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I keep coming up with all of these questions in my head and doubts and things like that.<br><br>
Hoe did you decied to VBAC?<br><br>
I guess my biggest fear is that I just won't gt farther than 3cm like before.... I'm not scared of the idea of another c/s. Mine wasn't bad at all. I don't want one though.<br><br>
Another thing is that I just "have" to have a natural delivery.... everything we try and do in our lives is natural but I can't seem to do the most natural of them all.....I know I was a failed induction and was mismanaged but I just don't think I'll feel complete without doing it myself....
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by its_our_family</i><br><b>I keep coming up with all of these questions in my head and doubts and things like that.<br><br>
How did you decied to VBAC?<br><br>
Another thing is that I just "have" to have a natural delivery.... everything we try and do in our lives is natural... I just don't think I'll feel complete without doing it myself....</b></td>
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i am having the same dilemma but for different reasons. I had an emergency section for fetal distress. Now, my problem (as i am 6 weeks from my EDD) is do i really want to wait to go into labor or do i just want him OUT!!! I really need some cheerleaders to remind me why this is so important. I feel like if i dont do the VBAC this time i will lose my chance for a natural delivery that i very much want. I need some convincing too so if anyone can give a swift kick it would be appreciated.<br><br>
Just wanted to let you know "its our family" that you aret alone in being CERTAIN about this decision. I guess ultimately what i'd like to happen is to go into labor after 38 weeks so i dont have to decide what i want to do! I can always dream, right!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I don't see the point in having an unnecessary surgery. If it becomes necessary again, I have no problem with having another C-birth. IF it becomes necessary, and not because someone else (doc's insurance) thinks it's a good idea.
 

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I knew that an ERCS wasn't for me because I hated every single moment of my recovery from my c/sect. I hated not being able to get out of bed. I hated not being able to lift my newborn. I hated being dopey from the pain medication. I hated being in pain when the medication wore off. I hated, HATED, HATED IT!!<br><br>
Unless it was a question of my life or that of the baby's I was resigned to push my child OUT OF MY VAGINA!! Period.
 

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I'm thinking maybe my waivering is because my c/s was fine. I had no pain after, didn't take the pain meds, I was up and about as soon as I could feel my feet, I wasn't seperated from my son, I was wheeled out of the OR holding him in my arms......<br><br>
I agree about not having unneeded surgery.....<br><br>
I guess I just doubt myself....
 

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<b>How did you decide to VBAC??</b><br><br>
There was never a question in my mind about it. From the day my daughter was born via c-section, I knew that if I ever got pregnant again I was going to at least attempt to deliver vaginally.<br><br>
Sure, I got my doubts and fears that I am still working on! But in my heart, I know that childbirth isn't usually a medical emergency until doctors turn it into one. It's still hard to trust my body to do it right, but it's getting easier the more I realize the c/section wasn't my fault, my body doesn't have some sort of inherent design flaw.<br><br>
And, if you could look at my face, and see my big ol crooked broken nose, you would know instantly that I'm not the sort of person who would ever choose surgery without a really good life-threatening reason!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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You know....as soon as ds was born c/s I was saying....the next time will be different.....<br><br>
I guess its just a period of self doubt that I hope passes soon! Some days I'm like YEAH! Then the next I'm like....well....
 

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I never thought i would have another c. The first thing all my care providers said was VBAC next time. Every birth is different right?! What has helped me this time is learning. I am focused on positioning and such and reading positive stories. I still get freaked especially b/c i think we have to advocate for ourselves much harder than with no history of C-birth.<br><br>
For me it was no descision - there is no reason for it. And I don't want the increased risk of complications to me and babe from surgery. My Ds aspirated on amni fluid - had to be emergency suctiuoned (lucky a nurse was there b/c i had no idea what was happening). This can happen w/ c-babes b/c the fluid doesn't get pushed out as in Vag birth. Just one of the potential side effects of C-sects.
 

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I think the important thing to consider is WHY repeat c-section? Is there some element of fear that is really causing you to doubt yourself?<br>
I, like you, never dilated past 4.5cm...I, too was induced. But I know it was NOT a failed labor, it was a failed induction. We (Lucy and I) were just not ready for birth yet. In other words, my body did not fail. The pitocin failed to push me into something unnatural. Maybe - just maybe - that says something good about our bodies. WE DO KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR US AND OUR BABIES. Maybe that's why people like you and I never fully dilated "on command".<br>
It sounds like your c-section was extremely easy compared to mine. (Physically) Remember not all births are the same, including c-section births. You could have a really rough one next time around. (Not to scare you, but mine was super painful.)<br>
Also, Because of higher incidence of maternal/fetal death with c-section, I would NEVER consider elective repeat CS. What if something happened to my baby during the surgery? What if I became one of the thousands of mothers a year who die because of c-sections? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I'm not trying to be a downer, here...but elective c-section is dangerous and unneccessary...risks to mom and baby can't be overlooked!<br>
I know you can birth a baby vaginally - how nature intended! I say go for it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Think how empowering it will be to push your child into the world! That is something truly wonderful.
 
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