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Hi Mama,<br><br>
For some reason this is really worrying me. Realistically it will take me 25 mins to get to the hospital from my home, we could do it faster but my dh's driving would give me a heart attack. Also when did you know that it was time to send kids to alternate caregiver?<br><br>
With dd 1, I spent way too many hours at the hospital. I'd like to avoid this next time but I can't get to the hospital in less than 25 minutes (possibly more if the weather is bad) w/o my dh giving me a heart problems from his crazy driving.<br><br>
With dd1 I seem recall that my contractions moved lower when i was 10 cm dialated and could have gone in to the hospital then with plenty of time to deliver bc I ended up pushing to 2 1/2 hours anyway. I hear things can go much faster with a second baby though.
 

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With my 1st (hospital birth), I left the house after about 12 hours light very early labor and 2 hours intense, can't talk <i>between</i> contractions (or through them!), no smiling between them, labor. Had baby 4 hours after getting to hospital (including 1 1/2hr pushing).<br><br>
2nd baby, freestanding birth center birth, as I was allready dialated, and had a possible 1 hour drive with traffic, we left after about 2 hours of cont. 5 min. apart, had baby 7 hours after arriving at birth center. We did get there too early, but my labor was getting quite active before leaving and in the car, but ended up stalling for a time after we got there. But it all worked out. Had I been in a hospital though, I definately would have run into some problems with my "stalling out" for a while. If I could do over again, I would wait till contractions were 4 min apart and 1 min long. And rely more on my emotional sign posts, which is what I did for my 1st.<br><br>
I have found my emotional signposts to be very accurate, much more accurate than my "dialation". I was only 3cm when I got to the hospital with my 1st, but was pushing 2 1/2 hrs later. And I was 5cm but in early labor with my 2nd. And I stayed 5cm until nearly the end.<br><br>
Good luck! Also, we dropped DS off at my mom's on our way the the birthing center (but it was right by her house). Can you caregiver come and pickup your kids? Or do you have to drop them somewhere?
 

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I was just reading about this somewhere last night, as it's also been on my mind. Can't remember what I was reading though... anyways, it was recommending that if you want to wait it out at home as long as possible to wait until you are in active labor - and to determine this not so much based on the clock but based on how you are handling things between contractions. It said to try doing an activity while you are in labor - like baking or knitting or something and when you get to the point that you can no longer concentrate on the task between contractions then you are in active labor and it's time to consider making your way to the hospital.<br><br>
I think I'm going to try that this time around - with my other births I went when contractions were 5 minutes apart like my OB recommends but I think that's too early for me - I end up laboring forever at the hospital.
 

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Glad you asked, my husband is so worried about this (and the BC is less than a mile away!) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lurk.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lurk">:
 

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A *general* indicator for when it's "time to go" is when you're not smiling or talkative anymore.<br><br>
The one caveat here (there always is one when you're talking about "general rules" for birth) is some women smile the whole way through. But they're the exceptions.<br><br>
Another measure is the 4-1-1 rule: contractions 4 mins. apart, lasting 1 min. for at least 1 hour. But if you have a fast labor, that'll come and go quick! Combine the general rule for timing with the general rule for behavior, and you've got about the best guidelines you can get. And trust that your mama's intuition will be in play too! Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I had my baby at home, but I went in to labor at my mom's during dinner. My water broke during dinner, actually. About 30 minutes later, I just got this complete urge, almost in desperation, to go home. I knew I had to be at home. If I were to have had my baby at the hospital, I would have still gone home, then waited for DH to come home from work, then we would have gone to the hospital together. I wouldn't have wanted to check in with my mom unless I had to! Anyway, I got home around 7:30, and I got into really active labor at around 8:30 and she was born just before 11.
 

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The hospital is 5 min away. We left when the contrax were between 2 and 3 min apart. After we got to the hospital, it was only 3.5 hours until dd was born. I don't think the signposts worked for me...I was still fine in between contrax...in fact, that continued the whole time.
 

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Since I was going to a birthcenter last time - and not the hospital - I didn't mind laboring there and didn't want to be in HARD labor for the drive (about 35 mintues) so we left when contractions were 4 min. apart. I labored at the bc for 4 hours before DD was born and it was actually really nice!<br><br>
cholderby - I see you are in Detroit, what BC are you going to? I delivered DD at the Providence ABC and it was great - Trish was my mw! (oh and I see you are having an Owen too!)
 

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How funny, that's <span style="text-decoration:underline;">exactly</span> where I'm going! Joan Lynn is my MW. Good to hear you had a good experience.
 

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Yep - It was awesome!! I actually delivered in the tub....oh it was great! I never met Joan, but Trish was fantastic! I heard it is all new now (DD was born 2.5 years ago) - so it should be even better for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I left when mt ctxs jumped from 6 mins to 3 mins all of a suddden and the ctxs started to reaaly bother me. We got to the hospital a littlve over an hour later and I was 5-6 cm. They jumped to 1 min apart at the hospital and Evan was born 3 hours later (12 hours after 1st ctx). Good luck!
 

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I am sooo not the authority on this, with my first we went to early, with my second too late. I'd choose too late anyday, though, FWIW.
 

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I'm worried about this too. My last one was born at home-2 hour labor. My first we transfered from home to hospital after 40 hours (he was born 10 hours later).<br><br>
I guess what I'm worried about is that we live almost 30 minutes from the hospital in no traffic or bad weather, but we only have one car, and my husband works almost an hour away. So if he leaves at the first contraction, and I have a 2 hour labor, that should give me about 20 minutes at the hospital, given there is no traffic.<br><br>
This is really bothering me. I'm really, seriously worried that I won't make it to the hospital in time. I don't care about having the baby at home- that would be fine. I just don't want to have it in the car or on the side of the freeway. I think I'm the only person in the world who doesn't want a fast labor!
 

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LOL. You are not the only one, I don't want a labor that's too fast either - I like to have some time to prepare for birth, me and my best friend (we are both pregnant with #4) agreee that a nice 6-8 hour labor would be PERFECT. Too bad we can't put in a request??<br><br>
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I went way too early with dd - A few hours after my water broke I called the midwife-on-call and she told me to come in because I was GBS+. I was definitely in early labor and shouldn't have been in the hospital, except for those pesky IV antibiotics. However, judging from my experience in the hospital, I would have known when to get into the car to get to the hospital and I would have HATED that ride!<br><br>
Next time I plan on waiting, but I guess it'll depend on my GBS status. I'm also trying to decide between a birthcenter and a homebirth for next time.<br><br>
Personally, I feel like if baby is coming that fast then I wouldn't mind having him/her at home, even if I was planning a hospital or birthcenter birth. I'd hate to have the baby in the car though. It's too bad we can't put in a request, or at least find out how long labor will be. :)<br><br>
Sorry, I guess that wasn't much help. Hopefully others gave/give better advice. Good luck!
 

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I guess what I'm worried about is that we live almost 30 minutes from the hospital in no traffic or bad weather, but we only have one car, and my husband works almost an hour away. So if he leaves at the first contraction, and I have a 2 hour labor, that should give me about 20 minutes at the hospital, given there is no traffic.<br><br>
This is really bothering me. I'm really, seriously worried that I won't make it to the hospital in time. I don't care about having the baby at home- that would be fine. I just don't want to have it in the car or on the side of the freeway. I think I'm the only person in the world who doesn't want a fast labor!</div>
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Hey! Someone in almost the exact same position as me! Thing is, many times I drive DH to work, so I'd actually have to drive out (or have someone drive out), pick him up, and come back home! I'm just hoping I go into labor on a day when he has the car, or when he's home, or when a relative of his is in the area.<br><br>
We might try to borrow a car from some relatives of ours - we know a couple people are going on vacation, maybe we could drive them to the airport or something. Maybe you could get a ride to the hospital?<br><br>
BTW - my DD ate some of my DH's medication once - a skeletal muscle relaxant, very dangerous - and I got her from Kaneohe to Kaiser Moanalua in under 5 minutes. If I'd have found a cop on the way we might have been in trouble <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> but you can really blaze it once you reach the H3, if that's where you're headed.
 

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I have to go from Kahaluu to Wahiawa. I timed it so I could get there in 18 minutes if there's no traffic <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> Of course, that is if we really blaze it!!!
 
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