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My husband's job keeps laying him off every 2 weeks, and I keep thinking I should just go out and get a job, but if i did and he went back to work 2 weeks later I would be getting a paycheck to pay for childcare of my three kids, so it is pointless, how do you guys get through on one paycheck and lay offs? I have used all resources I can think of and we are slowly sinking...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Do you think it is time for me to find something? I asked around to see if anyone needed a sitter that way i could stay home with the kids cuz even if i could make good money somewhere, I love staying home with the kids....ugh what do I do?
 

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He's getting laid off every 2 weeks? Man, that's not fun at all!<br><br>
I've only skimmed that book called something like "the two income trap", but it seems this is a near-perfect situation where it's good that you're not working out of the home right now. You can jump in and help while he perhaps looks for another company who won't lay him off like that. And the money you bring in will actually help, b/c you're not used to you working and are used to the one income.<br><br>
My friend, whose hubby did have a good job, but they liked having more than one income, got a job as a cashier at a nice grocery store. She was union, they were flexible with her hours, and it was close-by. She had them set her hours so it was AFTER DH was home from work, and there were only a few times she needed me to come watch DD when they needed her earlier than that.<br><br>
You could try something like that. For the time that he's not employed, you could work any time, and then if he gets re-hired by the same company, you could see that they schedule you for when he's home? And if he gets a job with a nicer company, then once you knew he was solid with the new job, you could then stop (or just cut down hours, if you liked the job, LOL...that's what my friend did).<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Julie, I wish I had some marvelous words of wisdom, but I don't. What you've described is tough. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> You will get through this!
 

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thank you for the words of wisdom, I think it would be much easier for me to get a job if it werent for him working 7 days a week third shift when he is working, that doesnt leave me much time ya know...owell thanks for listening to my sob story, its just been one of those days I needed to sit down and vent...I am sure it will get better, it just seems when it rains it pours around here lately. Kind of makes fora depressing holiday season, but I am trying my hardest to not let the kids know what is going on, so i have to vent here...thanks!
 

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could you possibly care for other children in your home? or work at a daycare maybe, and bring your kids with you? even a paper route you could do with the kids in tow. (Just some ideas I have been contemplating myself!)
 

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Would you qualify to be a substitute teacher in your area? (The requirements are different in each state, but I don't think an actual teaching license in required anywhere.) I used to sub for two districts, both of which had phone/computerized systems for blacking out dates I couldn't work. But I pretty much worked every day that I didn't black out & there were no humans to talk to or explain about not working on certain. It was very freeing in a way.<br><br>
If a district around you worked like that, you could just accept jobs when your husband isn't working & black yourself out when he is working.
 

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What does your dh think about being a stay at home dad? If I could find suitable, regular work and dh couldn't I think that's what we would probably do, with children two or over. Otherwise I agree with the day care idea. People are always looking for great day care for their little ones.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Would you qualify to be a substitute teacher in your area? (The requirements are different in each state, but I don't think an actual teaching license in required anywhere.) I used to sub for two districts, both of which had phone/computerized systems for blacking out dates I couldn't work. But I pretty much worked every day that I didn't black out & there were no humans to talk to or explain about not working on certain. It was very freeing in a way.<br><br>
If a district around you worked like that, you could just accept jobs when your husband isn't working & black yourself out when he is working.</div>
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I probably could, but i could only do it when he is laid off and it is hit or miss lately he was laid of for 2 weeks then he was back for 3 now is laid of for 3more and we dont know what will happen next and when he does go back he works thirds so he needs to sleep during school hours besides babysitting, which i do watch a couple kids part time but it doesnt pay much, i just dont see anything worth it since we have no clue what is going to happen, my mom had suggested we move up by her and then we can both work different shifts and in the hour or two that they overlap she will watch the kids but now i just have to talk dh into picking up and moving, but there is absolutely nothing here in erie for us so i am not sure why he is reluctant... so hopefully within a few months we will know what the future brings...thanks for all the suggestions...and hugs!
 

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Wow, that's a tough situation for all of you! What does dh do for work? Could he try finding another place to work at?<br><br>
Your mom's suggestion is nice and thoughtful of her, it could mean you and dh won't see much of eachother though (although not necessarily). I also noticed in your sig that you are a WAHM, why not do more with what you are currently doing and make it more profitable so you could continue being a stay at home mom.
 

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I wish i could to more wahm work, but with the three kids it makes it difficult to find time to do a whole lot, I'd love to mystery shop do you know of a company that is legit? my husband makes roof shingles. He could go find another job but he might be lucky to get paid $9 an hour and it is difficult to raise a family of 5 on that alone. I dont know how some sahm's do it. I have been home with them since 2003 and I love it I really dont want to go back to work, but seems like I have no other choice.
 

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yes they do give him a portion of unemployment but we have to wait 2 1/2 weeks to get paid but atleast it is something.
 

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when he DOES work, is it a set schedule?<br>
Like, does he always get weekends or the same 2 days off per week?<br><br>
If so, perhaps you could get a job around his work schedule (that's what i do)<br><br>
Then, you are working all the time, but not too much, and when he does get laid off, you can always mention to your supervisor you are avauilable for more shifts that week, and possibly pick up some more....places like fast food restaurants are great for that..the pay isn't great, but it's more than 0. And if you are doing it when he is off work, he watches the kids while you're at work, so no daycare bill.<br><br>
The subbing is great also, because they call and ASK you if you are free that day.....if you aren't, simply say no. If you are, say yes.
 

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i think finding a way to work at home is a good solution until your DH's job situation settles down. particularly since you're looking at third shift and related stuff.<br><br>
good luck to you!
 

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wow ~ i'm so sorry you're going through this! i would probably try to find a job while DH looked for something more reliable.<br>
Have you thought about selling something like Avon, Tupperware, books, etc, that you can do at whatever time works for you? Can you do some bookkeeping from home? Make something to sell on eBay? Take in a daycare child?<br>
good luck to you!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I wish i could to more wahm work, but with the three kids it makes it difficult to find time to do a whole lot, I'd love to mystery shop do you know of a company that is legit? my husband makes roof shingles. He could go find another job but he might be lucky to get paid $9 an hour and it is difficult to raise a family of 5 on that alone. I dont know how some sahm's do it. I have been home with them since 2003 and I love it I really dont want to go back to work, but seems like I have no other choice.</div>
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Have you guys done the math to see if the steady $9 an hour job might be worth the same as working only half a month or so at a time? Working for more $ is great ONLY if it is steady... otherwise you might as well be making less.<br><br><br>
As for making the WAHM more profitable... you can work in crammed spurts when he is off of work (and not in school or sleeping). There should be at least a few hours a day when he is off that maybe he could watch the kids while you cram as much work as you can in.<br><br><br><br>
I would also read everything you can in the frugality forum here, read the <a href="http://www.stretcher.com" target="_blank">http://www.stretcher.com</a> , buy or borrow from library the "The Complete Tightwad Gazette; by Amy Dacyczyn" , check out <a href="http://www.wahm.com" target="_blank">www.wahm.com</a>, and check out the "craigslist.org" in your area under part time and misc jobs.<br><br><br>
Good luck & {{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}
 

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I just wanted to recommend home daycare. I am doing that right now, and while it doesn't pay a HUGE sum, it really helps things to not be so tight around here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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