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We're in the process of switching to CD's. I don't mind diaper duty, but sometimes its convienient to have DH do it. Bur he whines and complains so much - I don't know if I can take it!<br><br>
When he changes DD I tell him he can put a sposie on (don't own enough CD's yet for exclusive CDing yet) He says he hates like getting his fingers wet taking the fitted off. He made me feel terrible this morning saying "This wetness is against her skin all night!". I don't see how it feels any worse than a wet sposie but DH has never touched the wet part of one.<br><br>
He also complains about waking up in the morning to the stink of a wet CD (we co-sleep). I don't notice smell as much as with a wet disposable.<br><br>
I even told him if we switch to CD's he doesn't have to deal with the poopie ones. I think that's a pretty good deal as changing poopy sposies makes him gag since DD started solids.<br><br>
Anyone had suggestions how to convince him? Or have links to convincing articles with benefits for baby and environment?
 

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I think you need to tell your dh to toughen up a little bit, its just baby pee for goodness sakes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> He needs to wash his hands anyway after he changes the diaper sposie or cloth. A little baby pee won't kill him.<br><br>
If you have kids you are going to occasionally come into contact with some of thier bodily fluids, pee, poop, saliva, spitup, vomit, etc. It's all part of parenthood.<br><br>
If he's concerned about the wetness overnight, maybe use a microfleece lined pocket for night time.<br><br>
Most people think soaking wet sposies stink worse than cloth so I don't know about that one.<br><br>
I think most Dads are more influence by $$ than environmental concerns. So don't forget to show him the huge cost savings with cd, especially if you use them to diaper more than one child, its an incredible savings. And if you can sell them after your done you can make back about 50% or more of your investment.<br><br>
Here's a link<br><a href="http://www.diaperpin.com/calculator/calculator.asp" target="_blank">http://www.diaperpin.com/calculator/calculator.asp</a>
 

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That sounds alot like us when we got started. When I was still using disposables because I didn't have enough CDs my husband always used the disposables. I actually agree with your husband about the wet fingers and how wet the diaper is against her skin with fitteds. I do think disposables feel drier when wet. That is why we use a disposable at night and the bumGenius OS during the day. The bG feels drier against baby's skin and you don't get wet fingers when changing. By using those my husband started participating because they go on like a disposable. I just make sure I always have some stuffed and ready to go for him. He doesn't do poopy either. He'll change it and set it aside for me to take care of later. I don't mind...I'm just glad he's doing it at all! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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You've gotten some good advice already--I'd say try a fleece lined diaper for overnight--I'd recommend a pocket like BG or FBs, or if you do wool, a FCB nightlight which is also a pocket-style, lined in fleece, but without PUL outer. Or try Holden's Landing Bedbugs--a superabsorbant nighttime fitted that is lined with fleece for stay dry feeling.<br><br>
And for convincing him--yes, I think going the $$$$ argument is the best. Figure out how much you are paying per sposie and each time he wants to use one, that money is GONE, down the drain. Whereas with CD, you can usually recoup via resale, or use on future babes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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What is an FCB nightlight and where do you find them and the Holden's Landing Bedbugs?
 

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And if $$ is an issue, like it is for us, cheap fleece strips (I bought some of the leftovers cheap from Wal-Mart and cut it myself...about 12in long and 4in wide) laid in the dipe work just as well!
 

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Here are very convincing <a href="http://www.realdiaperassociation.org/diaperfacts.php" target="_blank">diaper facts</a> from the <a href="http://www.realdiaperassociation.org" target="_blank">Real Diaper Association</a> (non-profit).<br>
So many dads are hesitant to do cds and then they learn how much better it is for their baby and how easy it really can be. It is no big deal, babies have been wearing cloth diapers 4-ever! Keep it simple <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
Sposies can cost $100/month or $3,000 per baby until potty learning. And every baby in 100% sposies contributes 1 TON of landfill waste. Yep, that's every single baby = 1 ton of non-decomposing garbage.<br><br>
Part time cloth is better than no cloth. Every time you use a cloth diaper that is one less piece of garbage/human waste in the landfill and a few hours when your baby doesn't have plastic/chemicals on their bum.
 

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After many, many nighttime leakage problems (once baby started sleeping longer stretches he was soaking through the hemp fitted, the PUL cover, his sleeper AND the sheets!!!) we compromised... sposies at night, cloth during the day.<br><br>
Now if only we could solve the nighttime poop blowouts... they only ever happen in sposies... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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Some great advise<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Thanks all!<br><br>
I do have a fleece lined pocket diaper that works better for ON, feels dryer to the touch than the fitted. I tried a fitted last night because I wanted to see how it would work. Now I know, not the best choice. Of course this was the one morning that DH decided to change her. He usually leaves the morning change to me. Then he feels the wetness starts complaining about how awful CD's are.<br><br>
I think you need to tell your dh to toughen up a little bit, its just baby pee for goodness sakes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br>
My thoughts exactly!<br><br>
Also thanks for the cost calculator link. That should help to show that CD's really do save money. I was wondering how I'd convince him. When he does the on-line banking he sees the CD expenses as PayPal payments. He just thinks I've been wasting money on on-line shopping<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">. But the disposable expenses are just part of grocery store debit purchases so he doesn't see how much they cost.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Here are very convincing <a href="http://www.realdiaperassociation.org/diaperfacts.php" target="_blank">diaper facts</a> from the <a href="http://www.realdiaperassociation.org" target="_blank">Real Diaper Association</a> (non-profit).<br>
So many dads are hesitant to do cds and then they learn how much better it is for their baby and how easy it really can be. It is no big deal, babies have been wearing cloth diapers 4-ever! Keep it simple <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
Sposies can cost $100/month or $3,000 per baby until potty learning. And every baby in 100% sposies contributes 1 TON of landfill waste. Yep, that's every single baby = 1 ton of non-decomposing garbage.<br><br>
Part time cloth is better than no cloth. Every time you use a cloth diaper that is one less piece of garbage/human waste in the landfill and a few hours when your baby doesn't have plastic/chemicals on their bum.</div>
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Exactly the type of facts I was looking for<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">Thanks! I didn't know about the carcinogenic chemicals. Scary.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2">. Anybody know if Canada is one of the counties where dioxin is banned?
 

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I was at one of the big box baby stores the other day and I saw a box of "diaper changing gloves" (they were just regular rubber gloves). I thought it was a little silly when I saw it but I can see it perhaps being useful in this situation. At least as a transitional thing? In the long run, of course, it's silly to trade one disposable thing for another. But maybe it will help get him over the hump.
 

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We're in the process of switching to CD's. I don't mind diaper duty, but sometimes its convienient to have DH do it. Bur he whines and complains so much - I don't know if I can take it!<br><br>
When he changes DD I tell him he can put a sposie on (don't own enough CD's yet for exclusive CDing yet) He says he hates like getting his fingers wet taking the fitted off. He made me feel terrible this morning saying "This wetness is against her skin all night!". I don't see how it feels any worse than a wet sposie but DH has never touched the wet part of one.<br><br>
He also complains about waking up in the morning to the stink of a wet CD (we co-sleep). I don't notice smell as much as with a wet disposable.<br><br>
I even told him if we switch to CD's he doesn't have to deal with the poopie ones. I think that's a pretty good deal as changing poopy sposies makes him gag since DD started solids.<br><br>
Anyone had suggestions how to convince him? Or have links to convincing articles with benefits for baby and environment?</div>
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Show him the savings. I believe the stats are you spend anywhere from $300 to $500 in cloth diapers which can be used on several babies verses $2,500 to $3,500 on disposibles over the time your baby is in diapers and that is with EACH baby, you can't reuse them : )<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">What is an FCB nightlight and where do you find them and the Holden's Landing Bedbugs?</div>
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just saw this question now-- Holden's Landing has a shop on hyenacart.com, if they are not in stock try emailing Bonnie she was super nice when i did. FCB nightlight are made by fluffymail.com, though I think they only sell on etsy now (should be a link on their website). Once again, I would email them to see when they might stock the night diapers, if you are interested. Or you can look/ask around on the hyenacart boards, the folks there love to talk WAHM diapers, lol! That's where I picked up the recommendation to try these kinds. GL!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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All of the above are good suggestions. I would say, though, remember that he does get a vote. Not that you shouldn't give him ALL of the information and make the best case you can (including the fact that it's important to you!), but you know, if it's a total crisis for him, you could CD during the day and use a sposie at night. Just because you disagree doesn't mean that you necessarily win, you know what I mean? There are lots of compromise possibilities on this and maybe if you do he'll get used to the cloth and come around on his own.
 

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When we started dh used bg os's completely and that was fine with me. Seemed easier to him, so I was able to ease him in that way <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Now, over a year later, he does fitteds, covers and wool, too! (and poopy diapers) I'd say whatever he likes buy him a few of those just for him that way he'll be comfortable with it too. Good luck!
 
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