trying to make him stop doing stuff because I just don't have it in me and it is a fight. As long as he isn't going to hurt himself ... do what ever... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">sometimes to solve the things out i use threats....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hide.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hide">:....and i hate myself after that..do you go that far? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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This week has been rough, my 5.5 yo and 4.5 yo have been home on springbreak all week. I don't think they are used to all this together time any more and I'm about to go crazy listening to their fighting and whining. I also have a 2.5 yo and he is used to having me all to himself so he's acting out. Fun stuff! It doesn't help that DH has worked CRAZY hours this week. Its giving me a preview of this summer and its making me really, REALLY nervous.
 
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