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Do you get asked all the time when your children are getting their vax or how the vax appt went?<br><br>
now that ds is 12 months, i am approached with this question all the time! none of the people that ask (friends & acquaintences) know that we don't vax, they assume we do like them.<br><br>
i didn't realize it was such a hot topic among those who don't blink an eye (or do any research) to vax. i mean if they think it is the best thing for a child and so routine why the interest in how the appt went? i just don't get it.<br><br>
maybe i am more on edge regarding the topic since i don't vax myself or my son. of course when they ask a can of worms is opened because i don't want to lie, but i don't really want to get into it with some of these people.<br><br>
what do you say in response to this question? or am i the only one that is asked?<br><br>
Kris, who has been asked about vax for ds 7 times in the last two weeks
 

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If they know DS had a wellbaby visit they'll ask "Is he sick after the vaccines? My kids always ran a fever/cried non stop/etc after the shots." I usually say "He's sleeping right now." or "Yeah, better not come see him, he's really grouchy. You can come over in a few days."
 

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Perhaps they realise that reactions are far more common than is stated. I mean, if they are always mentioning it, they must have internalised that it happens.
 

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my mother asks me ALL THE TIME. first, i told her we were delaying shots until the kids were all 2 years old. then we started saying that we were working with our ped and "selectively vaccinating"... eventually, i just told her that it's between me and the ped, and that it's not really something i want to discuss. i know that my family would have/does have issues with us not vaxing, and i don't feel like i should have to enter into a debate about it. it's our decision to make, and it really doesn't have anything to do with anyone else.
 

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We've been asked before, my husband is very open and will come out with the fact that DS isn't vaxed. I usually give a general answer, the appt. went fine etc. It's not a lie, and I feel that his vax status is really his personal business and privacy. I admire dh's desire to spout off at every opportunity, but I'd rather he be more discreet sometimes--or at least feel out the situation! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">
 

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I think it's just one of those things that is a topic of discussion. Kinda like when you are pregnant, you get a ton of questions that are like..so do you know if it is a boy or girl? what name did you pick? blah blah all sorts of dumb questions and comments lol.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">i didn't realize it was such a hot topic among those who don't blink an eye (or do any research) to vax. i mean if they think it is the best thing for a child and so routine why the interest in how the appt went? i just don't get it.</td>
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I think MT is probably right. Most parents know that there are reactions, they expect them and are told that it is normal and probably want to commiserate with you if you experienced the same thing, that is just a guess. I couldn't believe my eyes when a lady posted that her doctor called her child limping (losing a motor function) and couldn't walk a medium reaction after the child's vaccines. I pretty much think that is a SERIOUS reaction. It literally makes me ill to hear vaxxing parents puff out their chest when they talk about how their child didn't even cry when they got vaxed. I want to say "how could you do that to your baby" but I of course refrain.
 

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To friends/most family: we just say that we're delaying (possibly indefinietly--but we don't tell them that) for the time-being...so we don't have all those bad reactions...<br><br>
To strangers: our appointment went just fine (if they push further--I would say that it's really none of their business--and I'm not comfortable discussing my sons healthcare with them)...<br><br>
I'm annoyed too...
 

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I just tell whoever is asking that we don't vaccinate, that we think the risks outweigh the benefits. If they ask for more info, I point them to 909shot.com or <span style="text-decoration:underline;">How to Raise a Healthy Child in Spite of Your Doctor</span> (written by a doctor, of course!).
 

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I just say very generally that he is doing fine. Like the pp I also tell them his weight and height - it kind of changes the subject.<br><br>
Since ds turned 9 mo my mom has constantly been saying that he needs to get his shots before winter, he needs his shots before Thanksgiving or before Christmas at the latest. As if shots are some kind of magic that will keep him from getting sick this winter. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake"> I just say "yeah..." and then change the subject. It is SO not worth getting into it about non-vaxing with my mom.
 

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Like when we're asked "Are you up to date with your shots?"<br><br>
Of course.<br><br>
given that we have none, we're always up-to-date.
 

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When people ask me, I tell them. I am educating myself, and even scaring myself.<br>
I stopped vaccination after I caught a pediatrician lie to me about thermosil. Then I really started to do RESEARCH, like a driven crazy woman i am.<br><br>
I brought my son for a two year checkup and another pediatrician made a remark like....."you eat fish, why would you be concerned about thermosil"<br>
I didn't say much, i just left. I wanted to say..."one you eat and the other one you are poisoning/injecting my son with you inhumane @#$%@$$!"<br><br>
I have a bunch of books, literature and information from MANY different vaccines information websites. I am building an arsenal of information, and trying to familiarize myself with the legal issues.<br>
To me, it's about humanity and my right to think for myself. My weapon of choice (unless a lawyer is needed) <b>KNOWLEDGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!</b><br>
Noone asks me anymore....because they find out why i don't ....i'll educate them and most parents don't want to know. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/saynovax.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="no vax">
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">I brought my son for a two year checkup and another pediatrician made a remark like....."you eat fish, why would you be concerned about thermosil"</td>
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And theya re telling us to NOT eat these kind of fish! Let's not forget we are talking an infant/child here with their body growing tons vs. a fully formed adult.<br><br>
Good for you for leaving. Good grief it's THOSE types of docs that are endangering our health.
 
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