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I so enjoyed reading RedOakMomma's response to Kelly's question on this week's spotlight page that I thought it might be fun to have a thread to share how we met our significant others.<br><br>
After all, for many of us, <i>they</i> are the ones who got us into this mess...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> and for <i>all</i> of us they are the ones helping us travel this amazing, incredible, hormone-filled journey! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
So...would anyone like to share?
 

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I have a good one. DH and I met at science camp when we were 16/17 years old. We're geeks like that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> DH said that the first time he saw me, I was running around screaming because I'd been bitten by bull ants. DH had huge sideburns, yellow tinged glasses and socks with his sandals. It was love at first sight! hehehe Six months later we started dating, and then ten years later we got married!
 

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DF and I met on DeviantART.com in a chat room devoted to trivia.<br><br>
Two fast typing nerds...<br><br>
and for the longest time we were just friends. We never thought of anything romantic between us, I was married and he was in a long-term relationship. Then we met... and as soon as I hugged him the first time in person there was just something there like... I know this is who Im supposed to be with.<br><br>
Which was hard because we met at the airport picking up my boyfriend (at this point the divorce had already started) and his long-term girlfriend.<br><br>
Talk about dilemma.<br><br>
So I ignored it. For two months, we stayed the very close friends we were until I finally broke and told him how I felt. A week later we met in person again and that was when we started dating... sitting in the stands at a Nascar race in Michigan that had been rained out... when he leaned over and kissed me. It took me by such complete surprise that his lips were on mine a good few seconds before my brain started shouting KISS BACK YOU IDIOT.<br><br>
And that... was our first kiss... and the last time he ever surprised me lol.<br><br>
Since then we have had a very tough time living 400 miles apart, 4000 miles apart, 1100 miles apart, half a world apart and then 1100 miles apart again.<br><br>
That 400 miles seems almost like paradise now. In just over a month we will be together again... And finally able to get married and move in together.
 

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We were both in the trumpet section of the University of Michigan marching band, and it was band week - the week before school our freshman year when the band practices all day every day to get ready for the football season.<br><br>
His sheet music blew away in the wind, someone handed it back to me, and when he came over to get it from me, my brain just said, "Him." He told me I couldn't possibly march with the cornet I had, and he had a trumpet I could borrow, so I should come to his room to get it. Or, has since been translated for me, "Come up to my room and see my big instrument." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
I was still technically with my high school boyfriend (though he was back home 250 miles away, so we didn't see each other at all), and DH started dating someone in the dorm right when school started, but we became good friends because we had the marching band connection and were both in engineering school.<br><br>
The whole first semester we stayed just friends, though I broke up with my boyfriend when I went home for Thanksgiving because I knew for sure DH and I would get together at some point. Shortly after Christmas his girlfriend broke up with him, and not long after that we were somehow kissing when we had just been watching TV together a moment before. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
That was 16+ years ago, and we'll celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary this month. It's been an amazing time so far, and we can't wait to jump into parenthood together!
 

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I met my husband for the first time in 8th grade, but we didn't really start talking until 10th grade American History class. He sat in front of me and I was constantly harrassing him. He had long hair and I would pull his hair, kick his chair, etc. After a few months of this he asked me to a movie, The Good Son, of all things, and we started dating. We dated for a few months but then broke up, the way high school things go. We were in the same group of friends and spent alot of time hanging out together. But one of us was always dating someone else. We ended up getting back together fall of our senior year and stayed together through our sophomore year in college (at MSU- we're Michigan people too!). We broke up for another year or so and dated other people. At the end of our Senior year we got back together and ended up getting engaged about a year later, then married a year after that, September 2002. We'll celebrate our 8th anniversary shortly after baby arrives! It's been an eventful 8 years!
 

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Aww, everyone's stories are so cute! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Before I met DH, I was good friends with his sister in middle school. My freshman year (his junior) we started dating and have been together since. We got married shortly after he finished his bachelors. Our 2nd anniversary is in July, and we will have been together for 9 years at the end of November. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partners.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="couple">
 

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DH and I met at an indie video store (that is now a dentist's office) I was in line ahead of him and he heard me give my phone number to the clerk-phone=account number there-when I was checking out...a day later I came home to find a message on my answering machine "Hi, I got your number at the video store...I was behind you in line. You're beautiful and I'd like to take you out for coffee sometime" with his number included. I was shocked but flattered and remembered the cute guy behind me in line, called him, met him at a local coffee shop; we stayed there until closing, and have been inseparable ever since. We've been together for 6 years and married for 4 1/2 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> He's the total love of my life-two geeks in a pod <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">!
 

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We met in high school. He was a senior and I was a junior and, even though we had a lot of the same friends, we didn't know each other. Then we both got cast in the school play. Our first date was to pick out his tux for prom, which he asked me to go to with him. I think it was the longest date I've ever been on; he picked me up at 1 pm and didn't bring me home until 11:30 (which was my curfew).<br><br>
We've been together ever since. A lot of our early relationship was long distance (he went off to college, then I went to a different college and he transfered to be closer to me, then he went to basic training), but we made it work. We have been together for 10 years and will be married for 7 years this upcoming June. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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wow, darkblue- that's a TOTAL stalker move!<br><br>
My husband and I met when he was hit by a car.<br>
I was living in DC at the time and had come to Chicago for a bicycle street race with about 12 other friends. Since part of the game is knowing your way around town, and I didn't, I always introduced myself to folks and made a note of locals. I'd make mental notes like-- bright orange bike, blue bag, local.<br>
After the first checkpoint I spotted the orange bike and blue bag turning right while everyone else went straight, so I followed. Three blocks later, a car making a left turn through stopped traffic t-boned the orange bike, throwing the rider over the hood and sending the bike airborne. I'd done enough riding in DC traffic to know what to do, so I jumped on the hood of the about-to-leave-the-scene car and dialed 911, worried about the rider still knocked out and laying in the street. The rider came to a few minutes later, just as I was talking to police dispatch. He was livid and started shouting at the driver. I told him to sit on the curb.<br>
Everyone and everything was oK except the orange bike, so we took a police report and the driver's insurance info. The rider got my number for insurance purposes.<br>
About 6 mos later for unrelated reasons I moved to Chicago and knowing nobody else, called that rider up. I crashed at his house for a weekend, and by sunday night we were making out on the couch. Yadda yadda. I was 28, he was 25.
 

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Wow...that's some story! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"><br><br>
...funny how many of us met our partners early in life...lots of college and high school partnerships here...
 

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DH is from Boston, I'm from Chicago. We met while we were working at a manor in Ireland in the summer of 1999.<br>
He had just finished culinary school and had applied specifically to work in the hotel restaurant. On my college graduation day, I saw an ad for a work-aborad program and randomly ended up there (I was originally supposed to be in Scotland).<br>
Our stays overlapped by 3 months and we were friends since day 1 - but neither one of us wanted to date an American. So it was not until about 10 days before I left for Scotland that the romance bloomed, and it was thanks to the meddling of our Irish friend who was sick of watching the sparks go nowhere.<br>
We thought it was just a fling, and that the romance ended that summer. But we kept in touch, and I went to visit him for the 4th of July 2000. I booked my flight in March, and by the time we saw each other we were a couple officially. I flew back every month for 3 months, and my 4th trip was to move. We've hardly spent a day apart since.
 

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Oh, I love these stories! It *is* funny how many folks seem to have met their partners early in life....<br><br>
I guess I should share mine, huh?<br><br>
I met DH junior year of college. We lived in the same dorm, but didn't like each other at first--I thought he was this big, scary (but cute!) guy, and he thought I was a stuck-up (but cute!) bitch.<br><br>
One night at a party I noticed he had completely shaven his head. Armed with some liquid courage, I started talking to him...and ended up having to put him to bed because he had had *just* a little too much to drink that night! We started hanging out all of the time after that...often until 3 or 4 in the morning. (How I didn't flunk that semester, I'll never know.) I knew he was *the one* when not long after we had started hanging out I got the stomach flu, and all I wanted was for him to take care of me...and he did.<br><br>
We've been together almost 12 years (as of this July) and married almost 7 years (this October). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I've been extremely close to my DH's husband since before I knew him. My two BFFs are sisters and we have been besties for about 8 years. I'd met him very briefly a couple of times during family gatherings (their family, I was basically considered extended family by all at that point lol) but we never really talked. I was married and had a baby at the time. He ended up moving to Wyoming and I hadn't seen him in years.<br><br>
About a year after my divorce, he had come out to California for the winter and since he is super close to his cousins, we were all hanging out together. One night we all went to a pub and my friend made a joke that I just needed to make out with someone (I'd been divorced for about a year after a terrible 5 year marriage and had not dated anyone since). He had a couple of drinks in him and was like, "I'll make out with you". I jokingly said "oh yeah sure" but he took that as a yes and, what can I say? So we made out that night and again a couple of nights later.<br><br>
He called me the day after that and asked me out but I couldn't get a babysitter. He called a few more times and each time I couldn't go, but finally I was able to. We hung out pretty much every day since that first date for a couple of months until he had to go back to Wyoming. I didn't expect the relationship to continue after that, but he asked me to consider it and I couldn't say no. I was completely head over heels for him, it was like I had found my other half. I didn't even know that kind of relationship was possible. We got married about 6 months later and I fall more in love every day. We will celebrate our 3rd anniversary in August <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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DH and I officially met at a wedding.<br><br>
We went to the same college and had a lot of common friends, so we knew each other well enough to say hello. But he was a few years older, and both of us were in relationships.<br><br>
Fast-forward several years: my (guy) BFF who was frat brothers with DH invited me to be his date for a wedding of another frat brother. He figured it would be easy to take me since I would know everyone and wouldn't impede his fun. DH was the first person I saw when we walked in, and he raced through his dinner to move to our table. He even almost got into a fight with the bride's brother over me that night! He claims we kissed goodnight in the hallway outside my hotel room; I don't remember it that way.<br><br>
It took me a month and a half to agree to a first date since he lived far away, and he wanted me to come to him. We ended up having an awesome time and dating all that summer. But we broke up for a lot of reasons, not the least of which that I was a basketcase--I had just lost my job, my parents were in the midst of an ugly divorce, and I wasn't too terribly far out of a broken engagement with one of his fraternity brothers. We did leave things on good terms.<br><br>
Six months later, on the heels of a messy breakup (mine), I emailed him. He responded. Quickly. He said that he missed me and wanted me back, that every girl he'd dated since was compared to me and didn't measure up. That was in March. By April, we were together, and in July he asked me to move in with him. I finished grad school and moved in December; we got engaged that May.<br><br>
We've been together 7 years and married for 5.
 

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We met at a party. I had a vision of marrying him while I was being introduced and shaking his hand, so that was weird, but other than that it was a normal way to meet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
What still irks me to this day is that both our MOH and best man's speeches said that we met in a club. Not that there's anything wrong with meeting in a club, but we didn't! I still wish I would have stood up after their speeches and made my own saying, "By the way, here's the real story!"
 

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I met my husband at a bar for a mutual friend's birthday. I saw him and immediately told our mutual friend that he could pass on my number to the hunky guy with the big shoulders. LOL. He did and that hunky guy ended up driving me home that night and taking me out for a first date later that week. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
We ended up moving out together 4 months later. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> He proposed after 6 months of living together. I got pregnant 6 months after that and we ended up tying the knot when I was 8 months pregnant with our first baby. 7 years later, and 4 kids, and we're happy as pigs in sh*t still!<br><br>
And to think, when we first started dating he didn't think he wanted kids. He sure changed his tune! Just the other day he was saying that if 4 is our plan then he'd better get snipped soon because it just keeps getting easier to add more kids to our family and he can see us trying to cram 9 or 10 into our small home. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<span>I just love all your stories!<br><br>
I love the video store one--that was some guts he has!<br><br>
DH and I met at church through a group of mutual friends. We all started hanging out together--were friends for a year, finally admitted we were crushing on each other, dated for a year, engaged five months, married in 2002 and now we're expecting #4.<br><br>
We better watch out or this could turn into something serious! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
AnneCordelia--How are you making easier to add children? Sometimes I feel like I head up a daycare...and my head is spinning. That's probably a topic for another thread, but I'd still really like to know!</span>
 

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These are amazing stories! Mine is pretty boring. I met DH on Match.com. It took him a few days to decide whether he wanted to pay the $24 to join to read my email. At the time I didn't have a picture on there and he had recently quit the service but his profile was still up. Luckily he decided to take a chance and risk the $24.
 

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my MIL (whom doesn't exactly like me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) introduced us at our place of worship.<br>
I had just moved to town with my family (I had *just* turned 16) and she was introducing me around to all the people in the local congregation. the last person she introduced me to was a guy about 2 yrs older than me, my height (5'5) with black hair and stunning nearblack eyes - her son. It was an off-hand intro but our eyes locked and both of us stumbled over attempts at small talk. He was 18, and like me was 4 months out from graduating High school. So even 2 yrs apart we graduated the same year.<br>
We only saw each other in person at our religious meetings for the next 4 months, and it was always just laid back "hello", "what you been up to" "oh yeah? thats cool." kinda stuff. but we always made an effort to talk to each other.<br>
In May his family threw a huge graduation party for him, and I went. We talked ALOT all night, but he didn't dance with me untill the very last song. I found out later he had made all the mix CD's for the dancing that night (this was 1997) and had chosen the last song with the plan to dance it with me.<br>
We didn;t see each other untill August becasue he took a trip out of state and then I took a trip out of state. As soon as we saw each other in Aug. he asked me out.<br>
We talked daily (most of the time untill 2 or 3am, and we were both working FT jobs) on the phone, went out every friday & sat. and 1 month later exactly in Sept he asked me to marry him.<br>
I said yes, and from that point on we were commited. We had a joint bank account, made all our decisions together and planned for our wedding. (and we each lived in our parents homes.. I was only 16.5. )<br>
I turned 18 in Dec. 1998 and we were married in Jan 1999 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
So now we've been married 11years, and have 3 beautiful girls ages 6, 4, and 1.5. Baby #4 will complete our little picture. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I have to say I feel I married my absolute best friend. There is no one I talk to more, no one who knows more about me than him. I've been very happy, an feel very blessed.
 

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I was also amazed at how many of us met our dh's when we were still pretty young. I see 15yo now and shake my head...because that's how old I was.<br><br>
We met at summer camp, too, and just had a lot to talk about. He lived in another state, though, and I figured it was a "camp thing", and that was that. I mean, we'd only known each other a week. He wrote a few letters. And then two months later he called. My church was having a revival, and he wanted to know if it would be okay if he came. Uhm, yeah. So, he did. And by the end of that awkward evening, it was pretty much a done deal. At least that was obvious on his end. He came again in December, and then I went to his parents' house in January. By the end of Spring, he'd laid out his plans quite clearly, and he started making a trip to see me once a month. So, I would go there once a month, and he'd come to my house two weeks later. We wrote letters, and talked on the phone, and when I was 19, we got married. It was just always right for us to be together. It was just a given for so long. Even the way we talked about things and to each other wasn't a boyfriend/girlfriend high-school thing. I remember when he came to see me that first December. After the study he had gone outside for some reason, and I was visiting with people. As I was going out of the church building, he met me at the door. He opened the door for me, and and when I looked up at him, I realized that this was not a game. He didn't look like a boy at all (he was almost 17). His expression, and the way his eyes caught mine told me that he was not messing around. It took my breath away, and still gives me shivers when I think about it.
 
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