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I'm sitting here working on a translation. My 6 month old son is asleep on my lap, and I'm stuck with CNN on in the background. A story is coming up about a 6 month old baby girl who was hospitalized for having been beaten, drugged and burned.<br><br>
Who are these people who do these things? Lately the absurdity of humanity has been hitting me like a ton of feathers. I cannot fathom the callousness and evil within someone that would allow them to commit such horrors against another human being, especially a tiny, defenseless human being.<br><br>
I mean, people were horrified and outraged by 9/11, right? What about that person who today beat, drugged and burned a 6 month old baby? Was that person horrified by 9/11? If so, how could s/he go on to do something like this?<br><br>
And then the other stories that have been coming out of the U.S. of an entire family assassinated by a boyfriend who was angry that the father was trying to keep him away from the daughter. Or, another story of a family with children killed in their home?<br><br>
What is happening up there? I'm frightened at the idea of returning to the U.S.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">What is happening up there? I'm frightened at the idea of returning to the U.S.</div>
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There are horrible people all over the world during terrible things.<br>
It is not restricted to the US<br>
Want an example? Take a look at the story posted here about the children's home in the island of Jersey (between England and France). It is one of the most horrific things I have ever read!
 

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i will say that it seems like i'm hearing about these sorts of stories more and more often, and it seems like there is a public establishment of some sort that is the scene of gun violence almost every day. i have heard of TWO drugged/intoxicated and abused children cases in just the last 3 days!!!!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm sitting here working on a translation. My 6 month old son is asleep on my lap, and I'm stuck with CNN on in the background. A story is coming up about a 6 month old baby girl who was hospitalized for having been beaten, drugged and burned.<br><br>
Who are these people who do these things? Lately the absurdity of humanity has been hitting me like a ton of feathers. I cannot fathom the callousness and evil within someone that would allow them to commit such horrors against another human being, especially a tiny, defenseless human being.<br><br>
I mean, people were horrified and outraged by 9/11, right? What about that person who today beat, drugged and burned a 6 month old baby? Was that person horrified by 9/11? If so, how could s/he go on to do something like this?<br><br>
And then the other stories that have been coming out of the U.S. of an entire family assassinated by a boyfriend who was angry that the father was trying to keep him away from the daughter. Or, another story of a family with children killed in their home?<br><br>
What is happening up there? I'm frightened at the idea of returning to the U.S.</div>
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Sadly, I think evil exists everywhere in the world. However, (and I realize I may be in the minority), I think part of the problem in the US is that we publicize these horrible things so much due to the 24 hour news phenomenon. Rather than serving as a deterrent, I worry that for some people, it gives them an idea... either an idea of abuse or an idea of their 15-seconds of fame.<br><br>
Did you just see the article that <a href="http://www.iht.com/articles/ap/2008/02/29/america/NA-GEN-US-Prison-Population.php" target="_blank">one in 100 Americans is in Jail</a>? (Adult Americans) That to me says that something is seriously wrong on many levels.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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It also said the U.S. — with 750 inmates per 100,000 people — "is the global leader in the rate at which it incarcerates its citizenry, outpacing nations like South Africa and Iran."<br><br>
South Africa has 341 per 100,000 citizens, Iran has 222 per 100,000, and China 119, according to the World Prison Brief.</td>
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I know. My head tells me that evil does exist everywhere, and that 24 hour news organizations make it seem more prevalent than it is. That's why I typically watch HGTV and not CNN. I wanted to see the outcome of the primaries, and then DS nursed to sleep on my lap and the remote is out of reach <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
I know horrible things happen the world over. I'm really grappling with the randomness of it all. Not to mention the clash between the intellectual/philosophical realization of the absurdity of life, and the deep emotional/visceral attachment to my children, and the fact that my empathy is physical. I see these news stories and I can *feel* what I would feel if it had happened to my own children. *That's* why I skip the news. It's way to stressful for me.<br><br>
I don't want to live dreading that someday I won't be able to protect my children from this kind of evil. I want a better world. I want the absurdity of people killing people over religion to go away. I want the absurdity of people killing people over oil to go away.<br><br>
My son was born in a neutral country, and although he has dual citizenship right now as a minor, when the time comes, I hope he'll opt for Costa Rican citizenship, so he can never be drafted into the U.S. armed services.
 

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I generally avoid watching the news, and I won't be clicking on the thread about the kids abused in the children's home. I know what I personally can tolerate, and too many stories of violence WILL affect me and my ability to care for my own family. Either I'm freaked out and can't function (the point it sounds like you're approaching, if you're not already there) or eventually I'd get calloused to violence in general, which IMO is far worse.<br><br>
Is there really any good that comes from reading or listening to the details of various acts of violence? I don't think so. It's enough for me to know basic safety precautions to avoid putting myself in dangerous situations. I can hear that "somebody was attacked and killed going to an ATM at midnight" without knowing the details of the person's injuries or listening to a recording of the 911 call.
 

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Oh, I completely agree! And, I have to 100% forego the local news here, because they offer up far more graphic images than we are accustomed to seeing in the U.S.<br><br><br>
Fortunately CNN is quite occupied with politics this morning! DS is taking his best nap in days and I'm totally stuck! Of course, the horror of listening to Dubya give a speech might just drive me over the edge <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> (attempt at lightening up a heavy thread)
 

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I accidentally came across that story yesterday (usually avoid CNN, but was looking for primary results late last night), and felt sick the rest of the night. And it is all so disturbing, isn't it? All the awful things?<br><br>
I know part of it is the news thing, and part of it is just what a messed-up world we live in. I feel a little better, coming here, talking to y'all about it. Sigh.
 

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oh i totally didn't read the story (and i usually don't with these things), but the headline was disturbing enough <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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i don't watch it, EVER. i cannot stand to watch ANY news on tv anymore (except Logo, the gay channel, which does have gay news). i do, however, glance at the headlines on CNN's website, and i just saw ANOTHER story, this time about a drunken 4 year old <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: don't know the details, don't want to...<br><br>
i guess i should just go all Quentin Crisp and ignore the news completely...what's the point, anyway? does anything really change? or is it all just repeating, over and over again?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i guess i should just go all Quentin Crisp and ignore the news completely...what's the point, anyway? does anything really change? or is it all just repeating, over and over again?</div>
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I think it is very healthy to take a "break" from the news every now and then. I do this every couple of months. There are some stories that are so horrible, I can't get them out of my mind and it affects the quality of my life. Especially those involving children or animals. I realize that I can't change the world, but I can care. But even caring has become a little burdensome as of late, with all the killing and violence in the world, in my country, and even my hometown (NIU shootings). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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This is why I stick to NPR and reading the news online, where I can choose what I read. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying">Ever since becoming a mom, the slightest thing will set me off.<br>
I don't want to think of it this way, but TV news shows compete for ratings and they search for extreme cases and portray as much as they can to boost them.
 

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These kind of horrible things have happened before too, it is just that back then we did not have TV/radio/internet to broadcast these cruel stories.<br><br>
If you ever have a chance, read some history books how children were viewed and raised throughout the history. The abuse we see today is very light compared how children were treated in the past.<br><br>
Of course these things should not be happening, so sad, so horrible.<br><br>
I have very little hope that we are able to fix the world. We are on a roller coaster heading down very fast and we do not care as long as we can buy cheap stuff.<br><br>
(Of course I hope and pray that I am wrong)
 

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