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First off, I have to say that DS (3.5 months) <span>HATES</span> the car. Not the car seat, just the car. So any outing is a major 4H project. DD (9) is wonderful and tries sooo hard to help. She sits next to him in the car and alternately tries his pacifier (which he couldn't care less about) or singing to him, or shushing him, or bouncing his care seat up and down, or trying to give him a bottle of EBM or water. Usually NOTHING works and he just screams the whole time.<br><br>
I have been limiting the stops we make on each trip, even though I prefer to be somewhat environmentally responsible and try to get as many things done as possible while out so that i don't have to drive the car each day. Getting in and out of the car is as traumatic as those effing stop lights and traffic jams that he thinks are there mainly to torture him.<br><br>
Here's the problem. We are going on "vacation" in 2 weeks to visit various grandparents. Some in North Carolina and some in Michigan. So we not only have 4 flights which will probably be nightmareish, but <i>in</i> each state we have an approximately 3 hour car trip to make each way.<br><br>
I don't know what to do to make life easier for my poor baby in the car. My breasts are way to small to feed him in the car seat, though I do intend to sit next to him when I can.<br><br>
This sound awful to me, but here's the only idea I've come up with so far is to maybe give him a treat while we drive so he can make some sort of positive association with the car. I can't think of anything that would be a good (lets face it, bribe <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: ) for a baby this young except maybe extremely diluted juice or something. He's only ever had breast milk and I'd like to keep it that way, but I'm dreading this trip so much.<br><br>
Any ideas? We plan to stop every hour or so, but I think that might make it worse if we have to take him in and out of his seat or the car. And we already bought our tickets and everyone is waiting to meet the baby.<br><br>
HELP!!!
 

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I have fairly small breasts, but I can nurse in the car. The trick is to get a convertable car seat, so the baby is sitting up (rear-facing, of course!) rather than lying down. Then you can lean forward (maybe even on your knees) and nurse. I found that DS would fall asleep after a little while in the car, so long trips were actually easier than short trips. Also, I found that getting cds/tapes of kids music helped a lot, DS loved music from birth.
 

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Oh gee - you ARE in a tight spot. Firstly, I'd black out the windows he can see through or put a little blankie over the carseat so all he can see is the person next to him. Facing backwards is very uncomfortable for a lot of babies. It has something to do with the motion, and their heads just swim (think about facing backwards on a rollercoaster). Reduce the effects by reducing his field of vision to stuff that is not moving (the MOTION is still there, you can only do so much).<br><br>
I don't think juice will make a huge difference for him. What might help (and it sure sounds like you dd is on the right track here) is for him to be surrounded by happiness in the car. Sing, laugh, enjoy the time togeher. Interact w/him as much as possible. I know it's almost impossible to do that at 50 decibles of howl, but keep trying.<br><br>
Hugs, 'cause you are a good mama for loving your baby so much! Good luck and have fun!
 

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Maybe you could go hang out in the car and do fun things while it's parked in the driveway whenever possible. If it's the car and not the motion, it might help him associate the car with fun times.<br><br>
Good luck mama, I hope your babe adjusts <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I am so with you mama! My 4 month old has hated the car, but it seems like it's getting a teeny bit better. What I have done is just plan a trip when he looks like he's ready for a nap. that's helped tremendously in cutting down the stress of the trip.<br><br>
Anyhow, I'm curious as to how your trip goes, because in 1 month we're going on a similar trip, with 8 plane rides and lotsa car. I've been worrying about it myself.
 

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Along the lines of what some other posters have suggested, when DS was very young, we hung a blanket between the top of his car seat and the back of the seat he was facing to form a sort of tent over him. The view out the back window when we were moving was overstimulating him; once he couldn't see out, he relaxed and went to sleep.
 

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My babe SCREAMED like someone was stabbing her in the bucket. When we moved to the convertable, she was MUCH happier. She still fusses sometimes, but if I'm sitting next to her or in the back row and looking over the seat at her, she will calm some now. She's also able to sleep in the convertable while she never fell asleep in the bucket.<br><br>
She turned 4 months last week and something magical happened. She still isn't thrilled about the car, but she is a bit easier to calm. We had to teach her to use the paci too, dh would give it to her a lot at home and I would always give it in the car. I try to only use it in the car - but I had to buy 6 of them because when they fall out or she spits them out, I can't reach them at her feet, and 6 of them will get us most places around town with no problem.
 

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He has a bucket in my car and a convertible in dh's car. He doesn't care for either one. I will try some of the various suggestions. Also someone suggested rescue remedy, so I will try that (as soon as i figure out where ours went <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> )
 

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We just took a trip across country with our DD who is just about 4 months old. We flew from Pa to Ca. We had connecting flight.. The first flight wasnt too bad.. she sat on our laps the whole time and only cried or fussed when she was tierd.. We did have trouble nursing her b/c she was so into other people and what they were doing and she would get really cranky and really fussy..she did scream a couple of times and I did get some dirty looks from a woman in first class but whatever man.. other than that i would say she did better than me.. I hate flying..<br>
As for the rent-a-car.. she hated it.. She did not like being in a foreign car at all. So I sat in the backseat while my DH drove.. and I nursed her to.. I guess I can say i'm pretty flexible..Haha.. but we were in LaJolla Ca the Beverly Hills of San Diego and I kept getting looks from people in their BMWs and minicoppers..lol..oh well..<br>
it worked
 
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