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My 17 month old DD will nap for about 40 minutes in her crib and then wake up. She's been doing this since she was roughly 6 weeks old. A couple of months ago I figured out that if I go in and nurse her, she'll sleep for another hour to hour and a half. But I can't put her down or she'll wake up and be cranky. I would really like to transition away from having to hold her for the rest of her naps, but I can't figure out how. Any suggestions?
 

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I have the same problem. I nurse DD down to sleep and she will wake up after 40mins. She has slept in my arms since day 1.<br><br>
For the past month, I got her to sleep out of my arms by making a bed for her on the floor of the living room out of blankets. When it's time to nap, I lay down next to her on the bed, and when she's asleep I roll away. Of course, she's still waking up every 40mins, but one thing at a time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> good luck
 

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Have you tried a sling? If you nurse her back to sleep and she is in the sling then you can still get up and move and do things.<br><br>
Or nurse her laying down in a bed and when she's back to sleep, you can get up and she'll already be laying down.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Have you tried a sling? If you nurse her back to sleep and she is in the sling then you can still get up and move and do things.<br><br>
Or nurse her laying down in a bed and when she's back to sleep, you can get up and she'll already be laying down.</div>
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She won't sleep in the sling unless she's exhausted. I have tried the bed thing but she wakes up when I leave, even if I wait for a while after she's asleep.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">She won't sleep in the sling unless she's exhausted. I have tried the bed thing but she wakes up when I leave, even if I wait for a while after she's asleep.</div>
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Sorry, don't have other ideas.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sorry, don't have other ideas.</div>
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Me neither!
 

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<b>caedmyn</b>, I have the same problem. 15 m.o. DS has never taken a nap without being held & nursed. I keep expecting it to just happen one day, like he'll be running around exhausted and will just curl up on the floor and go to sleep (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> yeah right), but so far, nada.<br><br>
I wish I had some insight, but all I have is empathy.
 

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I have a 19 month old little boy. He does the exact same thing. He will sleep and then wake up and I hold him for the rest of the nap. He still wakes up alot at night sometimes, and I too just hope it ends one day, I guess it will, I mean I dont think I will have to do it when he is like 35..........will I? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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I'm probably not going to be too much help, but maybe I can give some encouragement. My dd is 23 months, and I have to lie down with her for her to take a nap. If I don't, she won't sleep. And previously, if I got out of the bed (her/our bed is a fouton mattress on the floor), she immediately woke up crying. This was really a problem in the middle of the night when I had to go potty. I either had to take her with me or listen to her crying until I got back in the bed with her. But in the past 2 months, this has gotten somewhat better. Now, if she wakes up when I need to potty (sometimes she actually keeps sleeping), I can tell her I'm going potty, and she's okay with that. She just lies awake in bed until I get back, but she doesn't cry. Also, once she is down for her nap, I can sneak out, and she keeps sleeping. Sometimes she sleeps for over an hour without any comfort from me. Other times, I have to go in several times to coax her back to sleep.<br><br>
I think for us the napping issue gets better as my dd's communication skills get better. Like the rest of the mamas, I sure hope we continue to see improvements-- especially since baby #2 is due in 7 weeks-- YIKES!
 

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Do you put her in her crib awake, or do you help her go to sleep and then set her down?<br><br>
About a month ago, I started laying my dd down on a pile of blankets on the floor (as was suggested above). I stay right there with her and put my hands on her or nurse when she starts to stir. Now I can get her to sleep on the floor through that first wakeup (25 minutes for my dd) about 60% of the time, and then second sleep cycle is sometimes even longer. If she doesn't sleep, or wakes up and starts crawling around, I just hold her and nurse her on and off for the rest of the nap, until I (we) feel she's had enough sleep.<br><br>
It has been a sloooooooooow process. But worth it I think.<br><br>
Not sure why the pile of blankets works better than the bed (she just crawls around and won't go to sleep, wakes up when I leave, etc.) or the crib (screams.) Maybe the moveability/mama being close but (for my sanity) not being "stuck" in the bedroom when I don't want to be. FWIW, having "napping nests" like this is also suggested in "Sleepless in America," a really good book by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka that I highly recommend.
 

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We're wrestling with trying to get her to nap in the crib and so far here's what we're doing:<br><br>
We've started letting our toddler pick out a toy or something to use as a lovey (since she doesn't have a lovey that's her favorite or whatever), and each time the pile gets smaller. We've reduced it to just a few things now and hopefully will narrow it down to the ONE thing soon. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> We also have a satiny blanket too.<br><br>
Anyway, I explain once we're settled in the glider that I'm going to put her in the crib when she falls asleep, so to not be afraid if she wakes up and Mama's not there. The <lovey of the moment> and the blanket will be there, like they're right here now, and she can hug on them and go back to sleep. But to call out if she needs me. Then we nurse to sleep in the glider, then once she starts to fall asleep, I unlatch her. If she cries, I let her latch back on. Repeat until it takes.<br><br>
Then slowly without changing her position, and with <lovey thing> and blanket still tangled on/around her, lay her in the crib, shushing the whole time or whatever.<br><br>
Today was the first time it really worked well. She has in the past woken herself up immediately, but this time I kept my hand on her tummy and lightly shushed and she remained asleep. She did wake once but went right back to sleep. Then when she woke up for real she cried out. I went in and rubbed her back and showed her the <lovey> and blanket and hugged them close to her.<br><br>
Baby steps. It takes a lot of time I think and one thing that I realized was hurting was that she'd gotten used to nursing in her sleep again (we co-sleep and my stupid ped bullied me about her not having gained a ton of weight last time, so I was letting her nurse all night again). That was a step back for sure, and now we're working on patting/soothing in the night instead of autolatching on so she'll once more get used to sleeping without the boob.<br><br>
I know it's probably easier to lay them down before they're entirely asleep but that hasn't worked for us. Hopefully continuing to explain while we're doing what we're doing and offer her the ability to choose something that comforts her ahead of time will work.<br><br>
It's exhausting having a toddler who won't sleep without Mama, but I do believe it's doable. Just takes time and patience.<br><br>
Good luck to all of us with this issue! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> HTH.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know it's probably easier to lay them down before they're entirely asleep but that hasn't worked for us. Hopefully continuing to explain while we're doing what we're doing and offer her the ability to choose something that comforts her ahead of time will work.</div>
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Yeah, I tried getting DD to go to sleep in her crib but it literally takes her hours to fall asleep that way. Sigh...someday, someday.
 

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I've worked around the problem by making sure DS naps while I NAK. DS takes all his at home naps on the couch in my lap next to the laptop. He also goes to sleep at night here in my lap with the lap top then when he is in deep sleep I can move us both to our bed.<br><br>
I may not get any housework done, but at least I'm not stuck in bed being bored<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: .
 

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No suggestions for you...just an "I understand!" G has been napping in arms since the day he came to us.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've worked around the problem by making sure DS naps while I NAK. DS takes all his at home naps on the couch in my lap next to the laptop. He also goes to sleep at night here in my lap with the lap top then when he is in deep sleep I can move us both to our bed.<br><br>
I may not get any housework done, but at least I'm not stuck in bed being bored<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: .</div>
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That's what I'm doing right now. I'm on my bed with dd and the Boppy on my lap and the laptop in front of me. I use this time to visit MDC, do lesson plans (I'm a teacher), buy/sell on eBay, whatever. She'll nap for 40-60 minutes this way. It drives dh nuts, though--he doesn't understand why I can't get her off my lap. When I'm at work, he puts her down for a nap after a bottle of bm or being in the sling and it's not unusual for her to sleep for 2 hours of more with him. The babysitter has had good luck taking her for a ride in the stroller and then parking her in front of the house (we live in a very safe, rural area) to finish her nap.
 
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