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Help! I'm new to our area, DS is 2 months old, and I'm thinking we need to change pediatricians, because I'm pretty sure our pediatrician will not be amenable to working with us on the vax issue. All DS has had so far is the first Hep B at 1 month, and that was because DH and the pediatrician were sort of pressuring me... I still don't know what decisions we'll make, but his 2nd month appt. is coming up and I need to buy some time.<br><br>
Anyway, anyone have any advice about finding a new pediatrician (after the baby is born) who would be flexible with vax choices? I know almost no one in this area, only one mama who is pro-vax. I attend my local LLL and got a name of a dr. there from someone only to call the office and find the dr. is leaving the state! And if I do get more recommendations from folks, can I interview multiple physicians even though the baby is here and already has a pediatrician? Has anyone done this? I feel so guilty for not having this squared away before he was born, but I was so busy with everything else. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Relax, find a doctor that you get along with, tell them that you want to delay vaccination. A younger doctor is usually more likely to respect your wishes than an older doctor. I prefer going to a family doctor than a pediatrician because they seem more open-minded.
 

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We did not take DD to a doc until she was 10 months old because it took me 10 months to find one i liked. I feel NO NEED WHATSOEVER to give money to people I don't like so they can badger me! If you are not vaxxing, there is not need to do "well-checks" anyway...My anti-vax doc onyl does one every 6 months for a general health check until 2 yrs, then a yearly physical.......all those visits are really just to push shots!! I know we are so brainwashed to believe that the baby must have a ped......but really..don't stress...take your time....pre-interview everyone, don't bother going in to be string-armed, ask over the phone if they will accept a non-vax patient......<br>
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Thank you both so much for the advice... I didn't think about the family doctor. I just got one who seems great, so I'm going to ask him if he'll take on DS with me. And I feel better knowing there's someone out there who didn't go until 10 months! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
So I shouldn't go to this next appt? I was planning to go to keep the peace with DH for now until we decide on a plan of action. (We're thoroughly confused by our vaccination book, which doesn't take clear sides on the issue....) My concern is with the Hep B shot--DS had one at one month and would have the second round at this next appt, I believe, and DH feels that we should get it so that if we do eventually decide to selectively vax, he won't need to start all over again... but is there any harm in him having the first one and no more, especially if we decide not to do the Hep B?<br><br>
Any thoughts?
 

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I don't believe there is any need to keep on schedule with Hep B. I'm in a similar boat--looking for a new doc for my dd. We did the first round of shots after much thought, but now are re-reconsidering. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> We're definitely looking for a family practicioner this time. I'm sick of the AAP and their misinformation. Dr. Sears is pro-vax but has some good info on delaying shots that might be good to check out with your dh to make him feel better about waiting while you decide. <a href="http://www.askdrsears.com" target="_blank">www.askdrsears.com</a>
 

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I would advice you to go to every well-baby check-up, so nobody can say that you are neglecting your child medically. When I had my first son I was young and did not think it was not a big deal that I did not take him to all well-baby check-ups. My doctor did not have a problem delaying vaccinations but she was concerned that I wasn't taking him to all his Well baby check-ups. Now I have to children I have brought them to every well baby check-up, the doctor respects my wishes about selectively vaxing and I have a good relationship with her.
 

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My dd is 14 months and has never been to a dr. Drs. are for the sick and injured. Since (knock wood) my dd has neither been sick nor injured I haven't needed one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
I would never stay with a Dr. that pressured me to do ANYTHING they wanted without good reason - including just coming to well visits to line their pockets (and get my kids sick...)<br><br>
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Please do not go to wellness doctor visits to just try to say you aren't a neglectful parent. It can be JUST as damaging if you go back to a shot pressuring doc.<br><br>
What I'd do in your situation is this:<br><br>
1) I'd send desireeh a private message with the city and state you are from and see if she has a doc in your area that is supportive of parents who don't vax.<br><br>
2) I would also in addition to number 1, post in your tribe on this board <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?f=7" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...isplay.php?f=7</a> go into your tribe (state) and post that you are looking for a no vax friendly doc. You will probably want to subscribe to the post so you will be updated when someone posts.<br><br>
3) I would then contact chiropractors in your area and ask them for referrals to non vax friendly docs. You can even call homeopaths in your area or ND's. Some ND's are covered and some chiros are covered. There are some Chiros that are covered that are known as wellness chiros and often do see children as a primary care physician.<br><br>
4) If those 3 fail, I'd start <b>calling</b> around to various ped offices asking them if they support non vax kids..work on the wording..you want to be SURE that you won't be given the 3rd degree. If you then can't find a ped, to heck with it...find a family doc that would support you. I'm not so hot to trot on peds anyway..they have wayy too much conflict of interest (meaning they seem to have vaxes as their bread and butter so they tend to understand when their bottom line is being cut into..not good for giving objective opinions imo).<br><br><br>
This is very serious stuff. Serious enough to not see another doc that will push you into vaxxing against your will. Children die from shots. Don't let your child go near hep b..that is one of the worst and even in this forum there is an article on a child dead from hep b shot along with a mother who's baby died a year ago from the hep b shot. My own daughter ended up in ER/NICU for a few days due to a seizure from her shots, they think it was the pertussis component of the dtap shot. You can feel free to PM me for the story..don't want to bore you with the details here.<br><br>
Try to put the guilt aside, it is what you do from now on that matters and I think it takes a ton of courage to put a stop to something that could cascade and get worse. I know it's easier said than done, but you are in GOOD company here. We are here to support you. There is a lot of information but for now, while you sift through it, you need a more supportive ped/doctor.
 

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i don't think it is that simplistic. i go to have a history- he knows my children, and if something doesn't feel 'right' to me, i don't have a problem with someone looking at them with 'fresh eyes', as the corporate saying goes.<br><br>
i go to have back up- if one ass in a position of authority decides to throw his/her weight around re: the vax issue, i have someone *they* will respect in my corner.<br><br>
i go because when i do require the services of western medicine for my family, he knows me, & we don't have to waste time establishing that i am not a complete maroon. if i say that i believe my kids have pertussis, he doesn't have to get on the 'i am the md, how dare you diagnose!' pedastal before examining them & coming to the same conclusion. if my kid breaks his arm falling out of a tree, i don't want to worry that someone who treats him is going to give me the hairy eyeball as a 'neglectful' parent.<br><br>
that is not saying *i* think not going to well-baby visits is neglectful- for that matter, when i was poor & had no insurance, most medical professionals had a very clear idea of why i didn't go to $80 a pop 'wellness' visits routinely. they're not stupid, & the big bad establishment doesn't automatically paint every mother in poverty as neglectful. but with insurance so that every visit doesn't strain our finances to breaking, i see the value in them- calling it 'the paper trail' is just verbal shorthand for a myriad of other real reasons beyond 'cya'.<br><br>
wash your hands, & it is not so contagious & nasty an environment. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> btw, we don't do wellness visits during 'flu season', & the dr has no problem understanding why.<br><br>
just my two cents, anyway. i see plenty of good reasons to skip 'em; here are some that made me decide not to.<br><br>
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In her current situation, I do not think the baby well visits will end up..how should I say it...."well for the baby" if you know what I mean. Not if the baby will come out with a shot due to the highly pressured situation. I've been there and so have many people on this board.<br><br>
I would not go to a well baby visit to a doc that would push me to vaccinate before I got educated.<br><br>
It is VERY important that we find docs that will support us, not act as our guardians and make trouble. In some states, docs have interfered and actually involved CPS. So this can be a very serious visit and it's just best to start working to change the doc now instead of going and finding out by russian roulette.<br><br><br>
That is my point.<br><br><br>
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yes, you were on the money about that. i would not go twice to a dr that made me feel pressured or uncomfortable. and the family dr vs pediatrician point is good, too. the aap knows which side of their bread is buttered & seems to base their vax policies accordingly.<br><br>
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Something to keep in mind about hep b unless u have hep b the chances of your son getting it is right at 0%.<br>
Hepatitis B virus is transmitted by contact with blood or body fluids of an infected person in the same way as human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), the virus that causes AIDS.<br><br>
The main ways of getting infected with HBV are:<br><br>
Perinatal (from mother to baby at the birth)<br>
Child-to-child transmission (very rare)<br>
Unsafe injections and transfusions<br>
Sexual contact<br><br>
Hepatitis B virus is not spread by contaminated food or water, and cannot be spread casually in the workplace.
 
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