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I have two small children. We have two neighbours on either side and neighbours behind us. Our neighbours on one side (behind) have a fence and an inground pool. But to allow their children through they put a gate and latch to get through to our neighbours yard. The new neighbours behind us broke the fence between us so their children can cut through our yard to get to school and bike ride, but opening our yard to a busy street. Our other neighbour bought a large, friendly, jumpy dog...which has knocked over my kids. I have finally talked my hubbie into building a fence (when we came home on Sunday and 10 kids were riding bikes through our yard (and garden).<br><br>
He is nervous about ticking off the neighbours.....how do I tell them?<br><br><br>
UPDATE: I talked to both neighbours on either side. They are okay with a fence. I haven't talked to the neighbour behind...the one that broke the fence, allows their dog in our yard (he poops in it too), and lets their children to cut through our yard (both on foot and on bike). I think they will like the surprise...just like they surprised us!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Uhhh, you don't have an obligation to tell your neighbors you are building a fence. As long as you have your permit and it is legal then it's none of their business.
 

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Honestly, in this case... I just start building. Be sure to make your latches high so their kids can't get in. If anyone says anything.. you might say the big dogs make so and so nervous. Your child needs to be able to play outside without worrying about that.
 

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Remember that you might have easement issues and have to have your fence a certain distance inside your land. Of course, in that case your neighbors were supposed to do that too. If they did, then they'll have tons of room to move, if they didn't, sucks to be them.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Remember that you might have easement issues and have to have your fence a certain distance inside your land. Of course, in that case your neighbors were supposed to do that too. If they did, then they'll have tons of room to move, if they didn't, sucks to be them.</div>
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Where I live, fences can be right on the property line. I've built fences at three house now and I always give a few inches to the neighbor, just to be decent.
 

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Get your permits in order and just start building! It's not a neighborhood decision. Were you consulted when the neighbors decided to open up their fence and therefore your yard?
 

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I wouldn't tell them anything, I'd just start building.
 

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Ha! Good one.<br><br>
I would make sure you get all your ducks in a row (permits, know your setbacks or whatever) and just do it.<br><br>
One thing I would strongly suggest is make sure you know your property lines and legal placement of your new fence. This caused a problem with our neighbors.<br><br>
We were totally fine when they said about their fence, in fact we were rather excited and talked about joining to their post in the back and using the same style of fencing to go along the back of our yard.<br><br>
Well the day came when the contractor starting putting up the fence and I could immediately tell, they had no clue about their property line, the fence was many feet on to our property. Old town, irregularly shaped lots - the neighbors wanted a nice neat square fence area but their property line was irregular.<br><br>
I strongly suggested they stop until I could show them the boundaries. This really annoyed the neighbors. We ended up getting a surveyor to prove our line, which really "messed up" the neigbhor's plans for their garden. It eventually all blew over but they were really annoyed at us for a while because we didn't just let them infringe on our lot so they could have the fence line they wanted.
 

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No need to break it to them -- they'll figure it out once they see the fence. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I agree with those who said to have a survey done and make sure you check your local laws -- fences can be expensive, and you don't want to end up having to take it down and move it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">How did your neighbors tell you that they were going to let their kids and dogs violate your yard boundaries?</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Where I live, fences can be right on the property line. I've built fences at three house now and I always give a few inches to the neighbor, just to be decent.</div>
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Could be the case, it's just better to check, especially when you know that the neighbors are going to be annoyed. If you're following the law, they can't do anything.
 

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Hmm, I guess it depends on how well you know the neighbors. If you're friendly beyond saying "hey" when you're out getting the mail, I'd just mention it casually in a conversation that you're putting up a fence because of safety and privacy concerns... just because I'd want to keep up good relations if it were me.<br><br>
If you don't normally converse on a semi-regular basis, then I'd just do it.
 

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I would tell them I was putting up a fence for the safety of my own children. You say your children are small, so if they are not there already you will eventually want to leave them outside on their own for a while. No one can really argue with this, and you don't have to discuss anything else unless you want to.<br><br>
I have also been on the other side of the fence, so to speak. When our new neighbors moved in about 5 years ago, they built a GIANT fence that you can't see over or under. They are well within their rights to do so, but the rest of us are left to wonder "what in the world did we do?". I would have appreciated a comment, even "we really love our privacy". It really threw the neighborhood for a loop.
 

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True, you are not OBLIGED to tell your neighbors anything but in the pursuit of neighborliness I would try to be considerate and tell them. If you want people to act neighborly towards you then you need to act neighborly towards them. Yes, your neighbors made an an opening in the fence but do you think they did so with malignant intent? I would not assume the worst unless you have a reason to do so. Personally I would give everyone the benefit of the doubt and try to be honest and friendly with them. If they get annoyed, well at least they can't say they weren't warned.
 

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You don't HAVE to tell them. You do have to get a permit and they could appeal it but you don't have to ask or tell them.<br><br>
We are getting a fence...we have our permit and it's been approved and now we have to wait 15 days in case a neighbor complains...if not we can put up our fence.<br><br>
Our reason is so that our ds will stay in the back yard with no fear of him running off (we also live on a busy street).<br><br>
We are putting up our fence in our land not right up to the boundry line...that way there really would be no excuse for an appeal...the neighbors are essentially gaining a few inches of land.
 

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I wouldnt tell just start building. I am so happy that we dont have to deal with permits and stuff when we decide what to do with the land WE are paying for.
 

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I'd just put up the fence... and I'd definetl do it right on my property line unless their were laws against that (though I've never heard of such). If you put it up anywhere but right on the line, your essentially forfetting/giving away land to your neighbors. And that doesn't make *any* sense!!<br><br>
Although, around here at least, if you want a fence your neighbors are supposed to pay half, as your supposed to put it *on* the line, thus ,aking it both of yours...
 

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And if you don't put it right on the property line you could run into trouble when you go to sell the house in the future. I know if I'm buying property I want all of what I'm paying for, not all minus a few feet because someone put a fence in the wrong spot.
 

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I remember one of our neighbors growing up asking about trimming the hedge so they could build a fence. It was more of a we'll be coming into your yard for a bit, but other than that it's your choice, yk?
 
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