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I just closed down my daycare last month and was feeling really burned out before then. In comparison, looking after my two children vs. looking after my two children plus other people's children is soooo much easier!
Still, I'm getting my first weekend alone in nearly a decade of parenting and I know I could really use it. I'm 7 months pregnant and have two very, very busy kiddoes. It's not hard to feel burned out after a few years of looking after kids full-time, you know? I wouldn't change it for the world, but it's a challenging profession.
Still, I'm getting my first weekend alone in nearly a decade of parenting and I know I could really use it. I'm 7 months pregnant and have two very, very busy kiddoes. It's not hard to feel burned out after a few years of looking after kids full-time, you know? I wouldn't change it for the world, but it's a challenging profession.
TOTALLY burned out, and I am not even a SAHM. (just noticed the last post title on the menu and thought I'd lurk a bit). But I'm getting a divorce, starting a new full-time job on Monday, *moving* day after tomorrow; I have fibromyalgia and also now a really bad cold; and my new anti-depressant hasn't (apparently) kicked in yet. Oh, and my 3 yr. old's summer program ended today. And I have a 10 and 13 yr old too.
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This is just to make all you SAHM's feel lucky that you have the option to stay home! But I have to say, staying home with my 3 yr old this past fall was the hardest job I ever held. He is tough, and I was sick; but even so, I have nothing but awe and respect for all of you. HOW do you do it? (rhetorical question).
This is just to make all you SAHM's feel lucky that you have the option to stay home! But I have to say, staying home with my 3 yr old this past fall was the hardest job I ever held. He is tough, and I was sick; but even so, I have nothing but awe and respect for all of you. HOW do you do it? (rhetorical question).
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Burnt out and bordering on totally burnt out.
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Originally Posted by mfp02 To put it this way.. the other night DH said he missed the kids (he's been working long hours lately). I just sat there and thought, "I wish I had REASON to miss our kids.." I am burnt out, severely. |
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I voted severely burnt. My DD and I have never once been separated since she was born. Which, is mostly wonderful, but, she has hit toddler-hood this past week or two and im seriously pulling out my hair.
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I go through phases. What has really helped my attitude was deciding to go back to school and become a nurse. It's going to start out slowly and get more intense as nursing school approaches. Even though there's about 5 years between right now and an RN degree, I feel like for the first time in years I am doing something for myself and it feels very, very good! I plan to be a SAHM when I get my RN and just work part time as long as that works out for everyone. Hopefully I can have the best of both worlds.
When I get burned out it's not usually being a SAHM that's the problem. It's life. Like sick kids, or tensions with dh, or bad weather so we are all stuck in the house. Those things make life in general seem bad and I start to feel trapped in my life. But I have come to realize that being burned out is just a symptom of some other issue and as soon as those issues are resolved, I have a lot more energy and like being a SAHM again.
When I get burned out it's not usually being a SAHM that's the problem. It's life. Like sick kids, or tensions with dh, or bad weather so we are all stuck in the house. Those things make life in general seem bad and I start to feel trapped in my life. But I have come to realize that being burned out is just a symptom of some other issue and as soon as those issues are resolved, I have a lot more energy and like being a SAHM again.
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My son (5) is having a rough time right now. He has been having trouble with the down time of summer. He loved Kindergarten, and can't wait for 1st grade, and he is just sick of being around me and baby sister (2) all the time. I have had some activities tennis, art camp, zoo camp interspersed throughout the summer, but we can't do camps ($$$$) all summer.
He melts down at all of our outings (that I think will be *fun*, but backfire). He wants to stay in when we need to go out, and go out when we need to stay in. Every request starts as a drawn out whine......ahhhhgghh!! And he has taken to calling me stupid if I set a limit on behavior. I am trying to give him extra cuddles and reading and doing legos with him whenever I can, but frankly, he's just not been pleasant company. He is awesome with playdates with kids his age, but they can be tough to schedule with other people's vacations, kids in child care, our schedule, etc.
He is eating constantly, and I know he is growing majorly, which is part of it all, but we are just having a tough summer. And he is big for his age and very muscular, so when he is rambunctious, it is scary. His size/strength have a big lead on his ability to control himself. So I am feeling a little crispy about the edges, and it has nothing to do with the two year old!!
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He melts down at all of our outings (that I think will be *fun*, but backfire). He wants to stay in when we need to go out, and go out when we need to stay in. Every request starts as a drawn out whine......ahhhhgghh!! And he has taken to calling me stupid if I set a limit on behavior. I am trying to give him extra cuddles and reading and doing legos with him whenever I can, but frankly, he's just not been pleasant company. He is awesome with playdates with kids his age, but they can be tough to schedule with other people's vacations, kids in child care, our schedule, etc.
He is eating constantly, and I know he is growing majorly, which is part of it all, but we are just having a tough summer. And he is big for his age and very muscular, so when he is rambunctious, it is scary. His size/strength have a big lead on his ability to control himself. So I am feeling a little crispy about the edges, and it has nothing to do with the two year old!!
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A little burnt out earlier today.
Tonight...doing wine....I mean FINE!
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Tonight...doing wine....I mean FINE!
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I chose burnt out but not horrible - for today. DH has been working for about 3 weeks or so straight, the house is a disaster and I really just need a break for me and some time with DH.
DD and I had a mostly good day with a large tantrum in the middle which is unusual for her but I suspect it's because DH has been mostly absent from our lives with all this unpaid overtime. She misses him but then seems kind of angry at him for not being around. I guess I feel the same way about the situation, though I tack on some guilt for feeling angry or irritated that he has to work so much lately.
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Hopefully, he won't have to work this weekend. It will be weird, but good to have him around for a change.
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DD and I had a mostly good day with a large tantrum in the middle which is unusual for her but I suspect it's because DH has been mostly absent from our lives with all this unpaid overtime. She misses him but then seems kind of angry at him for not being around. I guess I feel the same way about the situation, though I tack on some guilt for feeling angry or irritated that he has to work so much lately.
Hopefully, he won't have to work this weekend. It will be weird, but good to have him around for a change.
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My dd is an angel and my dh helps a lot but I'm still pretty burnt. I'm lustful of doing other things in life. I think I'm getting a bit depressed. I'm nervous about having the second baby in our tiny apartment. I want to move. I want to go to college but dh needs to finish his grad school first - neither of us can handle 2 of us in school at once. Money has me stressed all the time. And being a SAHM seems like this boat floating endlessly in open waters - no begining or end - just day in day out. My "easy" kid's emotional needs and obsessive learning wear me out. What if I have a "harder" one next time?
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I'm doing better than I have been in a long time. Just finished a pretty intense summer-session class at the university, and even got me an A!
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It's silly, I guess, but getting some positive feedback after trying something completely new is so much more encouraging than being home with a toddler day after day after day. I feel a lot more "in-the-moment" with DS now than I have in quite awhile.
It's silly, I guess, but getting some positive feedback after trying something completely new is so much more encouraging than being home with a toddler day after day after day. I feel a lot more "in-the-moment" with DS now than I have in quite awhile.
Eh, I have good days and I have bad days, just like any job I suppose.
I'm sorry some of you mamas are having a rough time, but it is nice to be able to relate to other ladies who understand being at your wits end at times.
Every single one of my mama friends works, so they totally don't "get" my occasional complaints. Their advice every time is to get a job and put DD in daycare. They can't seem to understand that this IS my job. No job is sunshine and roses everyday, but everyone works at their particular job for a reason. My reason just so happens to not be monetary.
So, yeah, I have some bad bad days. Being pregnant and hormonal doesn't help.
I'm sorry some of you mamas are having a rough time, but it is nice to be able to relate to other ladies who understand being at your wits end at times.
Every single one of my mama friends works, so they totally don't "get" my occasional complaints. Their advice every time is to get a job and put DD in daycare. They can't seem to understand that this IS my job. No job is sunshine and roses everyday, but everyone works at their particular job for a reason. My reason just so happens to not be monetary.
So, yeah, I have some bad bad days. Being pregnant and hormonal doesn't help.
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I'm burnt out but it's not too serious yet....I just need some sleep!
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